Speaking of the "next" baby

Aprilbaby49 · December 2013

The New Year's resolution thread revealed that several of us are hoping to try for another baby in 2014.

If you don't mind sharing:
1) When are you and your DH/SO planning on trying?

2) What are your hopes or concerns about having another baby so soon after your April 13 baby?

A13 mommies that are already pregnant, feel free to ring in on question #2. Also if you already have babies close in age, can you give us some insight or advice?

jaime52005 · December 2013

1)Trying now
2) concerns-handling two under two but happy they will grow up close

Aprilbaby49 · December 2013

1) When are you and your DH/SO planning on trying?

We are going to officially "try" in January. So excited and a little nervous.

2) What are your hopes or concerns about having another baby so soon after your April 13 baby?

Would love for Noah to have a sibling close to his age as I did growing up. Sometimes I waiver back and forth about being one and done or having a 2nd one but in the end having a sibling is priceless. DH and I are on the same page about having a 2nd. We don't want to rush into it but did agree that we are ready to try again.

I do worry about having less one on one time with N or that I wouldn't be able to enjoy him while he's still a baby if I get pregnant again but I do treasure every second we have together. I have to admit though if I had my way we would have been trying months ago

melissad23 · December 2013

1) trying when she's around 1 so they'll hopefully be about 2 years apart.
2) in a perfect world we'd opt for closer to 3 years apart so she'd be more self sufficient, but I don't want to rule out the idea/option of having 3.

arschm02 · December 2013

Having 2 under 1.5 is terrifying to me but let's be honest... I work in an infant room for work. I know I'll be able to handle it. It's also nice to know that I'll be used to the chaos when #2 comes because I will never have really gotten out of it with DS. I just hope I won't miss the chaos when it's done since we more than likely will only have two.

snok83 · December 2013

1) we have not officially decided but I am leaning between trying this summer or next as I work in a school and loved having my maternity leave backed to summer vacation. Not sure if my DH will ever completely be ready tho!

2) part of me would like to have a little bigger gap between 1st and 2 child. But another part of me feels like I don't want to wait too long as I am turning 31. There are days when i am tired with one and then juggling 2 is freightening at times. I also wonder if work will be like prego again and same w others. Tho I feel a 2 yr gap isn't bad

pinottoparenthood · December 2013

snok83 said:

1) we have not officially decided but I am leaning between trying this summer or next as I work in a school and loved having my maternity leave backed to summer vacation. Not sure if my DH will ever completely be ready tho! 2) part of me would like to have a little bigger gap between 1st and 2 child. But another part of me feels like I don't want to wait too long as I am turning 31. There are days when i am tired with one and then juggling 2 is freightening at times. I also wonder if work will be like prego again and same w others. Tho I feel a 2 yr gap isn't bad

This is me exactly except for the age concern (I am 27).

Aprilbaby49 · December 2013

@arschm02 - how are you doing btw? I hope this thread didn't make you feel sad or upset considering your post the other day. I hope you are feeling better about being pregnant again.

bes12 · December 2013

We're thinking about possibly trying starting in February. We want our LO's to be close in age and grow up together. I'm terrified to say the least but to me the pros outweigh the cons!

arschm02 · December 2013

Aprilbaby49 said:

@arschm02 - how are you doing btw? I hope this thread didn't make you feel sad or upset considering your post the other day. I hope you are feeling better about being pregnant again.

today was definitely better than yesterday. Still trying to let it sink in though. Not tell MH is killing me though! Thanks for asking.

kristalg25 · December 2013

I would love another right now but will probably wait until Ava is two. I'm finishing up school and would like to be done before we start again. My FI already has two boys who are a lot older than Ava and while the youngest one loves her I would like her to have a sibling a lot closer to her age to grow up with.

melissad23 · December 2013

also - I saw an absurd amount of pregnant women at church this morning and it was making me so antsy!!!

MKC12/22/2006 · December 2013

I am nowhere near ready. I'm not sure when I will be!

Aprilbaby49 · December 2013

@arschm02 - Glad to hear that today was better. Hopefully you feel better as the days pass and it sinks in. I can't imagine having to keep the news from your H- it must be soooooooo hard!

Other mommas - I have to add that the idea of managing two babies is terrifying. I've heard going from one to two is pure chaos!

sapphire021 · December 2013

1) We will begin trying around her second birthday, hoping they will be around 2.5 - 3 years apart. I am also turning 31 soon and don't want to wait too long, but finances will not allow for "2 under 2" right now. ( I want to keep the option open for a 3rd, we are undecided)

2) My brother and I are 3 years apart and I like the age difference. I worry I will be "out of practice" but I like the idea of LO being a little older.

BellaBean76 · December 2013

We will likely try this summer in the hopes they will be around two years apart...I would love to wait another year, but I'm 37 already...so I don't want to wait too long...

ceamac0127 · December 2013

MKC12/22/2006 said:
I am nowhere near ready. I'm not sure when I will be!

Ditto

JBDamonM · December 2013

My situation is a little different since a natural pregnancy is next to impossible. I will probably start tracking my cycles in Frbruary - really just to figure out if-when I am ovulating, and well try the old fashioned way just for the long shot miracle. Realistically we will probably be headed for an FET, I would imagine in August or September.

I definitely want my LO to have a sibling and age is our driving factor for the timeline. I am terrified of juggling two kids - but I can't wait to be pregnant again. Our kids will be over 2 years apart so I think well be ok in the long run!

Aprilbaby49 · December 2013

JBDamonM said:
My situation is a little different since a natural pregnancy is next to impossible. I will probably start tracking my cycles in Frbruary - really just to figure out if-when I am ovulating, and well try the old fashioned way just for the long shot miracle

Pulling for a long shot miracle for you!

As for the ladies who have/want more than two, you are my heroes

cfattig · December 2013

snok83 said:

1) we have not officially decided but I am leaning between trying this summer or next as I work in a school and loved having my maternity leave backed to summer vacation. Not sure if my DH will ever completely be ready tho! 2) part of me would like to have a little bigger gap between 1st and 2 child. But another part of me feels like I don't want to wait too long as I am turning 31. There are days when i am tired with one and then juggling 2 is freightening at times. I also wonder if work will be like prego again and same w others. Tho I feel a 2 yr gap isn't bad

This is exactly me, but add a couple of years to the age. I feel like I'm barely keeping my head above water as it is, but I'm not getting any younger. And this is my first attempt at commenting with a quote from another post, so if it screws up, forgive me.

JBDamonM · December 2013

Aprilbaby49 said:

My situation is a little different since a natural pregnancy is next to impossible. I will probably start tracking my cycles in Frbruary - really just to figure out if-when I am ovulating, and well try the old fashioned way just for the long shot miracle
Pulling for a long shot miracle for you! As for the ladies who have/want more than two, you are my heroes

That's so sweet! Thank you. I am just grateful that this time I know what's going on and won't have to endure months and months of frustration and sadness when AF shows up.

anniebanan18 · December 2013

Baby girl born April 24. Husband wants another but after suffering PPD I'm terrified. Afraid I won't make it through.

Gracious1014 · December 2013

Ideally we will have #2 shortly after DH is done with grad school in April 2015. That being said, I'm not on BC and if it happens before then, great! It took us a year to get pregnant the first time so we decided to not prevent this time around.

KrisM86 · December 2013

My April baby was my second and we are pretty sure we're done with 2. However, my son and daughter are only 18 months apart. I got pregnant with DS when DD was about 9 months old.

Mostly, I love how close in age they are. They're really starting to play together and DD was young enough that she adjusted pretty quickly to not being the only one. They'll be into many of the same things due to their close ages and will actually only be a year apart in school.

I will say that a pregnancy is definitely tougher when you are chasing/carrying a young toddler around constantly. Also, the first 6 months were HARD. DD still needed me for everything and having a newborn who didn't sleep well made for a very cranky mommy a lot of the time. It was tough feeling like neither child got "enough" of me for a while.

That being said, I'm really happy we did things the way we did. I hope having my kids close in age will help foster a close relationship between them.

Good luck to those of you trying to get pregnant in the new year!

Sarahbeth1169 · December 2013

Well its possible I could be pregnant but its to soon to know. We werent trying but at the same time didnt prevent. I want our 2nd next year if possible so our babies can be close in age. I think we will be done afterward. I would love a 3rd but the hubby doesnt want 3.

It would be hard to have 2 under 2 but at the same time I'm excited. My hubby works a lot so I take care of our little guy a lot on my own. I think it hard for my family since they watch my little guy while were at work since they would have a newborn and a 1 1/5 year old but we will see. :-)

Mommymorticia · December 2013

We won't be trying again until at least two more years because I'm not emotionally ready and I have a couple of things I want to do first. Ideal timing between kids is not 2 years for me. I am catching the baby fever though. We have a lot of babies coming soon in the family and I notice pergnant women a lot more now when I'm out and I get a little jealous sometimes. But just a little!

Good luck to those trying or getting ready to! Exciting!

bhjones1980 · December 2013

We want to start trying as soon as possible, but my period still hasnt come back (Still BFing), so we are just waiting on that. We only want two and want them as close in age as possible.

Both because I think having siblings close in age is great (My sister is 14 months older than me) and also because we want to "get it over with" (meant in the best way possible), have our family complete.

MrsP7309 · December 2013

We might be trying either late this year or early next year. We'll decide this summer. We want 2-2.5 years between kids.

ClandestineX · December 2013

I have said before if I were to have another, it would be end of Feb. beginning of March to have a Christmas/New Years baby. Though, I am not physically or mentally ready and will probably wait until that time 2015 before trying again. Age isn't a concern for me, but it is for my husband who said he will get snipped when he is 38 no matter what (3 years).

bionic4me · December 2013

Trying
DH & I are both in our 40's... for that reason, we had talked about waiting to try until either January or after baby girl's birthday. Ideally, I would have liked 2-3 years between our LOs.

To our surprise, we recently found out that we are expecting in July. We have been in denial and still trying to come to terms with this unexpected pregnancy.

Fears
My fears are that I won't be able to enjoy these next few months with DD along with her 1st birthday. I had bad morning sickness for the first 2 trimesters last time. I am afraid of juggling two kids under two and daycare costs.

Hopes
Yet, I am hoping that they will be best of friends due to their closeness in age. I also hope that DD will not have a difficult transition to becoming a big sister.

BellaBean76 · December 2013

@bionic4me wow congrats on the pregnancy!! So exciting! Wowzer 15 months apart?!? I think your fears and your hopes are well justified...hopefully you will get a pass on the morning sickness this time around!

TuckleUp · December 2013

We'll be trying soon (I'm old) even though I'm scared and my cycle isn't regular. Ideally, I would have waited two years before trying again.

bionic4me · December 2013

@BellBean76 - Thanks! Luckily, so far, the morning sickness hasn't been as bad. Crossing my fingers that it will stay this way

burneyonboard · January 2014

Aprilbaby49 said:

The New Year's resolution thread revealed that several of us are hoping to try for another baby in 2014. If you don't mind sharing: 1) When are you and your DH/SO planning on trying? 2) What are your hopes or concerns about having another baby so soon after your April 13 baby? A13 mommies that are already pregnant, feel free to ring in on question #2. Also if you already have babies close in age, can you give us some insight or advice?

1) We are done having babies. I'm content with two but I can't say in 5 years I won't change my mind.

2) I was pregnant again with DS after my oldest was only 1 1/2 years old. It was hard because I was sick all of the time and he was a much bigger baby. My advice...try to get on a schedule. If you don't you will feel like you don't have time to do anything and you will get overwhelmed. Also, nap time becomes your best friend. Make sure to put both babies on a similar nap schedule so you can get a little break during the day. Lastly, remember every baby is different. Some of the same techniques you used on your first may not work with this baby. But hang in there! It is hard at times but so amazing!!!

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