Hi...
this is my 1st time posting... My husband & I and our 1 yr old currently live in MA and we are thinking of moving to WA/VA/MD area. We would be leaving all our family & friends. My husband's company has offices in all 3 states so he could transfer and potentially make more $. I currently work FT, but with the move I would potentially be able to be a stay at home mom.
My husband really wants to move out of MA though we have both grown up here and lived here our whole lives. I on the other hand, would love the adventure, seeing new things and being in a new place, but at the same time I am scared to be away from all my family & friends.. My husband always says- Family can visit, we can come visit them and we will make new friends.
I know that this isnt about every one else and this is about "My family" (me, my husband and our son) now and I know that he is right... Every one can visit, we can skype and talk on the phone and we will make new friends. But, still freaks me out...
Thoughts?? Anyone out there feel the same way?
Re: Relocating - away from family & friends
I would try to think of how much time you guys spend with relatives and friends currently (are they baby sitting for you, for example?) and then try to picture life without that support.
Also, if you are moving away from everyone and going to stay at home, you need to think of activities and ways to meet people so you don't feel isolated.
Yes, ultimately it is YOUR family first, but it takes a village. I do not have that support and it gets to be very stressful on DH and I.
Currently because I also work FT my MIL watches our son and on days that she cant my mom does unless me or my husband take time off.
But, if we move and I stay home then we wont need a sitter for me to work. But, yes there will be NO ONE for sitters if we need someone and that is what I tell my husband.
I dont know. I am so confused LOL
the move for us would be about 8-10 hr drive away and about 1 hr away plane ride. So that is doable for sure.
on a day to day basis I only see the family members who watch my son other than that maybe once a week or so I will see my mom but as far as extended family- family functions and holidays.
Yes I would definately need to get involved with groups and other moms so that I am not just sitting in a house all day... Did you learn about these specific groups via a specific website or just word of mouth in your community?
Thanks everyone for your input..
We have a lot to think about.. We will have to take a little family trip to check out the area too before we make any decisions.
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it is such a personal choice. I live 5 minutes from my mom and sister, and near a lot of extended family. I also like NY and being near the city and can't imagine another place I would love as much. I love that for myself and my children, and couldn't personally move away from that. My dad passed away in June and my mom would be a mess without me and my kids around all the time. On the other hand, my MIL does live about a 7 hour drive away and my SIL 4 hours, and they are super super close with my kids and me and hubby, because we visit and talk a lot!
Every family is different and totally depends on how much you want to be around family, or if the new adventure/money/ability to stay home is more important.
Do know if you do move, and you don't like it, you can always move back.
thanks everyone. We definately have lots to think about.
we both feel like we are ready for a change / something new, but at the same time I am so scared to make the move. My husband is all for it, but will go with whatever I decide.
decisions, decisions...
thanks again everyone for your input