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Niece update

lellyminelellymine member
in June 2014 Moms
I had lunch with my niece and it did not go over well. She pretty much told me that I don't know him like she does and he said he'd take care of her and the baby (despite not being able to keep a job). They're in love and they'll be able to make it. Then she ended it with telling me to mind my own business and stop trying to ruin her life. It was pretty typical melodramatic teenager stuff. So I'm going to talk to my SIL and give her the info so she can decide what to do. I'm so disappointed in her attitude and how this turned out. :(
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  • lellyminelellymine member
    Thanks guys. I just want to shake her. It also makes me wish I could skip the teenage years with this baby...if this is what I have to look forward to I'm shaking in my boots!
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  • LovetoLive614LovetoLive614 member
    I'm sorry it didn't go as well as you had hoped but you did the right thing by speaking up and you never know something you said could strike her later even if it seems like a lost cause now.
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  • snowpantssnowpants member
    Sounds like you did the right thing and certainly have everyone's best interests at heart...but you can't force her to see logic.  Some people are just determined to make bad decisions.  Sorry it didn't go as well as you had hoped.

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  • roundthree24roundthree24 member
    You definitely did the right thing. I think that no matter what, a teenager is going to act defensively in those types of situations. I was a very moody teenager and didn't get along well with my parents (we're all good now), but I remember multiple times when I blew up at a suggestion or reprimand but secretly agreed with them or at least understood their logic. Sometimes you just need to plant a seed. And even if that seed doesn't grow, maybe you fertilized the soil? Sorry for the cheesy metaphor, just trying to say that you might have helped the situation even if it doesn't feel like it.  
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  • tbmadeamistaketbmadeamistake member
    Good for you for trying.  Her parents need to know, and how they choose to use that information is up to them, be it good or bad.  At least they'll be prepared. 

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  • texasmama2014texasmama2014 member
    You did the right thing.  I work with teenagers, and at some point you have to let go.  You educate them as well you can, give them all the resources you can give them, and then its their choice.  I agree that telling her mother is the best thing to do. 


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  • allrightmeowallrightmeow member
    Sorry it didn't turn out better.  All you can do now is inform her parents and step back.  None of you can control what she does.  Hopefully she will smarten up not have to learn the hard way.  
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