Twins...Any advice?

oughtonk · December 2013

New here kind of...it's been a long time since I've been on the bump and I'm back for baby Round 2 :-)

I just got home from the doctor and surprise! We're pregnant with twins, I'm in shock and am freaking out a little bit. Both are measuring at 10 weeks with strong heart beats at 166 and 157. What can I expect from this ride we're about to go on? Any advice from those of you who have had twins or are further along in your pregnancy. I have a 5 year old son so this isn't my first pregnancy but this one is definitely going to be different.

24karat · December 2013

Congrats!

Advice: You may hear a lot of potentially scary things (from doctors and Google) about what could go wrong. Don't stress over it and step away from Dr. Google when necessary.

If you have questions, feel free to ask us. There are both MoMs and MoMs-to-be here so there's a lot of experience to draw from. Jump in, get to know us, and I hope you have a healthy pregnancy.

MissMarnee · December 2013

Congrats!!!! Our girls are 7 months old now, I certainly felt the shock of a lifetime when our doc told us we had two on the way, but for us it's just been the best thing ever! See if you can find a local twin club in your area, we've found a ton of support through them...

Rynleigh · December 2013

It will be the longest pregnancy of your life

WELCOME!

oughtonk · December 2013

I'm already hearing all of the things that can go wrong but trying to stay positive. It's been a lot to take in so far but was amazing seeing them both in the ultrasound today.

24karat · December 2013

oughtonk said:

I'm already hearing all of the things that can go wrong but trying to stay positive. It's been a lot to take in so far but was amazing seeing them both in the ultrasound today.

Yeah definitely stay positive. There's no reason to worry over all the "what ifs" that there are out there before they show up. Having multiples doesn't guarantee you'll have complications, it just makes it a little more likely that you could have some crop up. Many MoMs go on to have complication-free pregnancies and L&D.

KatieGummow · December 2013

23 weeks here

Congratulations! It is much much different from a singleton pregnancy. I was glad I read the book "What to Expect When You're Expecting Multiples..." because it was the most information I have found on how twins are made and how the pregnancy is different. But it will also scare the crap out of you so take it with a grain of salt.

Just remember how magical you are. You are making your child's best friend, and that is pretty neat. Definitely stay on here and ask questions. These ladies know their stuff. I have learned a lot, and they are REALLY good at being encouraging and not scaring you.

xnbride · December 2013

Congratulations!! No real advice because I am in the thick of it myself, but I wanted to say hello. I have 3 boys and was shocked to discover we were expecting twins. I think I am still in denial a bit. Not sure when it will all sink in. Maybe not until they are actually here! I look forward to getting to know you.

BabyCarryingVessel · December 2013

Yay! Welcome and congrats! Ditto to stepping away from Dr. Google. Just don't do it! Listen to your body, take care of yourself and don't over do it. Lots of MoMs have uneventful pregnancies, so H&H 9 months!

Incrediblelife · December 2013

Congrats! 28 weeks here, and the biggest difference I've found to my other pregnancies has been how much I've had to slow down. Singleton pregnancies you can pretty much keep going right to the end, but with twins you really really need to listen to docs and other twin moms when they say to slow down. It's challenging if you have other kids, but saves on many potential complications.
I had such bad morning sickness with my other kids, this time only mild for two weeks! So twins doesn't automatically mean you're symptoms will be twice as bad. This pregnancy I've actually felt fabulous, my others were horrid. So you just never know.
28 weeks seems to be a real turning point for many twin pregnancies, and I think I've just hit the discomfort stage finally. Oh, and things change DAILY. Seriously. What an amazing trip this is!
Enjoy it, and you'll be in awe of what your body is going through. It's pretty cool

TheDairyQueenx3 · December 2013

It takes a toll on your body like no other! And was nothing like my singleton. That it is such a blessing and an experience not many get to have. Also you will mostly hear horror stories but honestly I never had any family help us it was me and my 4 year old alone from the beginning (DH had to go right back to work) and although they are only 6 weeks old I haven't had any issues feeling overwhelmed. Took a few days to get breastfeeding down but it's not what I thought. Sure I'm tired but I nurse both at the same time and put them back to sleep so it's no different than one ... To me anyhow. One baby likes to be held a lot but I just wear him

also for whatever reason suddenly every. single. person. you ever knew including your supermarket checkout woman was either a) pregnant with twins and one vanished b) is a twin or was supposed to be a twin or c) will have the dumbest twin story you will ever hear. Congrats!

StacyH0507 · December 2013

I have to agree that you get lots of scary information told to you or at least I did, I had to learn to not really listen and to know that everybody is different when it comes to pregnancy with multiples. I got pretty tired of people telling me that my babies will be born super early and that I can't travel at all and so far none of that has been confirmed by my doctor.

ks3pink · December 2013

Congrats and welcome. My daughter was five almost six when we got pregnant with the boys. There is a lot of jealousy still but also a lot of loves and hugs. Do your best to make him feel included in everything and spend time with just him whenever you can, especially after the twins arrive. GL!

oughtonk · December 2013

Thanks ladies! I'm starting to feel a lot better about this wonderful gift we've been given. My son is excited and I hope to keep that going for him. Looking forward to this crazy journey!

CaliCarly77 · December 2013

A HUGE congratulations and glad to hear their little hearts are doing great and all looks amazing!

My first post on the multiples board was a hot panicked mess - I found out too early, at 6 weeks. At 10 weeks we had a second US and all was good and we could relax a bit, so please know that your 10 week US is a great sign!!

I (needlessly) worried my way through most of this pregnancy and yet have not had a single issue - my dr threatened so much that never happened, including bed rest. I ended up working till 34 weeks and took the rest of the year off to use up my vacation time and because I am so uncomfortable. And unbelievably, in less than 2 weeks will be a MoM!!!

I second others - join a local multiples club, its invaluable! I have a whole dresser filled with free baby clothes from the club and a free twin stroller, its great.

skeppler1 · December 2013

Congrats!!!!
It really is a huge blessing. I am almost 30 wks and have had a GREAT pregnancy so far (first one so can't compare). As of last week things have got a little more uncomfortable and harder to do. I agree with PP's....listen to what your body tells you. Slow down if you need to and take naps to bring your energy back up.

We were totally shocked at first also but came to embrace that we have two blessings coming soon.

GL to you and your family. H&H 9 months to you and your babies

LegalLadyBug · December 2013

Avoid the bad stuff, seriously. My OB mentioned at my first appt when we found out it was twins that there is a chance of vanishing twin. I obsessed about that till my next appt, I was nearly in tears at the next ultrasound because I was so sure one would be gone. Both are and were fine but I still find myself so worried about losing one I know I'm missing out on enjoying it :-( So, long story short: listen to your OB, don't stress, enjoy planning for the babies! :-)

LottaLattes · December 2013

My advice, hire a housekeeper if you can starting about week 20. And keep the housekeeper until you can definitely handle cleaning on your own again if you do most of it. If you don't have one already

Oh and listen to everyone who tells you to hire help the first few weeks. While it is totally doable to do it on your own (if you don't already have parents who can help or whatever) it is just easier to have someone who can manage babies for a couple hours while you do anything but. It can be a long hard pregnancy, if you are lucky, but twins are amazing to have once you regain color from the shock of it all

JoDoc · December 2013

My boys are 5 weeks now and they were my first pregnancy. I didn't know what to expect at all but the ladies here were great, if I had a question they answered it, gave great advice and were there with opinions. Yes, every pregnancy is different but that's what's great about this site. You get advice from so many different MoM's that you'll find one with similar situations.

I didn't have many issues, but the ones I did have were uncomfortable. I had nausea during the first trimester, then migraines for about a month. I had horrible swelling in my legs, my left was far worse than my right (6" circumference difference) that caused pain. I was however able to work until the day my water broke (I didn't know my water broke and actually went to work that morning), at 36w3d. Some women are put on bedrest early, and my doctor told me many times how "wonderful" I was doing staying as active as I did.

I think the thing you'd better get used to are the comments from people. Strangers, family, friends, they'll all comment. Some will be good, some will be bad, some will leave you asking yourself "Really? Did you really just ask me that question/say that to me?" Just remember, God knew you could handle multiples, so don't doubt yourself!

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