This may be kind of an odd question, but when I put the presents out, it didn't look like hardly anything! Then I saw people's posts on Facebook "Santa came!" and the tree was overflowing!
We got DS 6 presents (5 toys and 1 pajamas) plus his stocking. And my parents got him a tricycle. (And he still has Christmas with the other set of grandparents coming up this weekend.) *I* felt like he's had a good Christmas, but then seeing the piles and piles and gifts people posted on Facebook made me feel a little bit like I failed. This year he's not old enough to compare Christmas gifts with his friends, but as he gets older I don't want him to feel like he didn't get as much as his friends. We can afford to do more, but I refuse to be one of those parents that shells out $1,000 per kid! I didn't add it up exactly, but I know we spent less than $200, probably closer to $150.
Re: How many presents did you get LO?
I think you should feel good about your amount of presents not being crazy! No offense to anyone who goes all out, but it's really important to me to not have an excessive amount of Christmas presents under our tree, this year and every year. It has nothing to do with finances, just with keeping DD grounded and our house free of a ton of toys and having material things less emphasized in our lives.
We gave DD two books, a ball that lights up, and some flashcards (since she's obsessed with some sign language flashcards that someone else gave her for her birthday). My sister sent her a play kitchen, so that was the big gift, as well as some play pots and pans and food. Then some other family members sent her books and Duplos. That amount of gifts was totally enough for her, and even then we had to sort of encourage her to open the next gifts so we weren't sitting there all day. I'm sure there will be years in the future where she wants to receive more stuff, but I plan on trying to emphasize that having more stuff is not one of our family priorities!
I kid you not it was her favorate present. She walked around brushing her teeth with both toothbrushes until we left for my Moms.
I just don't think it's necessary to buy hoards of gifts but I did feel a little bad seeing everyone's piles of presents on FB. Just remember, they may be swimming in credit card debt...you just won't see that status update.
Now if all the grandparents' presents were also piled under the tree at the same time, that would have been a big pile. But just ours, not so much. And that's OK with me.
Christmas isn't about the gifts- it's about being with family and making memories (so very Hallmark, I know haha) but it is true! I want DD to be grateful for the things she receives from us and extended family. I don't want her to expect anything.
I shop sales throughout the year and hoard stuff in my closet. All and all I spent about 200 on DD (clothes, shoes, toys, and books) and my parents got her a couple bigger things.
She got spoiled from everyone else though (WAYY too much), she got a little tikes crazy coupe, a beanbag chair, tons of food for her kitchen, a radio flyer trike, leapfrog toys, two dolls, little people farmhouse, sleeping bag, a bookshelf, toybox organizer for her closet, tons of pajamas and books! ugh, i don't know where to put it all. but we're very thankful our families were so thoughtful!
We only bought her one thing: a pottery barn kids chair that was shipped to our new house. She'll see it when we move there January 11. But from her grandparents on both sides and my brother, she got a puzzle, 3 books, a bunch of winter clothes, a snowsuit, a coat and a doll. Her big present from my folks is a rocking horse that she's scared to death of. She also got some toy cars (plastic with a handle on top) a few days before from me when I was trying to keep her entertained.
I know future years we'll have to have at least two things under the tree for her, but we knew she was getting so much stuff from the grandparents that she didn't need any more.
I think it's greAt you're not overwhelming your kids with stuff.
I moved all her old toys out of the living room for now. Will need to put some away
Santa brought 5 gifts plus his stocking and he got clothes from us. I saw the same kind of pictures, but I don't feel bad at all. I still spent a good amount on him. And then he got a TON of stuff from family.
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Trying for #1 since May 2010 l DX ~ Unexplained Infertility June 2011
IUI #1&2 = BFN; IUI #3 = BFP, m/c @ 6 weeks
November '11 ~ IVF#1 ~ ER 11/18 (29R, 17F) ~ 5dt of one beautiful blast on 11/23 = BFP!!
Beta #1 9dp5dt = 116, P4 = 28 ~ Beta #2 13dp5dt = 700 ~ Beta #3 20dp5dt = 9500, P4 = 26
1st u/s 12/27 - hb of 156!! EDD 8.10.12
**TEAM GREEN!**
Sweet baby boy born 8.18.12
Trying for #2
FET #1 - October '13 - c/p l FET #2 - December '13 - cancelled
l FET #2.2 - 1.30.14 - BFN
~ More testing - hysteroscopy, endometrial biopsy & more b/w - all normal / negative~
Surprise BFP while waiting on FET #3 ~ beta #1 500; beta #2 1600; first u/s 4/3 - measuring 5w5d, no hb yet!; 2nd u/s 4/10 - hb 132, measuring 6w6d - EDD 11.29.14
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Beautiful baby girl born 11.24.14
I saw a conversation on FB that someone admitted to spending $3k on her 2 children. The picture of the gifts under the tree were insane. H said this is the way he grew up, even though his parents were broke. They just took out a loan! He still feels we didn't get W enough, but I think we got him plenty. He cared more about the gift wrap and bags, anyway.
DD Born August 16, 2012
FET #1 Dec 2013 BFN
FET # 2 Feb 2014 BFN
No more frosties
IVF #2. September 2014
PGD yielded 2 perfect 5d blasts
SET November 9, 2014
Nov 23, 2014. Another BFN
Not sure where to go from here.