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Independent play? a really dumb question...

nesenotesnesenotes member
in July 2012 Moms
I feel like Emery hasn't played by herself in forever. She spends all day in my lap or pulling on me or holding onto my leg. If she does trail off she's 99% up to no good and getting into something she's not supposed to play with. I feel like she doesn't care for her toys. She wants to do tasks and wants my attention all day. So it's sing with her, read her a book, help her with a puzzle and if I'm not engaging her she's having meltdowns to get my attention.

Wtf? Is anyone else's kid doing this? Is this just normal? It's exhausting. And I feel bad saying that because she really is cute and everything, I just wish she would play with something other than me.
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Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12

 BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10 BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
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Re: Independent play? a really dumb question...

  • nesenotesnesenotes member
    Nope! She will watch 5-10 minutes of something and lose interest and it's back to clinging to me.
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    Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12

     BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10 BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
    Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
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  • nesenotesnesenotes member
    @hijinx yes! Is there an end in sight? It's really draining.
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     BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10 BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
    Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
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  • lewispmlewispm member

    Right there with ya! My parents have lovingly dubbed Kellen "Special K" as he is just so special and important that he needs your attention 24/7. And you are right, it is exhausting! He constantly craves interaction/attention and wants to be carried around the house flipping light switches for 95% of the day. He MIGHT find something to hold his attention for 5 mins, but it is, like you said, usually something bad like climbing his book shelf rather than playing with a toy quietly. The only time he seems to entertain himself is when we go to parks or the children's museum, so we do that a whole lot.

    Sometimes I even put him in the car and just drive around just so my arms and back can have a break! Toddlers are so demanding.... ;)

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  • nesenotesnesenotes member
    @kimmer1412 we don't have MDO here. And I've already talked to MH about her needing a class/play setting and he wants her to be potty trained first. He said he doesn't want strangers to change her diaper :-/ so until then it appears I'm stuck with clingy McClingerson. I do think she needs more people in her life. We already do gymboree every other day and I take her to the gym and park often to get out. Blah.
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    Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12

     BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10 BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
    Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
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  • cwm11985cwm11985 member
    Gosh that sounds like Tucker.  The only thing he'll play "alone" with is the kitchen.  If he's doing art, puzzles, trucks, etc he wants someone to do it with him.  Otherwise, like you said he seems to really want a task to do.  He LOVES when he we give him a rag and tell him to go "clean."  He will spend forever wiping things.  But yea otherwise if he's playing alone it pretty much means he's up to no good and I will most likely find him surrounded by a billion books, tissues, and wearing the elephant head that goes on top of his humidifier on his own head.
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  • snickersforeveryonesnickersforeveryone member
    Do you have a kangaroo jac's? They have play areas specifically for toddlers. I haven't gone yet but I intend to soon. We're going through this exact stage with Em, and it's really hard now that Nicholas is here.
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  • WonderJessWonderJess member
    Lily is, like, 90% independent play.  I can't get her to sit still and do anything with me!!  She just keeps moving on to destroy something else.  So basically she's a tornado and I spend all my time chasing after her and cleaning up the aftermath.  Owen, on the other hand, will. not. leave. me. alone. 
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  • britbratjfbritbratjf member
    Dagny was like this until this past week when she got a bunch of new toys. I think she was just super bored with all her stuff. I packed up a bunch of her old toys that she hasn't really outgrown but she's bored with and I'll rotate those toys out in a few months when she gets bored with her new toys. Dagny always does better playing on her own if I'm doing something like washing dishes or cooking. If I'm not busy then she thinks I need to be entertaining her. But regardless of boredom - some days were always better than others and I think that some kids just want more attention. I'm sorry she doesn't like TV - that always buys me some alone time! Have you tried different movies/shows? Maybe you'll find one that'll hold her attention?
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  • nesenotesnesenotes member
    @ladyofshallott86 I guess the grass is always greener on the other side. ..
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    Married: 5/21/05 **~** Emery Aylin 6/30/12

     BFP#1-11/5/10- Surgery for ectopic pregnancy 11/15/10 BFP#2-11/1/11 Due 7/8/12 Born 6/30/12
    Oops we did it again... BFP 03/23/14 Due 12/6/14 Nora Born 11/23/14
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  • KarmBKarmB member
    Ladyofshallott86 said:
    I have the exact opposite problem. Em is 99% independent and looks at me like I'm nuts if I try to play with her. She pretty much wants nothing to do with me ever. Pretty much the only thing she'll let me do with her is read books or tickle her. It's nice she's so independent but it leaves me feeling like I'm a bad mom by not interacting enough and like she doesn't like me. Silly and petty I know but it would be so nice for her to need or want me or want to cuddle me ...even just once a week. :-/ If I lived closer we could do a kid swap once a week ;)
    exactlly this. 

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  • APendolaAPendola member
    I think it's normal and I agree it is exahauting. I find if I take DD for an outing and she gets the chance to move around and see new things that she gets tired and then she is more willing to relax and watch a show or do something more calm at home. The downside to that is that outings with her also tire me out fast, haha.
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