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Baby plug - TMI but serious question also sex related...

tesskerrtesskerr member
in January 2014 Moms
I know heaps of you hate talking about baby plugs aka mucus plug. I guess it's an UO of mine that I don't mind haha! So for those of you who don't mind talking about them, I have a question. For those who don't like talking about them, please read no further...

If you have lost yours, or STM, was yours hard or soft? My sister said hers was soo hard, it really surprised her. I have been passing either level 4 snail trail/or a soft baby plug. I don't need to know if I'm going into labour or anything, but I have a second part to my question...

I am really paranoid that it is going to stick to FIs penis when we are having sex and gross us both out haha! Does that happen? I don't think his penis is getting to my cervix, but so far what has come out, if it got on him, would scar him for life. Has that happened to anyone?
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Re: Baby plug - TMI but serious question also sex related...

  • tesskerrtesskerr member
    jessicabcairns said:

    Mine was soft, like snot, or a serious snail trail.

    I also lost it over the matter of a couple days, and yes, when DH and I had sex, he managed to get some on him. We just wiped it off and kept going.

    Thank you for answering my question seriously. How many days did you lose it over?
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  • tesskerrtesskerr member
    @jessicabcairns I would never even think to post a photo haha! I asked my sister about hers first, and when she said hers was really hard, I got a bit confused (after being a little excited something was maybe finally starting to happen).

    Anyway, I don't think I'll warn FI about it, if it happens it happens and he can get over it haha! Maybe have some baby wipes handy...
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  • tesskerrtesskerr member
    I have sorta been thinking "is this it? Really?" I'm sure I have had worse with a winter cold haha. I think I have been expecting something so much worse! Is the bloody show just a bit of blood with the mucus, as your cervix dilates a bit more, or is it something else all together?
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  • peanutmusepeanutmuse member
    Oh, hi there again @tesskerr. Did you happen to check out the thread you were tagged in the other day? Hate to post & run, but I have an appt. But I'll be back. :)
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  • gina0485gina0485 member
    I can understand why the thought of the mucous plus during sex is on your mind. I'd be a total liar if I said I hadn't thought about it. A lot of the above advice sounds good, and I think giving our husbands more credit for how our bodies are changing, etc is important. They can't expect that a woman's body is a magical unicorn one all of the time. I want my DH to love my body for all that it is, and in wanting that I've put too much pressure on myself and have failed to give him the chance to love it in some of its less than awesome moments. So I say, run with it! If he asks, tell him what it is and see what happens.
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  • last14reallast14real member
    @jessicabcairns for me the terms "bloody show" and mucus plug were incredibly accurate. I had mine all at once though, not over a couple days, so I'm sure it's one more of those things that is a little different for everyone. @tesskerr I was in hospital dilated to 3 having awful contractions, waiting to see if I got to a 4 so that they would keep me. I was walking down the hall to the bathroom (only private bathroom after they admit you) when blood started running down my leg and puddled on the floor. I stopped as it would happen right by the nurse's desk and was like "Oh God what's wrong!" A really nice nurse said don't worry about it and took me by the arm and led me to the bathroom where she proceeded to help me get cleaned up. By this point in time my modesty was shot and she basically wiped me down while I stood there contracting. Then she showed me this big bloody ball of snot and said "Look its just your bloody show and mucus plug!" Needless to say when they checked me I was a 4.5 and was admitted. As far as the sex thing I did not have any of my plug get on DH, but I did only want to have ST in the dark with a dark damp towel nearby. That way if there was gunk or blood neither of us really noticed.
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  • tesskerrtesskerr member
    @peanutmuse which one? If I'm not on my phone at the time, how do I see what I'm tagged in?

    To everyone else, you are right about giving FI more credit. It actually wouldn't scar him for life, he has just found this whole pregnancy thing a bit weird. All of this is totally fine by me, but he doesn't like touching my tummy, because it's so hard. He doesn't even want to be in the room with me, because he is terrible when I'm in pain. There is no way he will be looking, or cutting, anything.

    You never know, he might change his mind though!
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  • peanutmusepeanutmuse member
    Here you go:

    https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12213590/have-we-had-any-jan-babies-yet/p1
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  • tesskerrtesskerr member
    @peanutmuse seriously? Your post came across to me as a bit mean, so I commented on it. You are right, I didn't read it quite right, but so did other people. Maybe that is a lesson in trying to make things a bit clearer in your responses. I have seen you ask the same of other people, to avoid being misinterpreted.

    I think it's just different cultures or whatever, but I do find a lot of the ways you word things to sound quite mean/abrupt. I try my hardest to let it slide, because we just don't really talk like that in New Zealand. Maybe it is just you being honest, which you have every right to be, especially on the Internet.

    I don't want to start a weird feud or anything, again I think I shall just agree to disagree with you sometimes, and leave the comments to myself.
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  • peanutmusepeanutmuse member
    tesskerr said:
    @peanutmuse seriously? Your post came across to me as a bit mean, so I commented on it. You are right, I didn't read it quite right, but so did other people. Maybe that is a lesson in trying to make things a bit clearer in your responses. I have seen you ask the same of other people, to avoid being misinterpreted. I think it's just different cultures or whatever, but I do find a lot of the ways you word things to sound quite mean/abrupt. I try my hardest to let it slide, because we just don't really talk like that in New Zealand. Maybe it is just you being honest, which you have every right to be, especially on the Internet. I don't want to start a weird feud or anything, again I think I shall just agree to disagree with you sometimes, and leave the comments to myself.
    @tesskerr, my post was pretty darn clear. I mean, you can't get much more clear than "I am happy for every baby, of course" -- can you? Unless you're an idiot, I don't see how you could misunderstand that statement. Which, by the way, was the exact same sentiment that you expressed, while trying to posture yourself as having the opposing viewpoint.

    You have suggested that I try to make myself more clear. Well, my suggestion to you is to read a bit more carefully. (Unless, of course, you truly can't comprehend what "I am happy for every baby" means.)

    Also, I don't think you need to stop disagreeing with me. That is not necessary. You just need to stop doing it for the sake of disagreeing with me. I'm pretty sure that is the point that @Deblondie1 was expressing in the thread I linked.


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  • brideandbrevebrideandbreve member
    tesskerr said:
    @peanutmuse seriously? Your post came across to me as a bit mean, so I commented on it. You are right, I didn't read it quite right, but so did other people. Maybe that is a lesson in trying to make things a bit clearer in your responses. I have seen you ask the same of other people, to avoid being misinterpreted. I think it's just different cultures or whatever, but I do find a lot of the ways you word things to sound quite mean/abrupt. I try my hardest to let it slide, because we just don't really talk like that in New Zealand. Maybe it is just you being honest, which you have every right to be, especially on the Internet. I don't want to start a weird feud or anything, again I think I shall just agree to disagree with you sometimes, and leave the comments to myself.
    Really? The New Zealand line again?

    You responded with a condescending tone to something I posted once (read it here) and then pulled that "in New Zealand" crap. Soooo, explain that - if, you know, it's a cultural thing and Kiwis aren't inclined to sound mean/abrupt..?

    At this point, it's almost a guarantee that you'll whip out your location in every freakin' post - as some sort of justification for a snide comment or a defense against someone - or just to say, "In New Zealand.."

    It's a little comical, really.

    Oh, and here's another example of your "cultural differences" defense: Here.
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  • peanutmusepeanutmuse member
    @brideandbreve, you are my hero today.
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