In need of some support

arschm02 · December 2013

Well after my period was a couple days late I finally worked up the courage to take a pregnancy test. Lo and behold: Positive. DH and I were going to stop trying to prevent in February (so only 2 months off), but I feel completely overwhelmed and frustrated/sad about this news right now, which only makes me feel like an absolutely horrible person. I know it will be a good thing, but I'm having a ridiculously hard time coming to terms with it. I haven't told DH yet and swore with #2 I wouldn't tell him until I was at least 8 weeks pregnant (last time he told everyone very early and would say "I'm not supposed to tell anyone, buuuut....."). I guess I need to hear some positive thoughts or experience of others who may have dealt with the same thing. Holy f***!

JSS1002 · December 2013

I am sure that is quite a shock but on the upside, at least you were planning to have another one! I'm excited for you! We are technically "trying" but my cycle has not cooperated with us (and the past 6 weeks included me having a 2.5 week period + the stomach flu + a work trip for DH).

I don't have any advice, just good wishes!

Kate_C · December 2013

We had the same OH SHIT response when I had a surprise positive for our April baby. It will work out fine and you'll get over the shock and be excited. Promise.

Congrats!!!

ClandestineX · December 2013

Congrats, I would feel the exact same way if I was in your shoes. You are a strong person and will make it through this.

Gracious1014 · December 2013

I would be feeling the same way, but congrats! At least you were planning on having another one.

I cannot imagine waiting 8 weeks to tell my DH though. Oof..

MKC12/22/2006 · December 2013

Wow! I feel for you. I had a similar experience when I thought I was having a girl and found out it was a boy. I knew logically I should be happy, but I was so upset. It took me a little time and some Pinterest browsing of baby boy nurseries to get used to the idea.

farmerpinky · December 2013

Don't feel bad. I respond that way to planned, well timed pregnancies. Congrats.

AnnieJar · December 2013

This is how I felt when I found out I was pregnant with a surprise in early October. We weren't even sure we wanted a third and so that made the feelings of shock even more intense. I promise you'll get on board and be happy and excited soon but let yourself feel all of the bad feelings as well without judgement. You're only human, a big life changing thing like another human to care for IS overwhelming no matter how you slice it. I've had almost three months together used to the idea and I still get anxiety about what life will be like come June with a four year old a one year old and a newborn. Yikes. But I know overall it's a good thing.

Mommymorticia · December 2013

I would also feel that exact same way. At least you have some time to prepare. It sounds like your hubby will probably be excited when you tell him so that will help you get excited too. I understand waiting to tell him though. Congrats!

tondraluv · December 2013

ClandestineX said:

Congrats, I would feel the exact same way if I was in your shoes. You are a strong person and will make it through this.

This all the way

arschm02 · December 2013

Thanks ladies. I think I cried every time I read one of your replies. I just keep feeling bad that I'm taking myself away from DS so soon but I need to keep reminding myself that I'm giving him a gift of a sibling too. And I know I shouldn't care but I'm already dreading the "told you so"s that I'm going to hear from my family when they find out I'm pregnant again. Phew! What an exhausting day! @JSS1002 a 2.5 week period and the stomach flu!? What on earth did you do to deserve that kind of karma?

@MKC12/22/2006 I had that reaction when I found out DS was a boy too. Now I'm terrified to have a girl.

JSS1002 · December 2013

arschm02 said:

Thanks ladies. I think I cried every time I read one of your replies. I just keep feeling bad that I'm taking myself away from DS so soon but I need to keep reminding myself that I'm giving him a gift of a sibling too. And I know I shouldn't care but I'm already dreading the "told you so"s that I'm going to hear from my family when they find out I'm pregnant again. Phew! What an exhausting day! @JSS1002 a 2.5 week period and the stomach flu!? What on earth did you do to deserve that kind of karma? @MKC12/22/2006 I had that reaction when I found out DS was a boy too. Now I'm terrified to have a girl.

I feel like maybe it was the universe's way of telling me that it is too soon for me to get pregnant. Ha! No seriously, I'm not sure, but between that and the job stuff, it has been a tough winter so far.

arschm02 · December 2013

JSS1002 said:

arschm02 said:

Thanks ladies. I think I cried every time I read one of your replies. I just keep feeling bad that I'm taking myself away from DS so soon but I need to keep reminding myself that I'm giving him a gift of a sibling too. And I know I shouldn't care but I'm already dreading the "told you so"s that I'm going to hear from my family when they find out I'm pregnant again. Phew! What an exhausting day! @JSS1002 a 2.5 week period and the stomach flu!? What on earth did you do to deserve that kind of karma? @MKC12/22/2006 I had that reaction when I found out DS was a boy too. Now I'm terrified to have a girl.

I feel like maybe it was the universe's way of telling me that it is too soon for me to get pregnant. Ha! No seriously, I'm not sure, but between that and the job stuff, it has been a tough winter so far.

Well, hopes for a healthier 2014 and no 2.5 week periods... And of course that next baby!

Aprilbaby49 · December 2013

Congratulations! Please don't feel guilty about being overwhelmed

Many of us would probably have mixed feelings if we were to find out that we were pregnant again too.

You are right about giving your LO the gift of a sibling - its a wonderful and priceless gift. After the shock wears off you will feel better about it

I understand feeling guilty about having less one on one time with you LO but you do have 9 months to enjoy your time together before your next one arrives. Congrats again and wishing you a H&H 9 months

ChicagoBroad26 · December 2013

I just wanted to echo everyone else and say that you're entitled to your feelings of surprise. I wish you a H & H 9 months and let me tell you- seeing my kids together is the best feeling in the world. You have a lot to look forward to but I understand the feeling of being overwhelmed. Good luck!

pinottoparenthood · December 2013

Congrats!! I don't have any advice to offer on top of what everyone else has said, but we are here for you!

danuli8 · December 2013

I don't blame you one bit. I think it is perfectly normal to feel overwhelmed and have some negative thoughts. Heck, I still don't feel like I quite have it together with my April baby. We are not planning to have any more, so if I did become pregnant it would be a huge shock--but I bet I would be thrilled by the time my bump became visible.

burneyonboard · December 2013

You are not a bad person for feeling overwhelmed. I had the same feeling with my April baby. You can do this...you have almost a year to plan. Take your time and let everything soak in.

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