nbr SILs grandmother died..what should i send?

jjh471 · January 2014

DHS brothers wife (so my SILs) grandmother died last night. I just got the word now. They leave about 3 hours away so we can't attend the services but we would like to send something. They were very close and I know she is having a hard time. My first thought was flowers but I'm sure she will get tons. What about an edible arrangement? Too tacky? Thoughts?

Tkhixen · January 2014

I wouldn't do flowers....when my grandparents died, we only had a minimal amount of flowers and asked everyone contribute to either American Heart Association or American Cancer Society. Edible arrangements are expensive and you don't get a lot for what you pay. Maybe there was something that the grandmother was interested in, like gardening, and you can get a garden stone engraved in her honor? I don't know...this is always a hard thing....

jjh471 · January 2014

Tkhixen said:
I wouldn't do flowers....when my grandparents died, we only had a minimal amount of flowers and asked everyone contribute to either American Heart Association or American Cancer Society. Edible arrangements are expensive and you don't get a lot for what you pay. Maybe there was something that the grandmother was interested in, like gardening, and you can get a garden stone engraved in her honor? I don't know...this is always a hard thing....

Oh I like that idea.... I'll have to ask DH if he can find out. I just want to do something since they are so far away and are family I want to be there for her

I feel awful. She lost get grandfather 3 years ago and it was very hard on her.

skyrockets · January 2014

Check to see if there is a charity to donate to.

ykristos · January 2014

Do you know her favorite food? You could see if there are take-out/delivery places in their area that will deliver a couple of trays of food. That always comes more in handy that flowers, and I'm sure they'll appreciate the thought. I don't know if that's weird/maybe it's a Jersey Italian thing, but it's what we always do.

jjh471 · January 2014

ykristos said:
Do you know her favorite food? You could see if there are take-out/delivery places in their area that will deliver a couple of trays of food. That always comes more in handy that flowers, and I'm sure they'll appreciate the thought. I don't know if that's weird/maybe it's a Jersey Italian thing, but it's what we always do.

that might be good. They are a big Italian family as well. Her and her grandmother loved to cook together too so food might be very comforting right now.

dwnslde · January 2014

Have you heard of the Alex and Ani bangles/bracelets? They are really comfortable and they have simple charms (singular for each bangle), but I was in a store the other day and they have one that is grandmother related, maybe send her one of those so she can think of her grandmother a lot? I think they are about $30. If I was close to some one I think that would be nice to have as a small reminder.

jjh471 · January 2014

dwnslde said:
Have you heard of the Alex and Ani bangles/bracelets? They are really comfortable and they have simple charms (singular for each bangle), but I was in a store the other day and they have one that is grandmother related, maybe send her one of those so she can think of her grandmother a lot? I think they are about $30. If I was close to some one I think that would be nice to have as a small reminder.

Yes. She has a few as well. Thats a nice idea thank you. I'll have to run these past DH and see what he thinks

thank you!!

Ziegeficker · January 2014

Send food and a card. You can either do a gift card for a restaurant near her or send something through a company like Omaha Steaks that will mail perishable foods directly to the house. Food and help with everyday chores are really the best ways to help someone who is grieving outside of just being a shoulder to cry on.

I also second the charity idea, but check the charity with Charity Navigator to make sure it gets a good rating.

Shell+Bell · January 2014

jjh471 said:
DHS brothers wife (so my SILs) grandmother died last night. I just got the word now. They leave about 3 hours away so we can't attend the services but we would like to send something. They were very close and I know she is having a hard time. My first thought was flowers but I'm sure she will get tons. What about an edible arrangement? Too tacky? Thoughts?

Oh I would live to have you in my family. I've lost both my grandmothers in the past year, and I didn't even get as much as a phone call from my in laws.

I don't have anything new to add, just to say that sending food somehow is a great idea. I would have appreciated it anyway

I'm sorry about your SIL's loss.

talkthewholetime · January 2014

ykristos said:
Do you know her favorite food? You could see if there are take-out/delivery places in their area that will deliver a couple of trays of food. That always comes more in handy that flowers, and I'm sure they'll appreciate the thought. I don't know if that's weird/maybe it's a Jersey Italian thing, but it's what we always do.

Must be a jersey thing because I was going to say the same thing. Or gift cards to local places that deliver so she can decide when she wants it.

Tkhixen · January 2014

jjh471 said:

Have you heard of the Alex and Ani bangles/bracelets? They are really comfortable and they have simple charms (singular for each bangle), but I was in a store the other day and they have one that is grandmother related, maybe send her one of those so she can think of her grandmother a lot? I think they are about $30. If I was close to some one I think that would be nice to have as a small reminder.
Yes. She has a few as well. Thats a nice idea thank you. I'll have to run these past DH and see what he thinks thank you!!

Or, if you don't do that, there is Origami Owl...you can personalize a locket for her, but they are little more money. I like the idea of a necklace/bracelet.

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