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Getting weak

AllyTalesAllyTales member
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I'm totally getting weak regarding the u/s I'll be having tomorrow. We had been planning on doing a gender (sex) reveal party. SUPER low key with just 7 relatives and 4 of my best friends. It was just via word of mouth "I'm having a little get together to learn sex of baby, if you wanna stop by" type of thing with that small group of people. But, I made it for 2 weeks from now. Because people are still traveling from Christmas. I have a few friends out of town. And I figured it would be toooooo much so close to Christmas for everyone.

Now, I'm getting weak. I don't want a gender (sex) reveal. I just want to find out tomorrow. TOMORROW I COULD KNOW! And it's driving me CRAZY. 

Would you be upset if you were very informally invited to a gender reveal and the person backed out? haha.. I don't want to upset anyone. But I honestly don't want to wait anymore. I have no patience for this. I should have known that. Since it was only gonna be my very close family and friends, I don't think anyone would be offended. In fact, I think they'll be excited to know sooner.

I still like the IDEA behind a cake, rather than the tech tell us in the room. I secretly inquired with my friend, she owns the bakery I was going to ask... and she said she could personally do just a small cake or a few mini cakes just for DH and I (and maybe my parents) that very same day/night (so tomorrow) and I cold still have my reveal with just us and not wait.

I'm over thinking this.
Should I find out tomorrow with my parents and do the cake with just us? Or wait two extra weeks?

(yeah, I'm rolling my own eyes at myself, too)

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  • MrsLabRatMrsLabRat member
    Personally, I would not offended if the gender reveal party got canceled. In fact, I'm not a huge fan of gender reveal parties, so I would actually be elated ;)
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  • curlylocks3curlylocks3 member
    You're overthinking it. Just cancel it. If you feel bad, say it was totally obvious at the ultrasound. 
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  • AllyTalesAllyTales member
    MrsLabRat said:
    Personally, I would not offended if the gender reveal party got canceled. In fact, I'm not a huge fan of gender reveal parties, so I would actually be elated ;)
    I'm not, either, if it's a random person :)  But since it's a really close circle to me, they were actually pretty excited.  But I don't think they'll be offended or anything if I change my mind.  I'm way eager.
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  • babygabe614babygabe614 member
    curlylocks3 said:
    You're overthinking it. Just cancel it. If you feel bad, say it was totally obvious at the ultrasound. 
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  • kellyjaynekellyjayne member
    I don't think anyone would be offended...I'm sure they all understand your eagerness/excitement to find out. Can you have someone record you cutting into the cake and then send the video to your friends, so that they can still see your reaction and feel like they were still a part of it?
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  • AllyTalesAllyTales member
    kellyjayne said:
    I don't think anyone would be offended...I'm sure they all understand your eagerness/excitement to find out. Can you have someone record you cutting into the cake and then send the video to your friends, so that they can still see your reaction and feel like they were still a part of it?
    Maybe I'll do that!
    Because I definitely think I'm caving.
    And yes, I know I'm over thinking it.  That's just my personality ;)
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  • katekat8721katekat8721 member
    MegK82 said:
    What if you found out just the two of you at the u/s and still had the party to reveal to your friends and family??  Will it be less exciting for them if you already know and they aren't finding out at the same moment as you?  Or would it be too hard for you to keep it secret for those two weeks?
    This is what we're doing. We'll find out together and that night have family over for dinner/dessert to cut the cake and find out the sex. I haven't said DH and I will know before them... but they know me! I can't wait, haha.

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  • ElTrain5ElTrain5 member

    Why not find out and just let your friends/fam be "surprised"?

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  • CherylwangCherylwang member
    I didn't do a gender reveal party. But I did find out w my husband at the ultrasound and surprised my parents with a its a girl candy bar wrapped up in pink and blue tissue paper. She then did the same game w my grandparents at Christmas. It didnt matter that I knew when they opened the surprised gift... My cousin who has been waiting 8 years to have a baby just found out what they are having and they surprised a few family members with balloons wrapped up in a box. It was totally acceptable that they knew and prepared the surprise for family.
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  • Susanbeth85Susanbeth85 member
    MegK82 said:

    What if you found out just the two of you at the u/s and still had the party to reveal to your friends and family??  Will it be less exciting for them if you already know and they aren't finding out at the same moment as you?  Or would it be too hard for you to keep it secret for those two weeks?

    This is what I'd do!
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  • jldcjsjldcjs member
    I would not be offended at all. And I couldn't wait either. We planned to go to dinner the night we got the results, but I couldn't wait that long!
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  • MrsCase1MrsCase1 member
    Maybe they were just going to attend out of support, not because they were all that interested. No offense, of course. So they might be happier that they are not feeling obligated to attend. I don't think anyone would think twice fi you cancelled or be disappointed. I mean that in a nice way, even though typed out it doesn't look nice. 
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  • AllyTalesAllyTales member
    Mrs Case said:
    Maybe they were just going to attend out of support, not because they were all that interested. No offense, of course. So they might be happier that they are not feeling obligated to attend. I don't think anyone would think twice fi you cancelled or be disappointed. I mean that in a nice way, even though typed out it doesn't look nice. 
    haha no, I get what you mean. But don't agree :)  I'm sure with most of these "parties" that's the case.  But it was a super small circle. My parents, my twin sister, my other sisters.. and then 4 of my VERY best friends that have been my best friends since we were 6 and 7 years old. They are almost just as excited to know the sex as I am.  We had a sex reveal party for one of the girls "in the circle" and it was a huge deal, we were all wicked excited to be there and had a blast.   But if I had extended it and invited others I wasn't soooooo close to, I would absolutely agree.  And if someone invited me (not in this circle) I probably wouldn't wanna go either.

    Anyway, I decided to just find out with my parents and sisters tomorrow night after our little cake is made up :)  Don't wanna wait.
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  • Kinipela7Kinipela7 member
    Find out tomorrow!  And then come tell us ASAP!
     
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  • AllyTalesAllyTales member
    caitykate said:
    Kinipela7 said:
    Find out tomorrow!  And then come tell us ASAP!

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    katekat8721 said:


    MegK82 said:

    What if you found out just the two of you at the u/s and still had the party to reveal to your friends and family??  Will it be less exciting for them if you already know and they aren't finding out at the same moment as you?  Or would it be too hard for you to keep it secret for those two weeks?

    This is what we're doing. We'll find out together and that night have family over for dinner/dessert to cut the cake and find out the sex. I haven't said DH and I will know before them... but they know me! I can't wait, haha.




    This is what we did with DD. We knew and then had only our parents over for a small cake as a surprise for them.
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  • becomingmommyagainbecomingmommyagain member
    you could learn the gender and keep it to yourselves until the party?  Then you could still have the get together and plan something fun to share the news.
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    MegK82 said:

    What if you found out just the two of you at the u/s and still had the party to reveal to your friends and family??  Will it be less exciting for them if you already know and they aren't finding out at the same moment as you?  Or would it be too hard for you to keep it secret for those two weeks?

    This was my thought, too





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