Hi all. I haven't been around much lately, so I hope I haven't been demoted to lurker status. I'm having an issue with my dogs/husband and thought y'all might be able to help.
Some background: My DHs first dog got cancer and he really wanted one of his puppies so he could always have a part of that dog around. We ended up breeding him with my dog and kept 2 of the puppies. After Heis (DHs dog) passed away, we were a family of 2 humans, and 3 dogs, big dogs, labs. And we were fine with that and not planning on having children.
Currently: Now we have L. The dogs have been moved into the basement, where my DH keeps his computer. They get a little bit of human interaction but certainly not much. It's tough to go anywhere. Vacations are hard because we have to find someone to dog sit since kenneling them can cost more than our trip. We just don't have time to play in the yard with all 3. They are too big for L to be around yet, and the boys are still in a puppy state of mind. I just don't feel like it is a good quality of life for them.
My thought is to try and rehome the 2 boys, and keep my dog, who is a bit older. It is a sensitive situation because I'm asking my DH to get rid of his first dog's offspring. But those dogs are nothing like Heis, to me. Maybe I just needed to vent. What a weird situation.
I'll also add that my DH is so zealous with the boys that I am not allowed to get them fixed, because in the future my DH plans to breed them to keep yet another puppy. Good grief. Someone help me.
Re: moms of multiple dogs
3 dogs is a lot to me but I get your H's attachment to the dogs. How old are the younger ones? I just ask because it may be a problem to rehome them together and they might get depressed if they are both rehomed and separated.
You're in a rough situation . I would hands down insist on having the dogs fix because it will likely calm them down and make it easier to have them interact with your LO. But labs are generally great with kids in my experience so you could certainly start encouraging interaction between your LO and the dogs. Also have you expressed these issues to your H? Does he think it's fair that the dogs aren't getting enough attention? Does he do enough to help you with them?
Sorry this was a really long reply! But I do hope it gave you some things to consider. My LO loves my Moms lab (a smaller female) and my BFFs lab (a huge 100lb male) and they are both really great with her.
I agree with the PP about trying the dogs with your LO one at a time. I don't think I could ever ask my husband to get rid of his dogs, but I think you are right in trying to find a better way of handling things.
We have an Akita and a Boston that get along fine with the kid.
Like other posters have said, I would definitely introduce the dogs to your LO and give them several months to get used to each other before giving up on them. They may surprise you and learn to be gentle with LO and become great friends!
I think YH is crazy for wanting to breed them again, however I am very against the breeding of pets anyway. We have a serious overpopulation problem with dogs as it is and adding to the problem is a horrible thing to do, IMO.
Please don't rehome your dogs without giving them every chance first. YOU brought them into this world. YOU took on the responsibility, now YOU have to see it through. That means introducing them to your LO, training them to be gentle with her, possibly even seeking the help/advice of a professional, whatever it takes. They are helpless animals and did not choose you as their owners. Please give them every chance possible to be a part of the family that made a commitment to care for them.
ETA: Sorry if this sounded blunt, I am just very passionate about pet owners taking responsibility for their pets. I would 100% get your dogs fixed ASAP. It could even help with some of the temperament issues you are worried about.
They were sent to the basement shortly before Lola was born. Our house was/is on the market, so it's just easier to have them downstairs and be able to keep the upstairs cleaner. And with all the baby stuff we were accumulating, we were quickly outgrowing the space in our tiny house (why our house is for sale in the first place.) To be honest, I have missed them being part of our "pack." I understand why my DH wanted to breed his dog. He was such a lovely lab. But I feel as if he is wanting to keep up the fantasy of getting another puppy just like Heisman.
I feel better after reading everyone's replies. I think I will work on getting him to at least consider getting them fixed. And I would really like to try to reintroduce them to being upstairs in the house. I would hate for Lola to miss out on all those doggie snuggles.
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