Short age gaps?

MommyAtty · January 2014

I see a thread on moms with big spreads between kids. I'm a little freaked out that mine will only be 22 months apart. Any other AMAs out there who are going to have kiddos close together in age? We did it on purpose because we are both much younger than our older siblings (8 years and 12 years), and wanted our kids closer together, once we decided to have a second one. Hilariously enough, we always thought we would only have one. Then we had one and realized how much we loved being parents. But having 2 under 2 is still a bit scary!!

jbelle · January 2014

I have no advice (I'm currently expecting my first), but I'm eager to read what others have to say. With our ages and history of IF, time will not be on our side as far as debating this choice, we'll just have to make it!

JSS1002 · January 2014

HIya - I'm in the same boat, 9 month old at home and just found out we're due in Sept with #2. I'm freaked out too,but it was intentional (just didn't take as long as we thought).

I will be 36 when baby is born, and then we are done... so although this is scared and stressful to think of having two in diapers, I'm also really glad that I'll be done having children before I turn 37!

MommyAtty · January 2014

Ha! I just turned 40. We've been married for 16 years, it just took us a long time to be ready to be parents. Time didn't concern us too much bc we were so sure we only wanted one. Then, when we wanted another, we sort of needed to hurry up. Luckily, we could apparently medal in the Fertility Olympics, bc the first month we stopped trying to prevent it, we conceived. (Same with last time. One month and boom!)

obscurereference · January 2014

Mine will be about the same age difference - 21 months. I'm nervous, but we planned it this way and were actually trying for about 8 months! We're also planning on having a 3rd shortly after this one! We'll do great! All the newborn stuff is fresh in our minds.

SurpriseAt39 · January 2014

Mine will be 15-16 months younger than his/her brother, but 12.5 years younger than sister.

I'm not sure what I'm going to do with 2 babies barely a year apart, but I know people that have done it before me and survived.

kelley72 · January 2014

I was not AMA when my older children were born, spacing: 24mns apart, 17 mns apart, 14 mns apart. I loved them being close in age (still do). Because of my age if we were to blessed with another child after the birth of this lo they would definitely be close in age. Yes it can be challenging (what the hell aspect of being a parent isn't?), but no debate needed in my mind. Best wishes to you!

SkiHorse · January 2014

Ours are 3 years apart - both planned, both amazing gifts to us, since we got married in our late 30s. I think two under 2 would be harder, but our 3 year old is a real force of nature, so we anticipate some crazy times ahead.

pigtails1031777 · January 2014

Mine are 24 months apart. It really want too bad. My oldest wasn't too interested in baby which was nice.
You find a groove and do what works

MommyAtty · January 2014

Thanks, everybody! I'm excited, even though I occasionally look in the mirror and think, "What on earth am I thinking???? I just turned 40, and I'm doing what???" But I think it will be great, esp after the first few months are over.

AnnieA75 · January 2014

I just turned 38. DD will be 26 months when DS is born. We got married in our mid-30s and are having our kids so close in age due to my AMA. Up until now, I haven't been worried about it, but now I'm really starting to wonder how I'm going to swing 2, so young, while DH and I both work full-time. We moved back to OH from FL to be close to my family, so hopefully we'll have more help! I think once we get into a routine, things will be ok.

rcbuko · January 2014

I am expecting our fourth and will be almost 37 when she is born. Our first two are exactly 27 months apart and our second and third are 26 months and a day apart. Our third and fourth will be about 19 months apart so this will be the first time we will have two under two. We will have four who are six and under. My three kids get along wonderfully. The older two fight over toys sometimes but have genuine love for each other. I have found that the close age difference has been overall helpful as they share interests and keep each other entertained. I am a little nervous about having babies 19 months apart as I am worried that my third will still be very much a baby and need more attention than the others did when their siblings were born. I imagine it will work itself out as it did when each of the other kids were born. I always have some sort of anxiety that things will work out and everything always seems to fall into place.

CaraH · January 2014

My kids will be four years apart. (That wasn't our plan, just the joys of infertility.). But, we spend most of our social time with friends whose three kids are 16 and 15 months apart. (that wasn't their plan either, just the joys of being very fertile.). I'll be honest that 3 under 3 was really hard, and they relied ALOT on their support system. But, their youngest is only 16 months and it's already gotten a lot easier. And, their life is pretty great, (mostly) controlled chaos and all. It will be worth it.

wolcottmom · January 2014

Just found out today that I'm preggo again! If all goes well, babies will be 13 months apart. I will be 40 at the end of August. I'm still processing all of this. Quite honestly I thought it would take us a long time to get pregnant again. Having never been pregnant before age 38 (with our little girl) I just assumed getting pregnant was going to be very difficult.

Surprise!

Ear1201 · January 2014

My first two at 15 months apart and I wouldn't have it any other way! I am so looking forward watching them grow up together and be so close. Even now (my daughter is 4 and my son is 3) they are always looking for each other and holding hands and playing so well together. I really didn't even think it was a difficult transition when my son was born. He just fit right it. I had 2 in diapers and it was fine.

Enjoy it! You are blessed

lizok22 · January 2014

this is the thread i was looking for! here's hoping to more to come!

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