Sexist party favors?

Re: Sexist party favors?

• erbear member

  December 2013

  I don't like it. My daughters don't like princesses and would a million times rather play with rescue bots, so I'm annoyed when they are handed a "girl" favor bag. We take it, but they don't play with the stuff and we end up tossing it shortly thereafter since it's getting no use. 

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• magentawarped member

  December 2013

  If you're having a theme party, just stick with the theme. My daughter would play with robots or princesses equally.

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• MoreThanABride member

  December 2013

  Yes it is sexist

  BFP 11/09 - DD 7/10 - BFP 8/11 - M/C 9/11 - BFP 6/12 - DD - 2/13

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• Cherryblossoms07 member

  December 2013

  magentawarped said:

  If ypou're having a theme party, just stick with the theme. My daughter would play with robots or princesses equally.

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• ClaudiaStar21 member

  December 2013

  Thanks for the feedback. I think I may get enough favor bags of the transformers for everyone and some "girl bags " too and they can choose. I think it's more that the only transformers stuff I can find is more on the older side. They don't have much if the rescue bots stuff which is more toddler appropriate. The transformers seems more "boyish" than the rescue bots especially since there is one girl charachter and they don't make her toy.
  Thanks for the feedback.

  

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• magentawarped member

  January 2014

  fredalina said:

  Just do the transformers. My kid would tell you to your face it's not fair and then I would have to get her in trouble for being rude and then she'd tell me you were rude for giving her girl things when she wanted boy things. How do I know? Lived through this exact scenario last fall.

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• Soap1 member

  January 2014

  I think it's okay to offer alternatives as choices, but make sure you have enough of each.  Then the boys AND the girls can choose which type of bag they'd want.  Otherwise just keep them all the same.
  
  We went to a bday party with "boy" favors and "girl" favors.  DS1 wanted the boy one, but DS2 wanted the tiara girl favor bag
  

  
  
  
  
  

  
  

  

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• authorofdreamz member

  January 2014

  I would have both and let ALL the children choose. Some girls may want the transformers and some boys may want the princess stuff, to assume that transformers are "for boys" and princesses are "for girls" reinforces negative gender stereotypes.
  

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• foreverapartofme member

  January 2014

  Coming from a big family with so many cousins.. I would highly suggest that you just pick one theme and make sure there is enough for everyone.  It is easier that way because kids will pick up on the differences or complain it's not fair or forget which bag they chose...  One party favor bag is the way to go! Have fun with party planning!

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