This Story frustrates me

TallaB · December 2013

https://www.cnn.com/2013/12/30/health/jahi-mcmath-girl-brain-dead/

I feel for the family, I honestly do. But, how long are they going to drag this out for?? And why do the courts keep catering to the family?

rockstarlaw · December 2013

Agreed. It's a terribly sad story, but it seems like they are grasping at straws...

Bluebird2318 · December 2013

Vinny424 said:

I just hope the girl doesn't feel pain.

There is no pain or chance of recovery. Being brain dead is completely different than being in a coma. There is simply no brain activity whatsoever. It's just a very tragic situation in which the parents (understandably) seem to be in denial. I hope they are able to find their peace so that their daughter can have hers.

MamaFantastic · December 2013

in situations like this, i tend to take the "i can't relate (and pray to God i never am forced to experience anything remotely like this) and i won't even pretend to know what i'd do if i was in this position" stance...

i mean, it's just horrifying. it's every parent's worst nightmare. it makes me lose my breath to imagine my son dying like that. my heart goes out to them.

TallaB · December 2013

Agreed with @Bluebird2318 . She is not feeling anything, she has zero brain function. The family needs to realize that instead of petitioning to keep her alive by a machine for yet another week.

Bluebird2318 · December 2013

MamaFantastic said:

in situations like this, i tend to take the "i can't relate (and pray to God i never am forced to experience anything remotely like this) and i won't even pretend to know what i'd do if i was in this position" stance...

i mean, it's just horrifying. it's every parent's worst nightmare. it makes me lose my breath to imagine my son dying like that. my heart goes out to them.

It just destroys me to think about it as a parent myself. I was following a family's story via Facebook (I do not know them personally) who just recently had to endure something similar due to an infection spreading to their baby's brain and destroying brain function--irrecoverable. I just lost it and had to hide in the bathroom and bawl my eyes out. It's heartbreaking.

From a logical standpoint, I can easily say that it's being dragged out for far too long, but from an emotional perspective as a parent, it's harder to say. Even though there is no sense in it, I can imagine that it's hard to accept and let go. It's denial as a result of grief. So, so sad.

TallaB · December 2013

Bluebird2318 said:

MamaFantastic said:

in situations like this, i tend to take the "i can't relate (and pray to God i never am forced to experience anything remotely like this) and i won't even pretend to know what i'd do if i was in this position" stance...

i mean, it's just horrifying. it's every parent's worst nightmare. it makes me lose my breath to imagine my son dying like that. my heart goes out to them.

It just destroys me to think about it as a parent myself. I was following a family's story via Facebook (I do not know them personally) who just recently had to endure something similar due to an infection spreading to their baby's brain and destroying brain function--irrecoverable. I just lost it and had to hide in the bathroom and bawl my eyes out. It's heartbreaking.

From a logical standpoint, I can easily say that it's being dragged out for far too long, but from an emotional perspective as a parent, it's harder to say. Even though there is no sense in it, I can imagine that it's hard to accept and let go. It's denial as a result of grief. So, so sad.

I can understand where it would be hard to come to terms with...I mean putting my dog down was the hardest decision ever, I can't even imagine a child. But, the families actions are just...rubbing me wrong. Its the constant trash talking of the hospital (Ok, I get they are angry and placing blame - who's to blame, we don't know), the refusal to let the hospital share their side, the constant use of the term brain "injury" instead of death and saying they feel she is still alive, the constant press conferences and media attention, and the gofundme.com account to raise money. Its clear they haven't come to terms with it - but several doctors have told them she is dead and they should really be at her bedside sharing their last moments instead of in front of cameras blaming the hospital.

Bluebird2318 · December 2013

Oh, I totally agree that it's being handled poorly at this point. I just can't even comprehend being in that position.

HNRomance · January 2014

my bf knows a couple who have a similar issue with their baby. She stopped moving in-utero and was born a vegetable. Since the family put her on life support now the court could potentially drag the parents into litigation since the little girl is now 2 even though she cannot breathe or function on her own. It's such an awful predicament no matter which way you slice it.

patunia7321 · January 2014

This is so horrible, but at the risk of sounding callous I can't imagine any situation that would end up with my family plastered all over the news or fundraising sites. But I guess grief isn't rational.

TallaB · January 2014

Thank you, @Acers. Everything about the story irritates me. I could feel for the family in the beginning, but now...I wish doctors could do their job without being over ridden by judges, lawyers and emotional families. I can't help but feel the family is not thinking of their child in the least.

patunia7321 · January 2014

I also wonder who is paying for all of the medical care/court costs? Family? Fundraising?

Teresa1896 · January 2014

I really feel for the family. I sure as hell wouldn't want a hospital or the courts to force me to pull the plug on my child. That's a choice no parent should have to make... And it is their choice to make.
It's sad they're in denial and seem to have false hope. I can't imagine their hospital bills, adding insult to injury.

rockstarlaw · January 2014

HNRomance said:

my bf knows a couple who have a similar issue with their baby. She stopped moving in-utero and was born a vegetable. Since the family put her on life support now the court could potentially drag the parents into litigation since the little girl is now 2 even though she cannot breathe or function on her own. It's such an awful predicament no matter which way you slice it.

My God - can you imagine how much medical cost they have run up at this point??!!??!! What a sad waste of resources.

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