Discipline help/suggestion

Re: Discipline help/suggestion

• CRey13 member

  December 2013

  Our pedi says it's not too early for timeouts. Even if you have to sit with them and hold them at this age. 1
  minute for every year. And face a wall. Because if you are out and about you can always find a wall if need be.
  
  We also redirect and physically move him if he is in a really dangerous area. Good luck! hope you find something that works for you!

  
  
  

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• piphigirl member

  December 2013

  Here's my strategy:

  1. Remove her from the area.
  2. Sit her in my lap and look her in the eyes.
  3. Say, "No.  No touch.  Mommy says no.  That is ouch.  Dangerous.  No touch."
  4. Ask her to say, "Yes, mommy"  back to me.  At this point, she just makes some kind of noise, but at least she's trying.
  5. Big hug and kiss!
  6. Let her go back to playing, or move her to a different area to play.

  Example: Yesterday, she was using the Little People sheep to whack the top of the farm.  I told her not to hit a couple times and she didn't listen.  So I moved her away from the farm, put her in my lap, got her still and looking at me, gave her the "be gentle" talk instead of the "no touch" talk from above, asked for her verbal confirmation, gave her a hug, and sent her on her way.  Then she was much more gentle.  I'm sure sheep hitting will still occur several times a day, but she at least seems to understand in the moment.

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• CoUnTryBB1 member

  December 2013

  I have definately put LO in her crib screaming.   She screamed for a minute then just plays in her crib.  It works sometimes.   I also tell her to "Look at Mommy" when I really need her to listen and she understands when i say it that she needs to stop whatever, of course it doesn't work all the time.   Redirect if you can.   LO learned the hard way you do not put the end of a charger in your mouth.   I did the same thing becuase I felt bad for her but it barely stung and she wasn't even crying, just sitting in disbelief.   Needless to say she has not done that again. 

  

  
  

  
  

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• zbeesma86 member

  December 2013

  it's definitely trying. I redirect the same things every minute of everyday.
  
  we used to use the PNP as 'timeout' but it never really registered. we will still put her in there for stuff and she usually cries a bit then stops.
  
  even sitting on the step for 30-40 seconds is a challenge because she LOVES steps and things 'oh I get to climb!' so I am constantly fighting her to sit down and not climb.
  
  But I think over time and being consistent over the things you don't want LO doing will eventually show in their behavior... at least that is what I'm hoping for..
  
  

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• vic8504 member

  December 2013

  We started using counting with DD when she became mobile. If she is doing something bad/wrong we will count to 3. In the beginning when we got to 3 I would remove her from what she was doing and tell her. We would sometimes have to do this multiple times in a row until she finally gave up or we were able to distract her with something else.
  Now she normally stops at 1 or 2, we very rarely get to 3. I will say 1 and she will say "no no no" and walks away from whatever she was doing. If or when she threw a tantrum I would just lay her in the middle of the room and walk away from her, they never lasted very long.
  

  
  
  

  

  
  

  

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• Megispreg member

  December 2013

  They really don't have a lot of impulse control at this stage. So even if they understand yes and no, I think it's still hard to resist, you know? I don't think there's anything wrong with getting them used to time out, but I don't expect a whole lot from it yet.
  
  My strategy is to prevent as much as possible by baby proofing everything I can. You could try covering the outlets, just for less thing to worry about. I also just try to be consistent and redirect as much as possible.

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• danielle2583 member

  December 2013

  Thanks ladies. I will definitely try a form of timeout and talking to her about it and try for everyone in the house to say "no" less haha!

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• SJandVA member

  December 2013

  Looks like PP have covered most of my thoughts. Only thing to add is that timeouts at this age is a good start. They don't really understand it but it sets up for good practice when older. At this stage it's just saying " ok let's go to time out" even if you're holding them or sitting next to them. We started at 12 months with DD1 and she was really good at time outs, when she got older. We didn't have to put her back there 100 times like you see in Super Nanny. Also, sadly even at 5 DD1 thinks it's the funniest thing when you don't want her to do something and I start yelling. I guess I look like a crazy person. Yelling definitely doesn't work.

  

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• poppyseed1017 member

  December 2013

  Using the crib for timeouts isn't a good idea, in my opinion, because you don't want them to associate their crib with something negative.

   

  
  
  
  
  
   

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• danielle2583 member

  December 2013

  Bluenoser4ever said:

  poppyseed1017 said:

  Using the crib for timeouts isn't a good idea, in my opinion, because you don't want them to associate their crib with something negative.

  I agree.

  Very true. Thank you. I've only put her in her crib for more of a "mommy timeout" from crazy child a handful of times. We've started going to the stairs and sitting quietly for a minute, talking about what happened then carrying on.....usually going right back to the scene of the crime! I'm sure I look like a complete crazy person when I yell.

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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