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January 2014 Moms
firsttimemom143
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I could cry
firsttimemom143
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So I am just venting here....
I told DH months and months ago that I would like the first week with our LO to be just me, him and her. Be a family for that first week and enjoy our LO. He thought the idea was nice but he didnt want to take a whole week off. So I asked my mom if she would like to stay that first week (and DH was OK with this). My mom was thrilled beyond belief. She is so excited. My parents live in NC and they are currently up visiting. They go back and forth between our home and my sisters (3hrs away).
So, DH calls me at work and says he has been thinking a lot about it and he would like that week with just us 3. Im sort of heartbroken. I want the week with just the 3 of us, I mean I am the one that initiallty suggested it. But I am heartbroken to tell my mom. She will be so upset. I know she will do as we ask but it doesnt mean that it wont her her feelings.
Im taking her out for dinner tonight and plan on telling her. I will probably cry. I am going to see if she would want to come the 2nd week (which would mean she would have to stay with my sister that first week.) UGH....this all just stinks :-(
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Re: I could cry
Maybe your mom's visit can overlap into both weeks...? I'm sure she'll understand.
Emma Kate - born 10.16.03 @ 29 weeks, weighed 1lb 13oz and 13.5" long.
TTC #3
Ugh. That is tough. I remember with my first when my mom had planned on coming in for the first week or two to help me, and then when I had to tell her that DH and I really wanted that first week to ourselves. She did not take it well. But like PP said, I think you will really love having the first week for just your new little family. And also--be sure that when you communicate this to your mom, don't pin it on your husband. Explain that you both decided together that you'd really like for these first few days to be the three of you alone to get to know each other, and that you'd truly appreciate her understanding and help so much more in week two. Good luck with the conversation!
Will baby #3 be another girl?
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I didn't have to be put in that akward situation. He then starts barking about how he just can't stand my parents and can't stand them being in the house with is and how he is mad that he is being viewed as the bad guy. He just shocked me ho we just barked at me right away. And me being all hormonal just started crying and crying. I reminded him too that if my parents can't be here then his cannot visit us that first week as well. I just feel like that's fair since he wants it to be just family. His mom lives 30 min away. Now is that fair of me? Or am I overreacting saying that if my parents couldn't stay then his parents should wait a week as well?
I don't know. All this just happened and I'm so emotional right now. I just want to smack him so hard right now. I'm so miserable and these stupid hormones make my eyes turn into waterfalls . I feel like I hate him. :-(
While I was in the hospital on bed rest my mom and DH were there and sometimes they overlapped. DH knows that my mom and him are there for me in different ways and so he understood her being there. She even wanted to come into the c/s with us (I didn't like that and ended up asleep anyway) but we had boundaries. I am glad it's just DH and I these first couple days but he goes back to work Wednesday and I sure as hell already called my mom to come for the day! Moms are just supportive in a different way and sometimes you need that. Sorry that was long!