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family related- wwyd?

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So, over the holiday break I saw my BIL and sister, who have 3 kids. They ended up giving me a huge trash bag full of kid dvds, cds, and books. I ended up keeping a few of the dvds (that worked and weren't scratched up) and about 10 out of the 30 books (again, the rest were half ripped up and not in good shape, to put it nicely). 

I posted on an online garage sale that I had some baby books to give away to a good home, and somehow my BIL caught wind of it, and sent me a message to me, basically saying that the books were sentimental, and that if I don't keep all of them, to give them back to him instead of giving some of them to an internet stranger. He also said to delete my post, and that he hopes my sister didn't see the post, because she'd probably flip shiz on me. 

I replied that some of the books were from them, because she already had some of them, and some were from other relatives, which is true. I told him I would keep them all. We live in a small apartment and don't have much room. I feel kinda bad now. Thank god we have a storage unit, because that's where the unused books will be stored.

what would you do?

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  • cafecremecafecreme member
    edited December 2013
    ChicagoChic82 said:
    Omg! I'd tell him to put on his big boy pants. They wouldn't have given the books if they had sentimental value!!! He needs to get a grip. Honestly, I'd gather up every SINGLE last scratched cd, DVD and book and give them all back. I don't need children's books with a side of guilt!
    I know, right, why would they give them to me, if they were so sentimental?? I even talked to my sister before hand, and she told me that whatever books she had, to just donate, and if the cds or dvds didn't work, to just throw them away. So, I'm getting mixed messages. I'm going to hang onto them, and stick them in the storage unit. Maybe I can repair and clean some of the books so they're OK?

    Edit: some of the books were in pieces, and some pages missing, so I don't know how that'll work out.  

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  • cafecremecafecreme member
    amberdt03 said:
    If it were me, I'd give back everything I didn't want to keep since they say they want them back. But there is no way I'd keep them in storage for them.
    I feel like if I did give them back, they'd think we're ungrateful, and start a tiff or something. I'm kinda dumbfounded from all of this. 

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    subliminalrabbit said:

    jennOK said:

    I would gather it up, take it to sister and tell her what happened (you got rid of what didn't work) and exactly what BIL said (since it sounds like she told you to do exactly what you did).

    I would simply say you never meant to offend BIL and that you felt awful to take things with such obvious sentimental meaning to him since he got so upset. I would leave them with her and not think about it again.

    I think this is excellent advice.
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  • cafecremecafecreme member
    thanks everyone. I told DH about it, and he agrees that we should give it back. We see them again next week, so we'll give it to them then. 

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