April 2014 Moms

Lost my Hero.. needed to get this off my chest

Lexii2385Lexii2385 member
edited December 2013 in April 2014 Moms
On Sunday I lost the most important person in my life, my grandfather. I know that he is finally at peace but it is the hardest day of my life. My hero went to heaven, the person who taught me so much throughout my entire life and always put his family first. He was a great man and I will keep him in my heart forever.

I've been so upset il cry hysterically then just sit there and stare at the wall I just feel numb...I've barely slept and just keep getting sick to my stomach... In trying to stay calm for my baby girl but it's so hard....

it's a long story but I lived with my grandparents and mom growing up and my grandfather always was there doing everything he could for me because my dad was barely around and my mom was working 2 jobs to support my sister and I... They moved to North Carolina about 12 years ago because my aunt refused to come back to nj and her husband had left her when she had a baby...well throughout everything my aunt has been this selfish person acting as if she is entitled to everything and is the only one who cares about him because she's down there living near them it just kills me that she acts this way.. I know my grandfather loved all of us no matter what and just because my mom sister and I lived 12 hours away and didn't see them every day doesn't mean we loved them any less... She didn't even put us in his obituary she put that he was survived by his wife, her and her son... It just makes me so upset.. I wish people weren't so selfish and all she ever talks about is what's hers and how she had them change their will so her and her son get more... I don't care about $ I just would like a little something of my grandfathers to keep as memento of him but that's not happening because she feels everything that's theirs belongs to her since she's down there with them... I hope that she wakes up and realized family is what's important not the money or all their "stuff" my poor grandma is ill too now and isn't making any decisions as she's unaware my aunt is manipulating her to think she's doing the right things but she's not and it's just so sad... Well I was just rambling on but it felt good to get it out if it makes any sense... I just have to try and relax and stay calm for my baby girl.. Going through this while pregnant is the worst :(

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  • I`m sorry :(
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss! I know there is nothing I can say that will make you feel better but just know that we are all here to listen and support!
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. Losin a grandparent that was so close to you is very difficult.
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss.
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss! Hugs and prayers, hun :(
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  • ((((Hugs)))) praying for you and your family. I know how hard it must be to keep yourself calm for your little one during all of this. I'm so sorry you have to deal with selfish people on top of your pain.
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  • I'm so sorry for your loss!  Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. 
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  • i'm so sorry for this huge loss :(  he sounds like he was an extraordinary man.
  • I'm sorry for your loss hun.



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  • I'm so sorry for your loss. Hugs.

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  • I am so sorry, Lexi. My grandfather was extremely important in my life as well and I still have days where the grief of losing him is physically painful (he passed 3 years ago this Christmas). T&Ps for you.
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  • I'm very sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you.
  • So very sorry for your loss.  T&P coming your way. 
  • Please read the book "the medium next door".. It is SO HELPFUL when it comes to grief! I have lost 3 of my heroes- one being my only sibling, my brother, who was killed in Iraq in 2009, while he was dismantling a roadside bomb. Then two years after I lost my Memere to cancer, and the following year my uncle (her eldest son) committed suicide. I promise you that our loved ones are ALWAYS WITH US! Big love and big hugs to you mama! There's a happy ending to my story of my angels... My due date is April 30, 2014. 5 years to the anniversary of when my brother was killed, AND I am having a boy!
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  • What a loss to bear; I am so incredibly sorry. :(
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  • I'm so sorry. I too have a shitty cousion manipulating my grandparents. It's so heartbreaking to waych
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  • Thank you all so much for yor kind words. It really helps having all you ladies. xoxo
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