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I guess I didn't make myself clear when I said....

ElreidElreid member
in November 2013 Moms
No boyfriend!!!
So LO is 6 weeks old and my SO wanted to take me on a date night. For a Christmas gift he arranged for his mom to watch LO for the evening and we got to go out to dinner and enjoy our time away for a little while. We had a ton of fun and when we got back there was a car in her driveway.
Issue- she had her boyfriend at the home while she was watching our son. We told her how uncomfortable it would make us for him to be there and, she promised numerous times that her boyfriend would not be there. And said he just stopped by for a few mins.
We have never met this man and the fact that I left my son with someone I don't know and have never met makes me sick. I can't believe I trusted her! We had a talk with her and told her that he is never to be around LO alone with her until we have met him many times and can trust him.
What would you do? Tell her she can't watch LO? I don't want to take one on one time away from her, but she just broke all of my trust. The safety of LO comes first, but this is his grandma....
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Re: I guess I didn't make myself clear when I said....

  • lnreynollnreynol member
    Is there a reason for you to not trust her boyfriend or MIL? I don't think I would ever tell my MIL she could not have someone at her home no matter what the circumstances are. I feel that if you trust your MIL enough to watch LO then you should trust her enough to protect him while in her care and not let anyone inappropriate around your LO. Now if this boyfriend had questionable background that's another story. Your MIL was doing you a favor by watching your LO, and now you want to keep her from spending alone time with him? I spent many years working in child welfare and this seems a bit much even to me, but you have to do what feels right.
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    I would be uncomfortable leaving my LO if my MIL had her BF there and I had never met him.  However, I tend to be overly cautious in those situations.  I don't like strangers around my kids.  I probably wouldn't tell MIL that she can't watch LO, but I would absolutely ask to meet her BF and make sure that happened before I left LO there again.
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  • jacqgomarjacqgomar member
    I wouldn't tell her she couldn't watch LO, but I wouldn't ask her to do it again. Your request when it comes to your child should be accommodated. If she broke this rule what else would she do that you weren't a fan of?...this is just how I think. Your LO your rules period.
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  • gwennehgwenneh member
    Beggars can't be choosers.

    *Demands* accompany paychecks. Until you're signing one, you can *request* -- and she can ignore.
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  • juliane2004juliane2004 member
    Personally, I would be upset that she promised he wouldn't be there and then was there anyway.
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