I'm leaving my job the end of February. Vegas isn't for our family. We are moving. I haven't told my work yet. I will tell them middle/end of January. It will give them a month to replace me. I felt bad initially but not now.
I am a SAHM. DH works (mostly from home, but still). He has been totally great about helping with LO since i have been in a lot of pain from the csection and everything.
Im finally feeling better and can get out of bed without pain...but ive been letting DH still handle most of the nighttime duties. He hasnt complained and hasnt asked me to take over, so im taking advantage of his niceness and willingness to do the work.
I feel like a bad mom and wife when i think about taking advantage, but then the nighttime comes and i still dont get up.
I have been out of work since October and I don't want to go back. I never thought I'd want to be a SAHM, like, ever. But I keep searching craigslist and such for good work from home opportunities. I was only going back to work for my own sanity because my paycheck pretty much pays for the boys childcare, so now I'm wondering why I'm going back at all...
My FFFC is that I am debating putting a call into the mental health and welfare department when my SIL has her baby so they can evaluate the situation. I just heard a bunch of stuff about her boyfriend and apparently he has even more mental disabilities then she does. I just don't see how they could possibly care for this child. I would feel awful and guilty if something were to happen and I didn't at least try to do something. I feel horrible but maybe they can at least offer support to them and make sure the baby is safe.
"Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it the more it will elude you but if u turn your attention to other things it will come & sit softly on your shoulder."
BFP! 04/26/11 - DS born 12/28/11 - BFP #2! 04/02/13 - DD born 12/11/13 - My Ovulation Chart
I'm leaving my job the end of February. Vegas isn't for our family. We are moving. I haven't told my work yet. I will tell them middle/end of January. It will give them a month to replace me. I felt bad initially but not now.
Dislike! But I totally get it.
We have put offers in on sooo many houses that before Nola was born we just stopped looking damn investors just screw it up for everyone else.
I pitched a fit by the changing table yesterday when DS went for the trifecta literally 10 min after his bath. Pooped out of his diaper, spit up all over the place and peed all over me, his clothes and the wall. It didn't help that I had been peed on three times that day to that point.
I cried big ugly tears last night when, at 11 pm, DS wouldn't get the eff off my boob. He wasn't eating, just kind of sucking in his sleep (not even latched) but the second I moved him he screamed like I doused him in acid.
@mavgirl_73 where are you going to go? I couldn't live in Vegas either.
My FFFC: I was rinsing DS's hair and he started screaming and got a huge mouth full of soapy water. I felt like such an asshole.
Oh yeah, the first time I gave DS a bath by myself I was Googleing "effects of soapy water when swallowed by a one month old" he didn't like the taste but no harm no foul.
I have been out of work since October and I don't want to go back. I never thought I'd want to be a SAHM, like, ever. But I keep searching craigslist and such for good work from home opportunities. I was only going back to work for my own sanity because my paycheck pretty much pays for the boys childcare, so now I'm wondering why I'm going back at all...
I am trying my hardest to justify staying home...I never thought I would want to be a SAHM but damn it I want to stay with my baby not take care of other peoples. It makes me sad because I used to love my job but now I would do anything to stay home...
I never want to go to work again. I want to be a SAHM so bad, but it's not an option for at least another year.
I feel really guilty because our dog may have to sit in her crate while dh is at work tonight. It's 8 degrees outside and I have no clue how to handle doggy potty breaks and the baby at the same time. It's too cold to take the baby outside, but obviously I can't leave her inside to take the dog out.. Idk what to do except leave the dog in the crate while he's gone.
I would make a bad SAHM; I'm constantly on the brink of panic attack the 2 days my 2 year old is home. DH needs to get paternity leave!
DH informed me last night that he is going to have some late nights coming up and I'm going to have to deal with both kids for dinner and bedtime. Instant panic attack/bawling on the phone. I'm not cut out to SAH.
I've done the same thing...too bad I'm a SAHM already.
Elaborate...just general feelings of disgust? Or is it directed at individuals?
Just a general feeling. It's filled with boring crap. LOL I mean, I know that sounds horrible, but I don't want to read about diaper rash, breastfeeding complaints and brags, birth stories, sleeping brags...but I don't know what I want to read about, so I'm just meh about the whole place.
I never want to go to work again. I want to be a SAHM so bad, but it's not an option for at least another year.
I feel really guilty because our dog may have to sit in her crate while dh is at work tonight. It's 8 degrees outside and I have no clue how to handle doggy potty breaks and the baby at the same time. It's too cold to take the baby outside, but obviously I can't leave her inside to take the dog out.. Idk what to do except leave the dog in the crate while he's gone.
How long would you be outside and how far would you be from the baby? I guess it depends on where you live/where you would take the dog to go potty. If I were just going in the yard or deck, I would feel comfortable leaving the baby in the PNP during that. However, if you had to walk around the neighborhood or leave an apartment then I agree it's probably better keeping the dog in the crate.
I never want to go to work again. I want to be a SAHM so bad, but it's not an option for at least another year.
I feel really guilty because our dog may have to sit in her crate while dh is at work tonight. It's 8 degrees outside and I have no clue how to handle doggy potty breaks and the baby at the same time. It's too cold to take the baby outside, but obviously I can't leave her inside to take the dog out.. Idk what to do except leave the dog in the crate while he's gone.
I'd wear the baby in a carrier under a big coat and do at least one potty break.
I never want to go to work again. I want to be a SAHM so bad, but it's not an option for at least another year.
I feel really guilty because our dog may have to sit in her crate while dh is at work tonight. It's 8 degrees outside and I have no clue how to handle doggy potty breaks and the baby at the same time. It's too cold to take the baby outside, but obviously I can't leave her inside to take the dog out.. Idk what to do except leave the dog in the crate while he's gone.
How long would you be outside and how far would you be from the baby? I guess it depends on where you live/where you would take the dog to go potty. If I were just going in the yard or deck, I would feel comfortable leaving the baby in the PNP during that. However, if you had to walk around the neighborhood or leave an apartment then I agree it's probably better keeping the dog in the crate.
I live on the 2nd floor of an apartment complex and I have to walk over to a grassy area to get her to potty. I'm always outside for 5-10 min. If it weren't so cold it wouldn't be as big a deal to bundle her up but it's just so cold.
I never want to go to work again. I want to be a SAHM so bad, but it's not an option for at least another year.
I feel really guilty because our dog may have to sit in her crate while dh is at work tonight. It's 8 degrees outside and I have no clue how to handle doggy potty breaks and the baby at the same time. It's too cold to take the baby outside, but obviously I can't leave her inside to take the dog out.. Idk what to do except leave the dog in the crate while he's gone.
How long would you be outside and how far would you be from the baby? I guess it depends on where you live/where you would take the dog to go potty. If I were just going in the yard or deck, I would feel comfortable leaving the baby in the PNP during that. However, if you had to walk around the neighborhood or leave an apartment then I agree it's probably better keeping the dog in the crate.
I live on the 2nd floor of an apartment complex and I have to walk over to a grassy area to get her to potty. I'm always outside for 5-10 min. If it weren't so cold it wouldn't be as big a deal to bundle her up but it's just so cold.
I've left both kids inside to go out and shovel. I was out there for the time you are stating. Grant it, I could easily look through the window or open the door to check on them. Your dog doesn't deserve to be locked in a crate all day in its own stink though. You're dog is your responsibility too.
You can't leave a newborn alone for that long (I'm pretty sure she could get in trouble legally for it).
OP - can you ask a neighbor to run the dog out for a quick pee?
"Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it the more it will elude you but if u turn your attention to other things it will come & sit softly on your shoulder."
BFP! 04/26/11 - DS born 12/28/11 - BFP #2! 04/02/13 - DD born 12/11/13 - My Ovulation Chart
I never want to go to work again. I want to be a SAHM so bad, but it's not an option for at least another year.
I feel really guilty because our dog may have to sit in her crate while dh is at work tonight. It's 8 degrees outside and I have no clue how to handle doggy potty breaks and the baby at the same time. It's too cold to take the baby outside, but obviously I can't leave her inside to take the dog out.. Idk what to do except leave the dog in the crate while he's gone.
How long would you be outside and how far would you be from the baby? I guess it depends on where you live/where you would take the dog to go potty. If I were just going in the yard or deck, I would feel comfortable leaving the baby in the PNP during that. However, if you had to walk around the neighborhood or leave an apartment then I agree it's probably better keeping the dog in the crate.
I live on the 2nd floor of an apartment complex and I have to walk over to a grassy area to get her to potty. I'm always outside for 5-10 min. If it weren't so cold it wouldn't be as big a deal to bundle her up but it's just so cold.
I've left both kids inside to go out and shovel. I was out there for the time you are stating. Grant it, I could easily look through the window or open the door to check on them. Your dog doesn't deserve to be locked in a crate all day in its own stink though. You're dog is your responsibility too.
She is crate trained and it would only be for 4 hours as opposed to when we are both working and she is in the crate longer. She doesn't sit in stink, I just don't like her to be in the crate when I am home. I know she is my responsibility, but I don't want to take a 6 day old out in freezing temps like that. Thanks for implying I let my dog sit in filth though.
I have changed diapers without washing my hands immediately afterwards.
OOOOh shame on you
Baby is not a good burper so after 3 sessions of 10 mins of me patting him on his back at 1am I just laid him next to me on his back and wiped the spit up as it came up....
I hate putting the baby down. My favorite thing to do is cuddle him on the couch while watching TV or a movie. My Mom keeps saying I need to put him down more so I don't spoil him, so that's not the only place he'll sleep. He's doing okay in his cradle at night and will go in his swing for meals. The newborn snuggles are the best and I don't want to miss out on them.
I have anther, I do not understand why people who are just ugly people (meaning attiude, ways of living etc) have beautiful children born to shitty situations, and beautiful people have to work so hard to have children..... To me that is ass backwards....
As much planning and research as I did, I feel completely unprepared for postpartum life. We aren't even a week old, and it is way to cold for me to get her out of the house to buy nursing bras, etc. Confession, I feel weird asking DH to pick out a bra for me, but no problem going bra-less in nursing tanks.
Ah don't feel weird! That's what men are for! My H picked out 3 bras for me. He did great! He got one with no wire leopard print. One with wire and comfy. And a a black nursing tank. You'd be surprised how good men can be. I say go ahead let him go to target and get you a nursing tank and wireless bra. I'm sure you'll be surprised and happy with what he comes home with! I also invested in a hands free bra for pumping. That thing was awesome! Too bad I didn't use it very long cause I never produced much. Maybe send your H to target and use FaceTime (webcam) to look at what he picks out.
I'm still trying to figure out how someone could get in trouble legally for leaving a newborn alone for 5-10 minutes. So like if I need to heat the car up before we leave the house I have to take my baby to the freezing car? I don't think so.
My LO has been asleep on my chest for almost 5 hours straight and last nursed at 7 am. And I don't want to wake her up. I just want to lay here a little longer...
I'm still trying to figure out how someone could get in trouble legally for leaving a newborn alone for 5-10 minutes. So like if I need to heat the car up before we leave the house I have to take my baby to the freezing car? I don't think so.
Edited because I wasn't done typing.
She's not running into her driveway to start the car. I've also left DS inside while I run outside but I could listen for him. She is talking about leaving an infant in an apartment and leaving the property (unable to hear if baby starts crying) for up to ten minutes. I don't know the law exactly but I'd imagine you might be able to get in trouble for leaving a child unattended.
Also showering doesn't count because you can hear if baby starts crying and get out if needed.
"Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it the more it will elude you but if u turn your attention to other things it will come & sit softly on your shoulder."
BFP! 04/26/11 - DS born 12/28/11 - BFP #2! 04/02/13 - DD born 12/11/13 - My Ovulation Chart
Re: FFFC
Im finally feeling better and can get out of bed without pain...but ive been letting DH still handle most of the nighttime duties. He hasnt complained and hasnt asked me to take over, so im taking advantage of his niceness and willingness to do the work.
I feel like a bad mom and wife when i think about taking advantage, but then the nighttime comes and i still dont get up.
"Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it the more it will elude you but if u turn your attention to other things it will come & sit softly on your shoulder."
BFP! 04/26/11 - DS born 12/28/11 - BFP #2! 04/02/13 - DD born 12/11/13 -
My Ovulation Chart
I cried big ugly tears last night when, at 11 pm, DS wouldn't get the eff off my boob. He wasn't eating, just kind of sucking in his sleep (not even latched) but the second I moved him he screamed like I doused him in acid.
I feel really guilty because our dog may have to sit in her crate while dh is at work tonight. It's 8 degrees outside and I have no clue how to handle doggy potty breaks and the baby at the same time. It's too cold to take the baby outside, but obviously I can't leave her inside to take the dog out.. Idk what to do except leave the dog in the crate while he's gone.
I live on the 2nd floor of an apartment complex and I have to walk over to a grassy area to get her to potty. I'm always outside for 5-10 min. If it weren't so cold it wouldn't be as big a deal to bundle her up but it's just so cold.
You can't leave a newborn alone for that long (I'm pretty sure she could get in trouble legally for it).
OP - can you ask a neighbor to run the dog out for a quick pee?
"Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it the more it will elude you but if u turn your attention to other things it will come & sit softly on your shoulder."
BFP! 04/26/11 - DS born 12/28/11 - BFP #2! 04/02/13 - DD born 12/11/13 -
My Ovulation Chart
She is crate trained and it would only be for 4 hours as opposed to when we are both working and she is in the crate longer. She doesn't sit in stink, I just don't like her to be in the crate when I am home. I know she is my responsibility, but I don't want to take a 6 day old out in freezing temps like that. Thanks for implying I let my dog sit in filth though.
Baby is not a good burper so after 3 sessions of 10 mins of me patting him on his back at 1am I just laid him next to me on his back and wiped the spit up as it came up....
Edited because I wasn't done typing.
Also showering doesn't count because you can hear if baby starts crying and get out if needed.
"Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it the more it will elude you but if u turn your attention to other things it will come & sit softly on your shoulder."
BFP! 04/26/11 - DS born 12/28/11 - BFP #2! 04/02/13 - DD born 12/11/13 -
My Ovulation Chart