FTMs and sticking to your guns

BC&LM · December 2013

Before we had LOs, I bet some of us had ideas in our heads of what we thought we would do or would never do with our LOs, but as reality sets in, we definitely give in on some of those ideas while we stick to our guns on others. So what have you given in on and what are you sticking to your guns on so far?

(STM feel free to weigh in too; I just thought this might apply to FTM slightly more.)

BC&LM · December 2013

Given in on: I always thought I would never take LO anywhere if he were sick, but with the constant runny noses and coughs he seems to get from daycare, this is something I have given in on somewhat. Now that doesn't mean I'm not being cautious at all. LO has been to the doctor multiple times to check on this. His lungs are totally clear, no signs of RSV, never runs a fever, etc. I don't take him to visit family/friends with very young infants because they are much more susceptible to these things. And I bring it up first if we will be around other young kids, but most of the time my family/friends are like, yeah our kid has a constantly runny nose this winter too; it's fine.

I guess you could say I gave in on formula feeding too. I was always willing to do it if I had to, but I was REALLY hoping to breastfeed.

Stuck to my guns: no TV, waiting to start food until around six months

KellenHi21 · December 2013

I stuck to my guns so far with: natural med free birth, breast feeding, waiting until around 6 months for solids.

I said no tv but we went to a cry baby matinee, and every once in a while one of us has the tv on and he sees it. I also thought I would do blw, nope... Purées so far. I didn't think I would co-sleep but if it's after 5am when he wakes, in to bed he comes!

DaisyDuck40 · December 2013

Yeah I gave into the tv....but he loses intrest in it real quick and would much rather have a toy...so that's good.

amberdt03 · December 2013

The only thing I said I wouldn't do is cosleep. While he hasn't slept with us overnight, I've definitely put him in bed with me so we could both get a good nap.

kh59 · December 2013

I thought I wouldn't cosleep. We do. I love it and have no intention of stopping any time soon.

I really wanted to breastfeed, and I'm grateful that's still going well.

tttwalters · December 2013

I never thought we would cosleep, but as previous posters have said, if it is early in the morning he comes in with me. I also told myself I would be super relaxed and easy going. No one told me about hormones that seem to dictate some of that.

Monkeybutt80 · December 2013

As a first time mom and having no baby experience, I had no idea what to expect do I didn't have any 'never's. So far, I'm still able to breastfeed, make home made purees but he watches tv and I even put my old iphone in a fisher price case for him to play with. We cosleep after he wakes up at 4am.

ASmallWonder · December 2013

I have/had zero guns to stick to lol Oh, well maybe one that I can think of. Our kids don't go to movies or nicer restaurants. DS1 just saw his first movie a couple months ago and the nicest place I think we've been is Chili's lol I respect that people pay good, hard earned money for an enjoyable experience and my children aren't exactly going to add anything to that

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Maelara · December 2013

Most of my guns will come into play when N becomes a child instead of an infant. So ask this again in about 3 years =D I did have a couple for infant hood though.

I swore I'd never cosleep but sometime it's the only way I get sleep. I wanted to EBF for a year but as I've stated before, my breast tissue didn't develop properly. I can be proud of how hard I tried though. I did EVERYTHING I could. I also said that mine and DHs sex life wouldn't be affected and it has. Ain't nobody got time for that.

dmarie1010 · December 2013

I said we'd never co sleep, shes still in the bed with us at 6 months...

I also said I wouldn't be one of those moms that picks up their kid every time they cry...who was i kdding? I'm a wuss, I see that sad lip and run to her.

I said I wanted to bf for 6 months and though I didnt make it ebfing, I am still pumping so she gets 10-15oz of bm a day.

jennOK · December 2013

I said I would never have him in the bed with me. Guess who has him in bed every night. Yep, I've learned that you'll do anything for some sleep.

daffy2k · December 2013

I had this perfect vision of the type of SAHM I'd be... Not even close!

Stuck to my guns - natural, med free birth, EBF, no TV, cloth diapering, making my own baby food (so far anyways)

Gave in - solids before 6m (she was just ready earlier), occasional cosleeping. The biggest thing I gave up on was being the perfect wife/SAHM. DD take 2 20-30 min naps daily and while she's awake she demands all of my attention. I'm still learning to accept my limitations

CindyRelluh · December 2013

When I was a FTM I said I would never co-sleep/bed share and we never have. My kids thankfully love their cribs, since being in there from the get go! We said we wouldn't use a paci, but dd loved hers! She's weaned now, but it wasn't pretty. I wanted to bf so badly, but it didn't work out with dd because of medical conditions, and DS didn't work out because of personal reasons.

DD's pedi told me a LONG time ago: "She's your daughter, you're the mom. YOU decide what's best", and I live by that. When I believe they're ready, we go for it. I don't read books or internet articles, but I did at first. In hindsight did it help? No. I know my babies better than anyone.

cafecreme · December 2013

The only thing I can think of is breastfeeding. I said to myself "If I can make it the first month with breastfeeding, I could definitely do it up to a year" Well, that never happened, and I stopped after almost 6 months. I was having supply issues and breast refusal, and I was so stressed out that I gained the majority of my baby weight back. I am a lot happier now, and starting to lose some of it again.

phishgirl29 · December 2013

I'm still against co sleeping and have never done it, and I did ebf for over 6 months so that counts as sticking to my guns. I'm sad that my son has always hated baby wearing and I hope that any future children will let me do it more often.

LaBellaVida · December 2013

I swore I'd never ever cloth diaper!! It was so gross, how could anyone do that? well, I tried it and I love it! Why did I not start it sooner, and with my other kids? The smell alone of a Sposie makes me sick!

I said blw wasn't for us, however I've given him avocado and banana whole. Its more of a mess then anything, but he enjoys it. I personally feel purees are better for us, but I go with the flow and do what he wants.

I've said I'd never let my kid have a melt town in public....but I have. I'm referring to my older kids here, when they were little.

I just go with the flew. Every baby is different.

dmlk413 · December 2013

I really wanted a med free birth but I don't think it was something I 'gave in on'. My options were get an epi or a csection so it wasn't like I had a choice.

I stuck to my guns with BFing and not giving solids until 6 months.

ColieAnn31 · December 2013

I said I would never co sleep but once we weaned from the swaddle that's the only way we could get more than an hour of sleep at a time. I got a baby bullet at my baby shower and thought I was going to make all the baby food but I haven't made any yet. Jars are just easier and I'll admit that I'm lazy haha I also don't let anyone feed LO unless I'm around and can see what they are feeding him but that's just because I'm paranoid and my uncle is an ass (funyun incident) but other than that I'm pretty go with the flow.

clairmeij · December 2013

I thought I would exclusively cloth diaper at home, but with daycare not accepting cloth, it means that it would take 3 or 4 nights to have enough dirty to make even half a load of laundry. So I have about 40 cloth diapers gathering dust. I should try to sell them i suppose. I thought I would do blw, but the potential choking factor freaks me out a bit. I swore I would be rational and not let anything my pediatrician said scare me, but the love for this little man has me terrified if every appt doesn't go perfectly.

Maelara · December 2013

I would like to add, before N got here I was so sure I was going to do CIO and now I'd rather chew off my own leg. I also thought I'd start doing pablum but this board made me rethink it

so, thank you ladies!

CindyRelluh · December 2013

@brandilc84 I KNOW!! I was that mom, who would see kids throwing fits in public and judge so hard, like "my kids will never do that!". Psh. Dd threw a fit at the mall recently thanks to tiredness, and I just held her hand, and left. People were staring, and idk if it was because they were judging like I used to, or they were thinking "how is she keeping her cool?" Lol.

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