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My amazing sis n law and BF are throwing my first baby shower. It's being held at my sis n laws house. I really didn't want to invite more than 30 ladies. I invited our families and my friends. But I just found out that my mother in law told the host(her daughter) that she needed to invite all her friends. About 12 extra ladies that I really don't know. I'm just afraid there won't be enough space. Not to mention more food, drinks, and thank you gifts. Should I just let it go or should I say something?

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  • Anflires04Anflires04 member
    edited December 2013
    The host doesn't mind. The my BF who's helping doesn't know yet.
    I felt it was a little strange too. It's her fifth grandchild. If it was her first I would understand a little more.
  • My MIL invited a handful of ladies that I didn't know at all to my bridal shower. Her reasoning? "If I had to go to all of their daughters' things, they can come to mine." I threw up in my mouth a little bit when she said that.
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  • A little weird, but if the host is okay, I guess it's okay. I'm on the same page as PP though, I didn't realize that showers have suddenly become the new invite everyone you know thing. I guess I can see it more if it's the mother inviting her friends to her daughter's shower, because she probably went to all of her friends daughters' showers, but I don't get it for MIL/DILs.



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  • Anflires04Anflires04 member
    edited December 2013
    I don't know proper etiquette on these things. I've never had a bridal shower, reception, etc. We opted for a private beach wedding... Just the 2 of us. I have to admit I'm slightly irritated that MIL didn't even ask me if it was okay. I imagined my shower being fresh and fun party. Now half the guests are over 50... Just not what I had in mind. But since the host doesn't mind I will keep my mouth shut.
  • I would imagine your hostesses will set a certain tone for your party.  I really can't imagine that inviting your MILs friends will really affect the overall tone all that much. 

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  • My MIL had a whole shower for me peopled entirely by her friends. I thought it was weird and awkward, but from hanging around this board, I think it's actually pretty common for MILs to want to invite their friends. As the guest of honor, not a hostess, I would totally stay out of this one. Yeah, it might be a little awkward, but it's not your party to plan, you know?
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