lipstick kisses, perfume clouds, and babies

TKtravels · January 2014

We got together with H's family today, and while I was hiding in another room feeding LO, I noticed some discoloration on her head. It turns out that it was SIL's lipstick. I also reek of H's cousin's perfume because she was holding LO and was wearing enough perfume that LO & I both now need a bath and clothing change.

His family seemed to love the fact that LO smells of perfume because they kept commenting on how good she smells and that she should smell like that all the time. Neither H nor I wear perfume/cologne, and most scented products make me gag. I don't want them stinking up my baby, and I'm not keen on people kissing her period, let alone leaving maroon marks on her head.

This got me wondering about how you all deal with people kissing your babies or mucking them up with their scents. Would you say something to a friend or family member about them holding your baby and leaving their mark, either visually or olfactorily?

EllaBelle2010 · January 2014

This drives me crazy too. LO seems to break out from strong perfumes and odors so we just tell most people that they can't hold him if they're wearing perfume. With the exception of DH's grandmother. She does her best to try and remember to not wear perfume when she knows we're going to be around but sometimes she forgets. I just let it go because she's so sweet and she gets so worried is she forgets.

Inevitably DS breaks out but we just tell her DH wore cologne that day so she doesn't feel bad.

I haven't had any one leave a mark on him yet but I think I'd be pissed. MIL did stick her nasty finger in his mouth though to see if he was teething and I nearly jumped across the table!

janelleashu · January 2014

This doesn't bother me as long as the kisser wasn't sick. But I would totally get it if someone asked people to refrain from lipstick kisses.

The perfume thing would be going a little far in my opinion. Unless you or your baby has a know allergy I think it'd be kind of inconsiderate to ask people to not wear their usual perfumes/colognes or to stay away feom the baby if they're wearing perfume. I also wouldn't ever think to change my dudes outfit because he smelled perfumey, unless it was bothering him.
My thought is, you might have to put up with me and my possibly fussy, pooping baby, so I'm happy to put up with you and your fragrances.

JLMcWeeney · January 2014

My LO cries when someone with perfume on holds him. He hates it. I don't wear it, but I har noticed the people he doesn't like to hold him wear lots of perfume. I have said something to my mom about the lipstick kisses, and she is good about not doing it now.
I would just be subtle about the kisses and I bet they will understand. Maybe say the oil from the lipstick tends to bother his skin and clean if off. That's what I did with my mom and SIL.

cputman200 · January 2014

Back when my DS was a baby and newly in daycare he would come home with a light perfume smell. It actually gave me comfort that someone was snuggling him when I had to be at work. Not sure how you tell someone to limit perfume or lipstick when holding your LO. Maybe keep some boogie wipes in your bag to wipe the lipstick off before you can get home and give the baby a bath? Eta: sorry I really did use paragraphs, but they are not showing?

GermanShredders · January 2014

We have only had to say something to one family member about the perfume. It was so bad, it was giving ME a headache to hold J after her. No telling how bad it was for him.

TKtravels · January 2014

I doubt I will say anything to them, it's just something I add to my list of things that annoy me about family get-togethers with LO.

I do have to say though that his cousin's perfume is noxious. It does give me a headache, and despite the fact that I've changed clothes and washed my hands, I still have her perfume smell clinging to me.

database6 · January 2014

I haven't seen lipstick yet, but I do hate it when LO smells like perfume. Mil is the worst, and she puts the pacifier in her mouth (maybe because she has seen me do it?) and I cringe every time she does. I haven't and probably won't say anything to her though, I just grab the pacifier and throw it in the sink real quick.

My bil puts his pinkie in Los mouth, which I hate and have tried to hint to him that I would prefer he not. I guess I'm a wussy though, I don't have the balls to just say something.

Burrberrymum · January 2014

I had my insurance policy girl come to my house so I could fill out documents at one point and she asked to hold my DD so I let her and she started kissing her face and put lipstick all over! It was sparkly all over her face even after washing it off.

I didn't say anything though but I definitely was side eyeing her for doing such a thing lol she's a nice lady but I've only ever met her like 4 times! I definitely wouldn't say anything if it was family either, unless they were sick but in that case they wouldn't be holding her or getting close to her.

jackdmullins · January 2014

You could suggest putting a blanket between them & LO while holding & just say it's to keep them from getting rash. I hate strong perfumes & hate it lingering on my baby too.

Heffafish · January 2014

The only people who have left any marks on my baby girl was my sister and best friend when they kissed her with lippy on, but that fact it was them it didn't bother me one bit...Anyone else and I might turn up my nose at it!

bumpuser9130703 · January 2014

So far no one has tried to kiss her any where other than the top of her head (so no kisses on her actual face) and I'm fine with that (as long as they're not sick, in which case I wouldn't really let them hold her/be that near her anyway). And I also noticed over Christmas that she would often smell like other people's perfume. I can't really dictate what other people wear and I don't think an occasional incident like this is going to ruin her for life, so I mostly just let it go.

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