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A little disheartened

thesecretis42thesecretis42 member
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Hi, all!

I'm a FTM of twin boys that will be 8 weeks old tomorrow. Since my husband had to go back to work when they were about a week old, I've been the primary caregiver since then. Here's the thing: they've both started to have "real" smiles, but not with me! They love to smile at the clock, the mirror above our fireplace, couch cushions, etc. but I get an occasional half-grin. My husband has gotten 1 or 2 big smiles. But the weird thing is they want mommy to hold them all the time and I'm the only one who can calm them down most of the time, so I just don't understand what I'm doing wrong. I know it's stupid, but I feel like they don't like me. :( I try to spend 1 on 1 time with both of them and spend awake time talking, making eye contact, and playing with them, but I feel like I must be doing something wrong or missing something. Should I be concerned (like about autism)? Any tips? Hope everyone had a wonderful holiday season!
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Re: A little disheartened

  • ShannonSkyShannonSky member
    Just wait, it will come! They clearly have a bond with you :)
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  • SWA80SWA80 member
    ShannonSky said:

    Just wait, it will come! They clearly have a bond with you :)

    What she said, it's coming! And since you're home with them you'll be there for so many more firsts!
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  • PurrCrasherPurrCrasher member
    I found this to be true with my duo also and I realized after a while that they were smiling at all of these other things and other people because they were new and entertaining. Everything else was a fun novelty to be enjoyed. I was the constant. I was always there, I was expected. It was those unexpected and new experiences that made them smile. Don't take it personally, it's a GOOD thing that they recognize you and find so much comfort in you. It'll get there and when it does it will be amazing.
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  • LottaLattesLottaLattes member
    I started getting all paranoid about autism with my one twin who wouldn't smile and my pedi laughed at me and said to wait until he is three. He is super smiley now and warm and loving so it is all ok! He didn't really smile at all until 9 weeks and then smiled a lot. It is hard to care for babies who seem impassive all the time but the fun is coming soon!
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  • katiebeneskatiebenes member
    My boys smiled at Grandma and Daddy first too. It crushed me, I know how you feel. they're 4 months now and every morning when I get home from work and get them out of the crib I get this: image

    Its coming :) 
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  • YlvelillYlvelill member
    Smiling at such a young age means little. They are still working on their eye focus and they facial muscles :)

    They will become much more deliberate as they grow and you know their first word will be mama (or truck like my weird brother :/ )
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