I hate my MIL...

cMichelle0423 · December 2013

So last night while dh and I were walking around with our 10 month old (he's learning to walk), we had an accident and dh let him fall and hit his head. Now I know he obviously didn't do this on purpose. But I literally told him not but 10 seconds before it happened to make sure he was holding him better because I felt like he didn't have him in a good position... I couldn't help myself when I got upset and ran to my baby boy to make sure he was okay and soothe him. We're staying the week at my MIL's house so she came running around the corner to see what was going on. She asked what happened and dh told her. She asked who's fault it was and I just pointed in my husband's direction. My dh looked at me and said he didn't mean to (which I knew that) but all I said was he should have had him better. Any way, I went into the bedroom that we're staying in to try to get our son to calm down then out of nowhere my mil barges in our room and started bitching at me for getting upset with my H and starts ranting about how much of a horrible person I am for getting upset and making my H feel like shit. So of course I get mad because I feel like she's basically attacking me. Which in turn pisses her off more because some how I'm the one being disrespectful, just because I'm not going to sit there and let her start waving her finger at me and calling me a bunch of names.

So after telling her that I feel like she has no right to talk to me like that, I stopped talking to her and let her continue to tell me how shitty of a person I am and how mean I am all because I got mad at my husband. I could have been just as rude and disrespectful right back, but I held my tongue. This is NOT the first time something like this has happened. I feel like she crosses boundaries like that all the time and I'm so sick of it. Its literally gotten to the point to where its starting to cause issues in my relationship with my husband because he hates when me and his mother fight. Anyways, that's my vent. Thanks for reading lol I feel better having get that off my chest. I feel like I can't even vent to my husband about it, cuz heaven forbid I say I'm not happy with his mother.

katekat8721 · December 2013

1. You overreacted to your DH. Looking back you probably should have realized he would never mean to harm your baby and not tattled on him to his mother.
2. Your MIL overreacted to you. She shouldn't have spoken to you that way, but good job for keeping your cool.
3. Where is your DH while MIL is ragging on you? He shouldn't have let his mother rail on you like that. If he hates the fighting why is he not stopping it?
4. I vote it's time to go home now.

Good luck sweets.

Mztwilson · December 2013

Pepper6 · December 2013

I agree with katekat. It was an overreaction, yes, but that's yours and your H's business to work out, not your MIL's.

wtfisup · December 2013

Husband needs to step in. I think it's my responsibility to moderate how my parents treat H, and vice versa.

PinkKEL9 · December 2013

I agree that you overreacted with your DH. Same thing could have happened if you were holding the baby up. But your MIL should not have talked to you like that and your DH should have stepped in and stood up for you.

MaidMarion25 · December 2013

This!

cMichelle0423 · December 2013

Yes I absolutely agree that I overreacted with my H. He and I talked about it and I apologized a million times because I definitely did not mean to make him feel worse than he already did.

And I also agree that my H should have stepped in... but he didn't. He never does. He says he hates being put in the middle, BUT he has no issue trying to force his mothers perspective on me. Cuz apparently I HAVE to see and understand where she's coming from. I never feel like I have his support when it comes to me and his mom fighting. He is the definition of a mamas boy and will NEVER say anything negative to her when she's acting like a fool.

Ugh its frustrating!!

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Mztwilson · December 2013

If my husband never stood up for me while his mother layed into me id be livid!

JmeJoLee83 · December 2013

My mother in law does this to me if I even disagree with my H. He is her only child and in her eyes can do no wrong. She has attacked me before verbally about how I ruined his chance at becoming a rock star and tells me to calm down if I have the slightest tone with him. He steps in now thankfully, but there were times that she cornered me and he wasn't there to stand up for me. I worry about what will happen even LO is here. I told my DH that I will not tolerate her speaking to me or bossing me around like that. He seems to be on board. I could never spend more than a few days with her at a time because she is so difficult to be around. So, I feel your pain!

tbmadeamistake · December 2013

Just to play devil's advocate, she was sticking up for her son the same way you were sticking up for yours. Over reactions on both parts, and it sounds like she doesn't know how to say sorry, but essentially the same thing. I agree it's time for your DH to talk with his mom about how she talks to you, because it's not ok for adults to behave that way.

ElTrain5 · December 2013

shiggybop said:
Time for a come to Jesus talk with dh.

Oh. My. God. I freaking LOVE this saying. It's now my favorite.

Also, we really need some kind of support group for f-ed up MILs. If the ppl that jog have a group, we should have a group.

First person that starts a weekly thread gets a gold star!!!

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