Cuddling?

Lallymom · January 2014

Does your LO cuddle? My baby has always been a stubborn little man. Loves to be held and wrestle. Talking and understanding and listening. But when daddy or I ask for a kiss or hug he turns and says no. He is 19 months. Cuddles near bedtime, but not when asked. On occasion he will give kisses to everyone in the room when asked. NAND always with stuffed animals or puppy. Anyone else have this?

Lallymom · January 2014

LO is kissed and hugged all day long by us. Constructive comments is what I was looking for. Thanks. For nothing.

jnnfrrose6 · January 2014

My DS doesn't like to be held or "cuddle" either. He'll blow kisses if we do it first, and he will come give us a hug around our legs, but that's usually when we're picking him up from DC and he hasn't seen us all day. I made it a point for DS to be able to go to sleep without me holding him, so I think that may have something to do with it. Occasionally he'll sit in my lap and I can run my fingers through his hair for a few minutes, but that's usually before he goes to bed, so I know he's pretty much worn out from the day. Otherwise, he's just to on the go all the time to care. Sometimes it's tough (especially when I see other people talking about their LOs being "more" affectionate), but from what I've heard, once they're a little older, little boys love to cuddle with mom, so that's what I'm counting on. Also, I love the fact that DS is independent and doesn't need me holding him or rocking him or just near him all.the.time. Pretty sure I'd go crazy if that were the case.

ashiscute · January 2014

I'm confused as to what you are looking for. Why should your child stop what they are doing and hug and kiss you whenever you want? Kids don't understand being rude so he is probably doing what comes naturally to him. It's probably not anything you do or don't do.

My LO loves to cuddle. He is not quite 16 mos and hugs all day long. His sister isn't like that and I don't hug him more. People just have different personalities.

eyenigh · January 2014

Give him some time, it'll become more consistent. My son likes to be hugged/kissed and to hang out in my lap on the couch but he doesn't toss out his hugs and kisses like candy. Many days he loves his stuffed animals more than me.

Like someone else said, nobody loves to kiss on demand every single time and kids this age are so busy that they don't want to stop for something that they don't find anywhere near as fun as a truck or a train. Once they understand more about loving and kissing, I'd expect it to have a different meaning to them and expressed accordingly. I would also assume that they'll use it to manipulate us, too!

vrj0522 · January 2014

Lallymom said:

LO is kissed and hugged all day long by us. Constructive comments is what I was looking for. Thanks. For nothing.

Constructive as in no, my LO is just like yours? She was simply answering your question and telling you what she thinks has worked for her son.

Anyway, DS can be cuddly but it is always on his terms.

Lallymom · January 2014

This is my first. All I was asking is if this is normal. Not sure why people have to be so judgemental

ashiscute · January 2014

Lallymom said:

This is my first. All I was asking is if this is normal. Not sure why people have to be so judgemental

It's odd that you would be surprised at people being judgmental when you had a snarky reply for the first person who answered your question.

I thought everyone was helpful. The bottom line is kids are kids and there is a wide range of normal. Your LO sounds perfectly normal to me.

zbeesma86 · January 2014

DD will cuddle at night or when she isn't feeling well (teething or has a cold).

She will sometimes give kisses and hugs- but usually she is too busy playing so when I ask she looks at me like, 'ma, I'm busy!'

sunnyday016 · January 2014

DS is affectionate in that he loves to give hugs & kisses but he is most definitely NOT a cuddler. He never has been really. I can remember back when he was a baby (maybe about 6 months old?) and trying to rock him to sleep and wondering what the heck was wrong with him because he would just NOT relax his body in my arms. He's just not one to cuddle!

Scorpgirl444 · January 2014

Both of mine are super cuddly. DD comes to sit in my lap and just watch tv. DS is always standing by my side. Both give me hugs after diaper changes. DS comes over and gives me random kisses with a big *muah*. He does the noise every time. :-) He also will give multiple kisses at a time. DD gives kisses by giving you her forehead. lol

Zimger · January 2014

Not everyone is cuddly. It sometimes has to do with personality. Maybe he just wants to cuddle on his own terms (most people do). I don't know of to many people that would care to "cuddle on demand". I wouldn't force it.

My DS is cuddly but it's always on his own terms. He won't stop what he is doing just to snuggle (unless he is tired or doesn't feel well). If he is busy I just let him be.