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Babies Ruin Bodies

If you're feeling anxious about gaining the weight (and trying to lose it later). Read this. Cry. Cry a lot...

Me: 28 yrs old, diagnosed anovulation   Dh: Perfectly Healthy
Married in 2008, together 7 years
TTC since 8/2011
4/2012 tried 1st round of Clomid @ 50mgs, BFN
11/2012 tried 2nd round of Clomid @ 50mgs
BFP on 12/16!!

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  • Saw this on fb ut was so sweet!

    Started TTC in 2006, LOTS of trying, and trying, and 7 rounds of IVF with 13 embryos, 2 perfect little boys and 5 loses....
    All finished with babies, started to make diet changes, Keto, to be MORE for my kids, lost 30 pounds, still going, and 3 months in, I had a natural cycle, and then ovulated... Hubs and I are going to see what happens now... Maybe a natural pregnancy? After everything we have been through? Or just a return to normal hormones? We shall see what the future holds!

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  • Empireceo said:
    This is on par with the "marriage is not for you" article, which is to say self-important and gag-worthy.
    I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought the "marriage is not for you" article was terrible.  My fiance's mom posted it on both of our Facebook walls and it was hard to bite my tongue.

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  • LOL that someone flagged this. Yes, I am moving on from yesterday. I would suggest that others do as well. Due to the many "love its" that this got I am assuming many women enjoyed the article as I did. 

    Gaining weight during pregnancy is the cause of much anxiety for many pregnant women. And ending this stigma that having a baby will "ruin your body" was the main focus of the article. I didn't write it so I cannot stand up for the quality of the writing. It resonated with me and with the hundreds of women who left comments thanking the writer. I think it was beautiful and I enjoyed it very much, photos and all. I shared it because it moved me. I am glad so many of you enjoyed it! 
    Me: 28 yrs old, diagnosed anovulation   Dh: Perfectly Healthy
    Married in 2008, together 7 years
    TTC since 8/2011
    4/2012 tried 1st round of Clomid @ 50mgs, BFN
    11/2012 tried 2nd round of Clomid @ 50mgs
    BFP on 12/16!!

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  • Empireceo said:

    This is on par with the "marriage is not for you" article, which is to say self-important and gag-worthy.

    I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought the "marriage is not for you" article was terrible.  My fiance's mom posted it on both of our Facebook walls and it was hard to bite my tongue.


    Not sure if it will quote since I am on my phone, but how nice of her. I would've had to bite my tongue too. Lol. I remember when it was EVERYWHERE on Facebook. I still see it occasionally.
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  • 111emd said:
    LOL that someone flagged this. Yes, I am moving on from yesterday. I would suggest that others do as well. Due to the many "love its" that this got I am assuming many women enjoyed the article as I did. 

    Gaining weight during pregnancy is the cause of much anxiety for many pregnant women. And ending this stigma that having a baby will "ruin your body" was the main focus of the article. I didn't write it so I cannot stand up for the quality of the writing. It resonated with me and with the hundreds of women who left comments thanking the writer. I think it was beautiful and I enjoyed it very much, photos and all. I shared it because it moved me. I am glad so many of you enjoyed it! 
    Not going to happen. 

    The article is fucking atrocious. It's horribly written and is as shitty as all the "thin spo" crap that is out there. It's written by a self absorbed 21 year old that can't grasp how her words hurt other people. Probably why you like it- you have the same selfish "me first, fuck everyone else" immature mentality. 

    Grow the fuck up and get some serious mental help. Parenting is going to be an awful experience for you or growing up is going to be awful for your child when they realize they are more mature than you at 5. 

    I was hoping someone was going to point out that this 21 year old knows *soo* much about how all these things change her body... and she has gray hair?!?  Seriously?!  Wait 'til you're knocked up at 30+ and know that you have little/no chance of regaining your pre-baby body to write about it... Pretty sure the baby in those pics is not 1 year... just sayin.
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  • OP is now trying to recruit people into a Facebook group she made. [-(

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  • OP is now trying to recruit people into a Facebook group she made. [-(
    LINK!!!!
    http://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12218001/pregnant-in-california#latest
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  • She posted one on a local board as well.

  • Whyyyyyyy didn't I come to this board when I was on bed rest last pregnancy? The entertainment never ends.
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  • Sorry but skinny girls winning about a few stretch marks showing off bellies is NMS. Thyroid cancer ruined my body so I don't want to hear skinny people wahwah about a few marks.

    I'm pretty sure all types if woman whine about stretch marks. Not just "skinny people"

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  • car seat said:
    Sorry but skinny girls winning about a few stretch marks showing off bellies is NMS. Thyroid cancer ruined my body so I don't want to hear skinny people wahwah about a few marks.

    I'm really sorry about what you've been through, but that doesn't mean that people have to like their stretch marks. As ridiculous as that blog post is, this is a thread about post-baby bodies on a pregnancy board. I imagine my abdomen is going to be a horror show after I have these babies. It took years to achieve this pregnancy and I wouldn't trade it for anything.

    But when the pregnancy is over I'm definitely allowed to not like the scars and extra skin. I don't have to love it just because of what I or anyone else has been through.

    And beyond that (as much as I do not want to be on the OP's team for anything), the point of the thread is to love your post-baby body because of what it represents. It's a celebration of the life that was created, not a lot of 'skinny girls winning [sp]'.


    I'm not saying anyone has to like it. All I can do is look at things from my perspective. And yes that blog post was ridiculous. So sorry but I'm still going to roll my eyes at a blog from a skinny girl talking about loving a few marks on her.

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    FFS, this is not an article. It's a blog post.  However, I'm a skinny girl and probably have the best body of my life right now.  I had a horrible time getting back into shape and hated my post-baby body.  It took a lot of work and I was really upset about it for a while.  Should I just keep quiet b/c I'm not overweight?  NO!!!!!  I have every right to bitch about it. 

    Yes, even thin women have every right to bitch about their post-baby bodies. 

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  • I just have to say...I found out at a new year's party from other wives that some skanky hoe who works with our husband's made a comment about us getting pregnant...why would you want to do that, it will ruin your life. Um can you say bitch?!

    Good thing she feels that way. It's probably best that she doesn't procreate.
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  • Empireceo said:
    This is on par with the "marriage is not for you" article, which is to say self-important and gag-worthy.
    I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought the "marriage is not for you" article was terrible.  My fiance's mom posted it on both of our Facebook walls and it was hard to bite my tongue.
    Whoa, inappropriate much! I probably would have bitten my tongue and broke my fingers in order to not respond to that one.
  • @meery82 I've yet meet her yet and cant say I'm looking forward to it. Apparently she told my hubby while he was on FTO that the lt probably only let him do 2 days with her because he is good looking. And also willingly tells everyone that the reason she is such a hoe is because she used to be heavy so now she is making up for lost time...needless to say I dont care to.meet her, ever.

    Wow. So gross.
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  • Ok so this blog post was incredibly beautiful. Why? Because it was POSITIVE!!! It is a beautiful thing to give yourself peace of mind by totally accepting who you are as a woman, flaws and all. Pregnancy and childbirth changes you in more ways then you could possibly imagine and our society doesn't exactly promote a woman who has had a few kids, gained, a couple pounds and may never get back to her pre pregnancy weight as the ideal of beauty. Maybe if the ideals of beauty were changed a lot more women would learn to fall in love with their bodies once again. I also thought that this was beautifully well written because it was written from the heart. 

    That being said I have been lurking on a couple of different posts here on the first tri board and I cannot believe the blatant negativity that is being spewed. These message boards were created to give women a safe place to speak what's on their hearts, and seek advice and support, during the delicate time, emotionally, that is pregnancy. 

    OP shared this article for women to uplift them, yet a lot of you only commented on the thread to berate her once again for her being disappointed that her appointment got cancelled. (Yes I read all 7 pages of that thread and it makes you all look like a bunch of bullies. She was venting and you all took it to a level that she herself didn't take it to.)The overall tone of this board in the way women respond to others who are asking questions is absolutely awful. This the 1st Tri board, where most of the women are experiencing their first pregnancy and they have no idea what's going on, but are excited and anxious for the journey ahead and have a lot of questions. It's not right to kill their happiness for whatever reason you think is fit. Its sad that this board is filled with women with children, yet these women are behaving like children themselves.

    All I have seen across the board has been petty comments, snarky tones, sarcasm, and just plain mean spirited behavior. What happened to compassion for another woman? Simply because she is a woman? What happened to sympathy because you have experienced some of the things a woman make experience during pregnancy and beyond, and you know it is not the easiest? Whatever happened to uplifting another woman, encouraging her, and filling her mind and heart with positivity?  Promote positivity and cast down negativity. 
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    Oh @afwifelife, you're telling me that you don't puke rainbows and shit glitter? Am i the only one who feels like we need to coddle the newbies?! What is this world coming to?!!!!!!!!????!?

    For serious though, op is an entitled brat. I wish these white knights or as I like to call them, captain save a ho, would quit trying to be the first one to make us see our evil ways and play nice. Ain't gonna happen.

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  • I was sitting next to my husband as I was reading this...he turned and asked "what's wrong"...I was wiping some tears....love this!
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  • Ok so this blog post was incredibly beautiful. Why? Because it was POSITIVE!!! It is a beautiful thing to give yourself peace of mind by totally accepting who you are as a woman, flaws and all. Pregnancy and childbirth changes you in more ways then you could possibly imagine and our society doesn't exactly promote a woman who has had a few kids, gained, a couple pounds and may never get back to her pre pregnancy weight as the ideal of beauty. Maybe if the ideals of beauty were changed a lot more women would learn to fall in love with their bodies once again. I also thought that this was beautifully well written because it was written from the heart. 


    That being said I have been lurking on a couple of different posts here on the first tri board and I cannot believe the blatant negativity that is being spewed. These message boards were created to give women a safe place to speak what's on their hearts, and seek advice and support, during the delicate time, emotionally, that is pregnancy. 

    OP shared this article for women to uplift them, yet a lot of you only commented on the thread to berate her once again for her being disappointed that her appointment got cancelled. (Yes I read all 7 pages of that thread and it makes you all look like a bunch of bullies. She was venting and you all took it to a level that she herself didn't take it to.)The overall tone of this board in the way women respond to others who are asking questions is absolutely awful. This the 1st Tri board, where most of the women are experiencing their first pregnancy and they have no idea what's going on, but are excited and anxious for the journey ahead and have a lot of questions. It's not right to kill their happiness for whatever reason you think is fit. Its sad that this board is filled with women with children, yet these women are behaving like children themselves.

    All I have seen across the board has been petty comments, snarky tones, sarcasm, and just plain mean spirited behavior. What happened to compassion for another woman? Simply because she is a woman? What happened to sympathy because you have experienced some of the things a woman make experience during pregnancy and beyond, and you know it is not the easiest? Whatever happened to uplifting another woman, encouraging her, and filling her mind and heart with positivity?  Promote positivity and cast down negativity. 
    Oh STFU already. Could you possibly be any more annoying and wrong?
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