Christmas "moments"...

JBDamonM · December 2013

Mine both came at the hands of the in-laws! (Shocking).,, 1) my mother in law did not bring a gift for my DD. she immediately told me she didn't bring it because "it would be too complicated..." Um, ok. She did indeed however find it non complicated to bring the gifts for her other 7 grandkids. Meanwhile she had told DH she was getting LO some type of leapfrog thing. Then yesterday she says to me "I got MOlly one of those bouncy chairs.....that you jump in and it sings and makes noises etc. I just haven't finished putting it together yet." To which I instantly thought - great you got her a jumperoo. Had you ever taken the chance to look at my registry when I was pregnant you would've known I registered for that. Not to mention DD has already been in it for 4 months! Bets on whether or not we ever see a gift?!?! 2) when my SIL blatantly regulated the toy we gave her daughter last year to our nephew. Classy! I should point out money is no issue here so really just a tacky move! Anyone else got anything??? Also - excuse the lack of paragraphs - bumping from IPad

Aprilbaby49 · December 2013

@JBDamonM - Wow! No words for your MIL and SIL! It is about the thought and not the actual gifts but come on...those two just demonstrated blatant disrespect. How can your MIL think that your baby wouldn't appreciate even a small gift for her first Christmas? Even a teether or something - jeez.

My moment was when Noah was opening his Zany Zoo. DH and I were video taping the whole thing with some lovely Christmas music in the background. Noah was playing and having fun with it and then my SIL/BIL began to talk about how they "downed two bottles of red wine" the night before and my MIL responded with "Nice, nice." Then they continued to talk about their binge drinking while we were video taping my son playing with his first Christmas present - unbelievable. DH was trying to stop them but they were too drunk to care at that point. Don't get me wrong...you can have a drink or two or three during the holidays, just don't brag about it while I'm obviously trying to capture some memories of my son's first Christmas.

On a positive note for Christmas moments, Noah did say Dada for the first time yesterday. He'd been saying mama, baba, wawa for a long time and DH was convinced he'd never say dada so DH had a priceless gift from Noah

JBDamonM · December 2013

@aprilbaby49 - this is totally normal behavior for my MIL. This is the same woman who called the morning of my baby shower and said she couldn't make it - she wound up coming - a half hour late, and gave me 5 outfits as a gift. She was late because she was buying them. Talk about a slap in the face. So yeah she clearly did not ever once look at my registry and I will be pissed if I get a jumperoo be those aren't cheap and if she's really putting it together - I won't even be able to return it. I however do not buy that line for a minute. We will see if a gift shoes up this week but my expectations are very low. As for my SIL - her bratty child tipped me off when I gave her the gift last year and she informedme they had gotten the same thing from Santa- so maybe she technically re-gifted that one, but at least she shows up with a nice gift for my DD - so I have an easier time laughing about that one. But yes, in a nutshell - they are trash!

pinottoparenthood · December 2013

JBDamonM said:

@aprilbaby49 - this is totally normal behavior for my MIL. This is the same woman who called the morning of my baby shower and said she couldn't make it - she wound up coming - a half hour late, and gave me 5 outfits as a gift. She was late because she was buying them. Talk about a slap in the face. So yeah she clearly did not ever once look at my registry and I will be pissed if I get a jumperoo be those aren't cheap and if she's really putting it together - I won't even be able to return it. I however do not buy that line for a minute. We will see if a gift shoes up this week but my expectations are very low. As for my SIL - her bratty child tipped me off when I gave her the gift last year and she informedme they had gotten the same thing from Santa- so maybe she technically re-gifted that one, but at least she shows up with a nice gift for my DD - so I have an easier time laughing about that one. But yes, in a nutshell - they are trash!

Sorry you were disappointed... But if your mil really got a jumparoo, that's a very generous gift. I'm sure she didn't realize that they start earlier in those. Why would she drop $100 on a gift that your baby will barely use? It is definitely annoying but it is most likely well intentioned. Also, if you were registered at BRU, they are really good about returns from a registry, even if the item is opened/assembled.

Eta: I posted this on a different post. But my big gift for my husband was a really nice leather carry on for his business travel. Then we get to my in laws' and discover that his mom bought him, of course, an even nicer leather carry on bag :-( she didn't know and it was very generous of her, but I can't lie... I was a bit bummed that she stole my thunder!

jaime52005 · December 2013

My MIL had my SIL buy gifts Xmas eve AM..then when Ella opened them she said "oh what did I get Ella" meanwhile she got her other 3 grand kids gifts two months ago

My SIL gave ella 6 outfits she got on clearance 3 months ago for 3$ each that I thought she was giving to me 6 months ago and I was going to give her the money.

JBDamonM · December 2013

pinottoparenthood said:

JBDamonM said:

@aprilbaby49 - this is totally normal behavior for my MIL. This is the same woman who called the morning of my baby shower and said she couldn't make it - she wound up coming - a half hour late, and gave me 5 outfits as a gift. She was late because she was buying them. Talk about a slap in the face. So yeah she clearly did not ever once look at my registry and I will be pissed if I get a jumperoo be those aren't cheap and if she's really putting it together - I won't even be able to return it. I however do not buy that line for a minute. We will see if a gift shoes up this week but my expectations are very low. As for my SIL - her bratty child tipped me off when I gave her the gift last year and she informedme they had gotten the same thing from Santa- so maybe she technically re-gifted that one, but at least she shows up with a nice gift for my DD - so I have an easier time laughing about that one. But yes, in a nutshell - they are trash!

Sorry you were disappointed... But if your mil really got a jumparoo, that's a very generous gift. I'm sure she didn't realize that they start earlier in those. Why would she drop $100 on a gift that your baby will barely use? It is definitely annoying but it is most likely well intentioned. Also, if you were registered at BRU, they are really good about returns from a registry, even if the item is opened/assembled.

Eta: I posted this on a different post. But my big gift for my husband was a really nice leather carry on for his business travel. Then we get to my in laws' and discover that his mom bought him, of course, an even nicer leather carry on bag :-( she didn't know and it was very generous of her, but I can't lie... I was a bit bummed that she stole my thunder!

That's just it - my MIL does not think...or pay attention - if she did, she would have seen the jumperoo in our house

she has 7 other, older grandkids and raised 5 kids, so I would actually expect her to have somewhat of a pulse on what toys get used when etc. Probabky the bigger issue is that I don't for one second think she really bought it. It makes NO sense why she would put it together rather than leave it for her son, as you can't really transport it once its put together. For whatever reason she didn't get LO a gift, I am almost sure of it. I'd rather she either own it, or tell me it's coming and then stop talking about it rather than spewing such details.....the more I have thought about this today, the more annoyed I have been.

farmerpinky · December 2013

My SIL (who's a damn doctor) brought her 15 month old daughter who has rsv and the fucking stomach virus from hell to Christmas. This child has had a fever for 5 days, can't breathe and has been crying/vomiting nonstop. They couldn't even place an iv this morning because this kid is so dry. H's family thinks I'm being overprotective and crazy for not letting them near each other or letting my bil hold Phee.

Kate_C · December 2013

farmerpinky said:

My SIL (who's a damn doctor) brought her 15 month old daughter who has rsv and the fucking stomach virus from hell to Christmas. This child has had a fever for 5 days, can't breathe and has been crying/vomiting nonstop. They couldn't even place an iv this morning because this kid is so dry. H's family thinks I'm being overprotective and crazy for not letting them near each other or letting my bil hold Phee.

Whaaa? Why would they drag that poor, miserable baby away from home, let alone share her germs with other babies? Hope she gets better soon - and that your DD manages to avoid all the viruses.

JSS1002 · December 2013

pinottoparenthood said:

JBDamonM said:

@aprilbaby49 - this is totally normal behavior for my MIL. This is the same woman who called the morning of my baby shower and said she couldn't make it - she wound up coming - a half hour late, and gave me 5 outfits as a gift. She was late because she was buying them. Talk about a slap in the face. So yeah she clearly did not ever once look at my registry and I will be pissed if I get a jumperoo be those aren't cheap and if she's really putting it together - I won't even be able to return it. I however do not buy that line for a minute. We will see if a gift shoes up this week but my expectations are very low. As for my SIL - her bratty child tipped me off when I gave her the gift last year and she informedme they had gotten the same thing from Santa- so maybe she technically re-gifted that one, but at least she shows up with a nice gift for my DD - so I have an easier time laughing about that one. But yes, in a nutshell - they are trash!

Sorry you were disappointed... But if your mil really got a jumparoo, that's a very generous gift. I'm sure she didn't realize that they start earlier in those. Why would she drop $100 on a gift that your baby will barely use? It is definitely annoying but it is most likely well intentioned. Also, if you were registered at BRU, they are really good about returns from a registry, even if the item is opened/assembled.

Eta: I posted this on a different post. But my big gift for my husband was a really nice leather carry on for his business travel. Then we get to my in laws' and discover that his mom bought him, of course, an even nicer leather carry on bag :-( she didn't know and it was very generous of her, but I can't lie... I was a bit bummed that she stole my thunder!

That's just it - my MIL does not think...or pay attention - if she did, she would have seen the jumperoo in our house she has 7 other, older grandkids and raised 5 kids, so I would actually expect her to have somewhat of a pulse on what toys get used when etc. Probabky the bigger issue is that I don't for one second think she really bought it. It makes NO sense why she would put it together rather than leave it for her son, as you can't really transport it once its put together. For whatever reason she didn't get LO a gift, I am almost sure of it. I'd rather she either own it, or tell me it's coming and then stop talking about it rather than spewing such details.....the more I have thought about this today, the more annoyed I have been.

Yeah no way did she buy it. Rude.

JBDamonM · December 2013

JSS1002 said:

pinottoparenthood said:

JBDamonM said:

@aprilbaby49 - this is totally normal behavior for my MIL. This is the same woman who called the morning of my baby shower and said she couldn't make it - she wound up coming - a half hour late, and gave me 5 outfits as a gift. She was late because she was buying them. Talk about a slap in the face. So yeah she clearly did not ever once look at my registry and I will be pissed if I get a jumperoo be those aren't cheap and if she's really putting it together - I won't even be able to return it. I however do not buy that line for a minute. We will see if a gift shoes up this week but my expectations are very low. As for my SIL - her bratty child tipped me off when I gave her the gift last year and she informedme they had gotten the same thing from Santa- so maybe she technically re-gifted that one, but at least she shows up with a nice gift for my DD - so I have an easier time laughing about that one. But yes, in a nutshell - they are trash!

Sorry you were disappointed... But if your mil really got a jumparoo, that's a very generous gift. I'm sure she didn't realize that they start earlier in those. Why would she drop $100 on a gift that your baby will barely use? It is definitely annoying but it is most likely well intentioned. Also, if you were registered at BRU, they are really good about returns from a registry, even if the item is opened/assembled.

Eta: I posted this on a different post. But my big gift for my husband was a really nice leather carry on for his business travel. Then we get to my in laws' and discover that his mom bought him, of course, an even nicer leather carry on bag :-( she didn't know and it was very generous of her, but I can't lie... I was a bit bummed that she stole my thunder!

That's just it - my MIL does not think...or pay attention - if she did, she would have seen the jumperoo in our house she has 7 other, older grandkids and raised 5 kids, so I would actually expect her to have somewhat of a pulse on what toys get used when etc. Probabky the bigger issue is that I don't for one second think she really bought it. It makes NO sense why she would put it together rather than leave it for her son, as you can't really transport it once its put together. For whatever reason she didn't get LO a gift, I am almost sure of it. I'd rather she either own it, or tell me it's coming and then stop talking about it rather than spewing such details.....the more I have thought about this today, the more annoyed I have been.
Yeah no way did she buy it. Rude.

And more annoying...... My husband will say nothing to her. And if I bring it up - he'll act like its not a big deal. Yet if my family pulled this shit - he'd have there head on a silver platter.... I don't even care about the gift persay; but I sure as shit care that she brought one for the other 7 kids.

Debbie0580 · December 2013

My moment came from my chauvinistic FIL. At one point over the holidays he was commenting about how he mixes up our DS and BILs son's names. Then says "yeah I only have two grandchildren, you'd think I'd get it right." Me: "Uhhhh, but you have three..." Apparently DD doesn't exist. He laughed it off and said he meant to say grandsons, however...sidebar story to add to why I called him chauvinistic: BILs wife and I were pregnant at the same time when I was pregnant with DS, due 3 mos apart. She had her son first and after she had him FIL said to us (with no one, including us, knowing what we were having) "well, ___BIL___ got his son, that's all that matters." Really? That's all that matters. As if you would love your grandchild less if it was a girl?

So I'm not sure if his comment about only having two grandchildren was totally a slip of the tongue...

farmerpinky · December 2013

Kate_C said:

farmerpinky said:

My SIL (who's a damn doctor) brought her 15 month old daughter who has rsv and the fucking stomach virus from hell to Christmas. This child has had a fever for 5 days, can't breathe and has been crying/vomiting nonstop. They couldn't even place an iv this morning because this kid is so dry. H's family thinks I'm being overprotective and crazy for not letting them near each other or letting my bil hold Phee.

Whaaa? Why would they drag that poor, miserable baby away from home, let alone share her germs with other babies? Hope she gets better soon - and that your DD manages to avoid all the viruses.

"If they kept her home when she was sick, she'd never go anywhere. "

Seriously. She is a mess and she never gets well. My thinking is because she doesn't have the opportunity to. Mom is working constantly because she's doing her fellowship. Dad is a bank vp...Also always at work. Daycare is lax about illness so she even goes with a fever!

I get that they have busy lives. I just wish they wouldn't bring illness to my family.

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