Stupidly worried about DH

redcloverbaby · January 2014

He is taking a much needed break from two weeks cooped up with the kids and he's playing poker with friends from work.

I dont know these friends...but he talks about them. He's been gone for four hours...and im being a paranoid bitch.

I need women to be really rough with me and tell me I'm being silly and if I dont trust my husband then im not a good wife.

Please. A little reprimanding will go a long way.

katekat8721 · January 2014

He's playing poker with the guys. Unless he's given you a reason not to trust him, you gotta chill mama. He's worked hard, let him have fun.

SchoolPsychSteph · January 2014

Girl, don't be that crazy wife calling every 20 minutes! He's fine!

SchoolPsychSteph · January 2014

I mean, I have a weird fear of DH having a heart attack and I wouldn't know. A simple text just checking in is okay, but don't make it a habit or send multiple texts.

redcloverbaby · January 2014

Yes! Just what I need. Shot him a text and asked if he was having fun. He said he was having a blast and that makes me feel good.

I hate being so paranoid! Hes such a good man and has never given me a reason not to trust him.

Past baggage from an ex husband.

Thanks ladies. I need this;-)

elsa1688 · January 2014

Most men generally don't want to text their lady when they are with their friends unless they have something to say. He probably just wants to zone out and hang with his friends.

Nancy1250 · January 2014

Best thing you could have done! Ask if he's having fun.

Use these hours to rest, bump and spoil yourself

katiebartton · January 2014

I think the text was a fine move, I trust my hubby but I worry of random is he safe/car accident you name it issues. I usually send one friendly text asking how's it going after 3 or 4 hours and he's never complained

redcloverbaby · January 2014

Thanks. Ive been real paranoid in the past to an extreme.
I have had severe self esteem issues. He's been kind and understanding. ..knowing what my ex put me through...but I know he gets tired of my bs;-)

You guys are really helping...thank you.

redcloverbaby · January 2014

Lol...love the gif

LegalLadyBug · January 2014

I know when I play poker with my friends it lasts forever. I usually end up getting tired and bored and bet like an idiot so I can leave the game lol. 4 hours doesn't sound bad at all, I bet he's just enjoying time with friends.

redcloverbaby · January 2014

You guys have been the best. Made me feel so much better...and also a little ashamed;-) like the silly buddy I am....worrying...and for the last thirty minutes he has been sitting in the living room.

He thought I was asleep and didnt want to disturb me.

God...I can be such a little worrywart.

Thanks for help ladies!

allrightmeow · January 2014

kbellizio3 · January 2014

DH goes out to hang with his buddies every Friday night at the Sportsman Club be belongs to (its a no girls allowed club, I call it the old man frat house). He's the youngest member. He's been a member since before we got married and I've been there and know most of the guys there. But sometimes I still get nervous that something will happen whether it be car issues or he gets hurt or he gets pulled over coming home (which already happened for expired registration...oops). But I usually shoot him a text about how he's shooting darts and when I should expect him home. That's usually the only contact I have with him unless he texts me first. Just relax and enjoy your girl time! I watch all my chick flicks and bride shows while he's out :P

PinkKEL9 · January 2014

I completely trust my husband but my parents and little brother were in a near fatal car accident when I was little that completely changed our whole families lives. I suffer from paranoia because of it. So if hubby goes somewhere and he is gone too long, I start to worry. I always think he has been in a wreck just like my family was.

Especially if I text or call and he doesn't reply!

Cindy Thomas · January 2014

katiebartton said:
I think the text was a fine move, I trust my hubby but I worry of random is he safe/car accident you name it issues. I usually send one friendly text asking how's it going after 3 or 4 hours and he's never complained

Ha, I have these worries too! I have never had a reason to think DH is being unfaithful, but I worry about car accidents, muggings, asteroids falling out of the sky on him, you name it.

MollySm · January 2014

My parents passed away about 9 years ago, and ever since them I am a bit of a wreck about things like that. H and I talk about it, and he knows that in order for me to stay sane, he needs to text every once in awhile. I just can't keep my mind from going to terrible places. He is usually good at it, but sometimes needs a reminder. I'm glad you sent a text and that he got back to you to reassure you.

tnd1218 · January 2014

Glad you sent a text to put your mind at ease. Poker can take all your concentration and you don't really realize how long you've been playing. My DH will usually text every once in a while to say he's having fun or see if we are ok when he's out. But if he's playing sports I know he will text after and not to worry. The only time I really worry is when he is at work and I don't hear from him, I become the paranoid frantic wife scared turn on the news (he's a firefighter gone for 24 to 72 hours at a time).

skyview222 · January 2014

Don't fret if he hasn't given you a reason in the past. Guys need to be with guys every now and then.

I usually text my fiance about 3/4 into his time out with a "Hope you are having fun. Text or call if you need a ride home." Sometimes he replies, typically not, but I know he appreciates the breathing room. I am especially careful to give him the space because he had an ex-girlfriend who was controlling so it is a bit of a hot button for him.

hlp2709 · January 2014

I was just like u are know when I was dating my husband. Once u get hurt by someone it's hard to let certain things go. I would text and if he did not answer then I would call but never had to go that far. I would always talk to him about it to and the one day he seemed to understand where I was coming from.

Pepper6 · January 2014

I don't have trust issues with H, but ditto worrying about his safety. He goes on long bike rides and since drivers here suck and I was hit by a car on a bike as a kid, I like to know how long he'll be gone, and have him text me when he's on his way home.

9 days before our wedding he dumped his motorcycle and had to be taken to the er by ambulance and getting a call from the fire department was seriously terrifying (and a little embarrassing because they called me from his phone so I answered it "Hey sexy"). He only dislocated his shoulder so he was mostly fine, but I definitely shoot him a text every once and while when he's out no matter what he's doing.

Susanrush13 · January 2014

I think it's normal to have feelings of being worried when you've been burned but be careful not to let those
Past feelings into your current relationship. Your husband seems like he's completely trustworthy and I'm glad that you were able to relax and give him his dude space for a couple of hours:) I love having my bf around but every once in a while a few hours break from each other so we can do our own thing is pretty nice.

BabyCurtiss2014 · January 2014

I'm always worrying about my hubby! Not that he's doing anything bad but just worried in general like I make him text me when he gets into work so I know he made it there safely since its an hour drive! It drives him nutts but I can't help it! Everyone is telling me "you will need to chill when you have kids" but that is just not possible lol. :-S

BabyCurtiss2014 · January 2014

Cindy Thomas said:

katiebartton said:
I think the text was a fine move, I trust my hubby but I worry of random is he safe/car accident you name it issues. I usually send one friendly text asking how's it going after 3 or 4 hours and he's never complained
Ha, I have these worries too! I have never had a reason to think DH is being unfaithful, but I worry about car accidents, muggings, asteroids falling out of the sky on him, you name it.

I'm glad I'm not alone!!! Lol

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