Post-holiday Bitchfest

lebradford · December 2013

I found myself just wanting to turn my holiday bitches into UOs so I could vent. Then I realized they probably weren't unpopular at all, and other people probably needed to vent some holiday stress too.

So, I bring to you, a special post-holiday of Bitchfest. What do you need to get off your chest?

lebradford · December 2013

My ILs are staying with us for 5 days. They're super conservative and have a very "traditional" relationship. (Think 1950s or something.)

FIL keeps complaining that MH doesn't have a man-cave. Why doesn't he have any office? Like, how could he possibly even be subjected to not having an office? Look, dude. We're lucky to have a 4 bedroom house. We have two kids and the fourth bedroom is the guest bedroom that you're sleeping in. MH doesn't have a desktop computer and never works at home, so wtf does he need an office for? Just because you can't stand your wife and like to hide away all day while she cooks for you, doesn't mean we operate the same way around here.

After the third third time he brought it up in one day (and other times before), I said, "H doesn't need a man-cave, because he likes spending time with me." That shut him up.

I could go on.... Maybe I'll add more later. ;-)

lebradford · December 2013

DarcyHermione said:
My parents went to see my nephew on Monday. When they got there he was just in his underwear. His mother and her mother in law were sitting on the couch and the mother in law was wearing just a tank top and granny panties. Nephew's mother is pregnant and the mother in law was smoking while sitting right next to her. It made a pretty trashy picture.

Last night while skyping with family and seeing my baby cousin for the first time (aside from pictures) my grandfather asked when "it was due". I asked, "When is what due?" He said, "You know, your own kids." I replied, "Well, not 9 months from now, that's for sure."
My mother then leaned over and said, "They're working on it."
I was pretty annoyed.

Ouch. I give a grandpa a free pass to ask exactly once, ever. But your mom should have kept her mouth shut. I'm sorry.

Pintobean39 · December 2013

Oh I have lots but right now I'm pissed because I got my son a TV from target for Christmas and he gets home last night plugs it in and there is a crack on the screen. So instead of spending my day packing to go off for a week I'm going to be driving 4 hrs total to my sons house to pick up the TV bring it back to target because they have a 30 day return policy for electronics, I bought it on thanksgiving, I'm going to be out of town for a week. My son can't return it because he's going to be working and target is near my house.

I'm pissed at myself because someone told me to open it up and exam it good because that happens a lot when they are shipped.

KrissyLeighN · December 2013

DarcyHermione said:

My parents went to see my nephew on Monday. When they got there he was just in his underwear. His mother and her mother in law were sitting on the couch and the mother in law was wearing just a tank top and granny panties. Nephew's mother is pregnant and the mother in law was smoking while sitting right next to her. It made a pretty trashy picture.

Last night while skyping with family and seeing my baby cousin for the first time (aside from pictures) my grandfather asked when "it was due". I asked, "When is what due?" He said, "You know, your own kids." I replied, "Well, not 9 months from now, that's for sure."
My mother then leaned over and said, "They're working on it."
I was pretty annoyed.

Uhhhh! Why do people use the term "they're working on it"... makes it sound like the car won't start and dad and uncle bob are outside "working on it"... Yep, it was the battery - got it started.

Gizmo36 · December 2013

My MILs bf was driving me insane yesterday. First he was cranky because we had Christmas music playing instead of having something on TV. Then we put on the Christmas episode of Hollywood Game Night and he just complained and complained about how stupid the show was and how he doesn't understand it.

He's also made a habit out of giving us restaurant.com certificates for local restaurants that are super expensive. He says he gives all of us (DH and his 2 sisters/spouses) all the same one so we can all go out together. Um…that's now how they work. And they require us to spend money of our own in order to use them. When you have to buy two entrees that cost $30+ a piece to use the $25 off, it really isn't worth it. We haven't used the past two that he's given us and we probably won't use this one either. I know it's the thought that counts, but his ignorance in what he's giving us just makes it a little frustrating since he thinks he's giving us a $25 gift card that he paid like $5 for and there are too many catches to truly enjoy it.

janda426 · December 2013

My mom told me that having kids isn't work and that it just happens on it's own. She's got 9 kids and never "tried" for any of us. She also told me that you can get pregnant up to 2 weeks after the egg is released. I was just like, holy shit no, not at all! I mean it wasn't hostile or anything I was pretty much poking fun at how many children she has yet how little she actually knows about TTC. But that's pretty much most people who aren't on TB, honestly.

ashtownyeah · December 2013

LinnyDan12 said:

When I told my sister about my CP I also told her about our plans to announce with a picture of 3 stocking hung by the fire. She told my best friend that it would be a really cute idea (without telling her that she got the idea from me), so I log on to FB yesterday to see my best friend using the announcement we planned, crediting my sister for the "super cute idea."
I was really upset at our Christmas eve celebration and my sister told me to get over it because "you never know, you could be pregnant right now." Actually I do know that I'm since I haven't O'd yet, and I know that because of all that "silly temping and tracking" that she told me I shouldn't have to do because "it should just happen on it's own."
I'm trying to remind myself that she's just naive and has no idea what she's talking about, but the announcement thing is inexcusable.

Woah, woah, woah. That is so low.

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm sure it would have been hard enough to see any pregnancy announcement yesterday, let alone the one you had planned. *hugs*

Pintobean39 · December 2013

Fucking ovaries!!!! I'm so fucking predictable every month except this month!! Just left my RE and I have lots of follies measuring 7-9 but not big enough to do a trigger this month because I'm leaving town Saturday. Welcome to my world!!!!!

pudgybunny · December 2013

Didn't think I would have an in laws bugging us about kids but one did. She really wants us to have kids but it's driving me crazy finally told her, have you ever thought we might have been trying for a while already and might be having difficulties? She said she wouldn't ask again and I am pretty sure she got it. Granted we haven't been trying long but Darn it think before you ask!!!
Sorry for all the crap everyone else has gone through these past few days

MmmPopcorn · December 2013

My cousin's husband just had his second amputation surgery because his type 1 diabetes is out of control. However, she had no issues feeding him cake and soft drinks at our Christmas gathering. She even brought home two dozen donuts the week of his surgery and bragged on Facebook about being a good wife for doing it. I understand that she is overwhelmed since she is basically raising two children with special needs on her own while caring for a husband who is unable to walk, but I do worry about his health.

At DH's house, the family drama is a little more overt. BIL's fiancee hates my MIL and refused to come over to the house for Christmas. SIL's boyfriend broke up with her because his parents made him, and she was throwing things across the room and screaming last night, and I just sat there immobile, not knowing how to respond. Last year's Christmas at the ILs was so warm and joyful, and this year kind of sucked. I feel sorry for FIL and MIL--they really tried hard and wanted the best, but nobody else realizes how selfish they are being.

MmmPopcorn · December 2013

LinnyDan12 said:

When I told my sister about my CP I also told her about our plans to announce with a picture of 3 stocking hung by the fire. She told my best friend that it would be a really cute idea (without telling her that she got the idea from me), so I log on to FB yesterday to see my best friend using the announcement we planned, crediting my sister for the "super cute idea."
I was really upset at our Christmas eve celebration and my sister told me to get over it because "you never know, you could be pregnant right now." Actually I do know that I'm since I haven't O'd yet, and I know that because of all that "silly temping and tracking" that she told me I shouldn't have to do because "it should just happen on it's own."
I'm trying to remind myself that she's just naive and has no idea what she's talking about, but the announcement thing is inexcusable.

I know you probably don't feel this way about your sister, but what an unbelievably selfish bitch. Sending virtual hugs your way.

hullabalou · December 2013

BIL knew when I got pregnant. He also knew that I lost the pregnancy. He told some of his friends about the pregnancy....but not the loss. Not only does it piss me off that he told random people, when we were at his house two different people walked up to congratulate me on the pregnancy. I wasn't sure if I wanted to cry or punch him.

snooks721 · December 2013

My dad was in a bad mood yesterday. Normally he is the most laid back, chill dude but there's been some issues going on with my brother that I know is affecting him and I think he was holding it in for so long. So yesterday he kept snapping at my brother, me and even DH. DH was being silly and threw a wrapping paper ball at mine and my brother's head and my dad was like "Will you knock it off?! I'm serious" then muttered "f*ck" under his breath! I was like WTF? It was really awkward and uncomfortable after that. My dad sat in the other room most of the time because my mom yelled at him. Poor DH felt bad, and I felt bad for DH. I also felt bad for my dad because I know he is holding in some stress but why release it on Christmas Day? It just ruined the whole day for us.

Also, all my pants are tight on me and I just want to lose 30 pounds in 1 week, is that too much to ask!?

snooks721 · December 2013

LinnyDan12 said:

When I told my sister about my CP I also told her about our plans to announce with a picture of 3 stocking hung by the fire. She told my best friend that it would be a really cute idea (without telling her that she got the idea from me), so I log on to FB yesterday to see my best friend using the announcement we planned, crediting my sister for the "super cute idea."
I was really upset at our Christmas eve celebration and my sister told me to get over it because "you never know, you could be pregnant right now." Actually I do know that I'm since I haven't O'd yet, and I know that because of all that "silly temping and tracking" that she told me I shouldn't have to do because "it should just happen on it's own."
I'm trying to remind myself that she's just naive and has no idea what she's talking about, but the announcement thing is inexcusable.

Ughh, that sucks about the pregnancy announcement. Don't worry, you'll think of an even better announcement idea! And don't tell anyone this time, haha!

Jenniebug7 · December 2013

NellyBluth said:
FIL pointed out to me, "This is the same woman who wanted you to give formula to DD and put cereal in the bottle when she was two months old. You're doing fine."

Awe at least FIL is supportive of you and what you are doing.

lookame3639 · December 2013

I hope you don't mind I post this here. I'm technically "graduated" from this board but I do come back and I really need to get this off my chest.

My sister was really on my nerves yesterday. She was just being so mean and rude to everyone. My FI and i got each other some nice gifts that are somewhat fragile and she was going through throwing them all around. I also had a special gift for DS that i wanted him to open first. She got all mad and threw it and buried it under a pile of presants. My mom made me a nice dinner for my birthday and my sister yelled at me because i asked why DS couldn't have ice in his drink. She also made comments to DS like "you can't be around [cousin] because all you do is cause trouble and fights" it was really pissing me off.

My nephew is at the breaching point with me now too. He explodes on everyone to get attention. When he explodes he gets taken aside and talked to calmly while DS gets in trouble. Usually DS doesn't do anything but nephew acts like he did which then gets DS in trouble. Or if he does something nephew makes it seem like it's a lot worse than what really happened. I watch what happens and when I call nephew out on it he calls me a liar and storms off(he said DS punched him in the face when he didn't at all, he didn't even push him or put any hands on him. I told nephew I watched it and DS didn't punch him he yelled at me screamed I'm a liar and storms off...) it upsets me this child has no actual consequences to his actions because as soon as he starts screaming everyone just backs off. I don't know if it's because they don't want to rock the boat or what but it really gets on my nerves.

I was so over it yesterday that I told my mom the news I'm expecting in a text message instead of how we were originally planning to tell them. It was such a bad experience and made it all difficult to be joyous and happy...

Jenniebug7 · December 2013

NellyBluth said:

Jenniebug7 said:

NellyBluth said:
FIL pointed out to me, "This is the same woman who wanted you to give formula to DD and put cereal in the bottle when she was two months old. You're doing fine."
Awe at least FIL is supportive of you and what you are doing.

True. He even gave me a special card at Christmas, thanking me for being a great wife to his son and an awesome mother to his granddaughter. He's a big sap, but it means the world to hear those things every now and then.

Yes, it is I agree. I like men who are saps! Makes it so much better. Sounds like FIL is a good one.

tlc35 · December 2013

I'm feeling a bit sad about being alone on Christmas yesterday. I am working OOT and DH and I are celebrating "Christmas" on Friday so I am looking forward to that.

nikiz628 · December 2013

Im sure I am not alone on this, but I pretty much avoided FB yesterday because I swear there were 100 "Merry Christmas, We're Expecting!" posts. The one that irked me the most was a 19 yr old girl who is the daughter of a family friend. She has a 2 yr old and a husband in the military. She CONSTANTLY complains on there about how its soooooo hard being 19 with a 2 yr old and having a husband deployed (he's home now). And her life is just so awful and blah blah blah... While I am sure its extremely difficult to have a spouse deployed, its seriously annoying to read her sob story on the daily. Now, she is now just THRILLED that they are expecting #2. For real? You seem like you can't even handle yourself, let alone child #1.

Jenniebug7 · December 2013

nikiz628 said:
Im sure I am not alone on this, but I pretty much avoided FB yesterday because I swear there were 100 "Merry Christmas, We're Expecting!"
Now, she is now just THRILLED that they are expecting #2. For real? You seem like you can't even handle yourself, let alone child #1.

I got on Briefly yesterday because I just wanted to wish a Merry Christmas, and the first thing I seen, and positive HPT. I couldn't stomach that so I immediately got off and never wrote Merry Christmas. One day, it will happen, one day. Poor girl, that bothers me so much when parents complain with the one(s) they already have, its like uh dont you know how this happens? It can be prevented

Jenniebug7 · December 2013

tlc35 said:
I'm feeling a bit sad about being alone on Christmas yesterday. I am working OOT and DH and I are celebrating "Christmas" on Friday so I am looking forward to that.

Hugs! It does stink to have to work on holidays. DH did too, so Christmas is on Saturday

kleigh926 · December 2013

My little cousin is 13 and she is such a brat. She is seriously one of the rudest children I have ever encountered in my life. And my aunt and uncle don't do a thing to correct her behavior. They just let her do what she wants and don't seem to care that she's rude. She answered the door when DH and I went over for our annual Christmas Eve gift exchange, and she just rolled her eyes and walked away. No smile, no hello. Later, a gift that my aunt got her was too small, so she put it back in the bag and threw it on the floor. I'm glad that I'm not expected to buy her gifts, because I wouldn't anyway. She's so ungrateful.

jenmcD11 · December 2013

I should have gotten my period on Dec 23rd, just in time to fully enjoy the festivities, but instead it comes this morning. Thanks a lot for ruining my drinking plans over the holidays AF, only to show up now. Bitch.

nyg2042 · December 2013

Christmas Eve...

MIL: Won't it be so great to open presents once we have grandkids?

FIL: I've decided we aren't having any.

Thanks asshats - especially considering I would have been due this month...I really hope my future children do not inherit your social skills.

divinemsbee · December 2013

@nyg2042 Ouch. Asshats indeed. I really hope that H and I are able to model how to express anger to our kids. Backstory: H's mom is the queen of passive aggressive, and his dad just lets it ride. So H really never learned how to deal with anger either expressing it or someone expressing it towards him. When he gets mad, it's full-on almost movie-style anger. Shaking hands, low voice yelling (does that make sense), storming around, walking away. He lights up real fast and it takes him forever to get over it. Today was pretty quiet, he was playing a game, I was watching TV, and I asked him to take one of our dogs out. H didn't put him on a leash, because there was no one out and this dog comes when called. H also didn't go out with the dog. Well, I walk in the kitchen, the door is opened but the dog is still out, so I call him and right when he gets to the door he sees people walking and makes a run, I call him, he stops before he hits the street, I apologize to people (the dog's a barker, but nothing else, but that can still be scary) and bring the dog in. H loses it to a degree that is almost comical. It's hard to keep a straight face because he gets so over-the-top mad it's almost like he's acting. I really don't want our kids to grow up afraid of a hair-trigger temper and the ridiculous theatrics. Re: the dog: I'm calling tomorrow when housing is open to see if we can fence our yard just so we don't have that happen again.

Pintobean39 · December 2013

LindsRockies said:
DD #2's 1st birthday is in a week. She's been sent a gift from MIL & my mom, but no one else. Not a card, anything.

I don't care about the gifts (a 1 year old doesn't need anything really). However, our entire family acknowledged DD#1's first birthday and made it special for her.

I know DD#1's birthday is so close to Christmas, but if you are going to make the effort to do that for grandchild #1, you should do it equally for grandchild #2.

It's not about the material things, I just want my second daughter to be treated equally, and it hurts that she isn't.

My boys are the same way. My youngest bday is dec 22 and for his 1st bday his paternal grandparents didn't even show up but they bent over backwards for everything my oldest did.

I'm really pissed now. My ex inlaws have pics of my oldest son everywhere in their house. I sent them a pic of my youngest son at his homecoming dance. Well I just went to my oldest sons house to drop off something while he's not there and I went to look in his fridge. I'm always worried he's broke and doesn't have food and so I bring groceries when I go over but I didn't this time so I just wanted to make sure he had food. On his fridge was the pic I gave the grandparents.

So the grandparents gave the pic to my son. They have no pics of my youngest at their house and they wonder why he doesn't go visit them that often. He's 15 now and not stupid he sees it now just like I've seen it since the day he was born.

Irishcurls · December 2013

Amazingly the holidays were ok. Until breakfast this morning, when my step mother's pretentiousness was just too much to handle. Not only did she leave grapes out of the fruit salad because WHERE would one find local and organic grapes this time of year??! The horrors. She also implored me not to be one of those women whose brains "turn to mush when they have children." Ok, but I'm not promising anything.....

Pintobean39 · December 2013

LindsRockies said:

Pintobean39 said:

LindsRockies said:
DD #2's 1st birthday is in a week. She's been sent a gift from MIL & my mom, but no one else. Not a card, anything.

I don't care about the gifts (a 1 year old doesn't need anything really). However, our entire family acknowledged DD#1's first birthday and made it special for her.

I know DD#1's birthday is so close to Christmas, but if you are going to make the effort to do that for grandchild #1, you should do it equally for grandchild #2.

It's not about the material things, I just want my second daughter to be treated equally, and it hurts that she isn't.
My boys are the same way. My youngest bday is dec 22 and for his 1st bday his paternal grandparents didn't even show up but they bent over backwards for everything my oldest did.

I'm really pissed now. My ex inlaws have pics of my oldest son everywhere in their house. I sent them a pic of my youngest son at his homecoming dance. Well I just went to my oldest sons house to drop off something while he's not there and I went to look in his fridge. I'm always worried he's broke and doesn't have food and so I bring groceries when I go over but I didn't this time so I just wanted to make sure he had food. On his fridge was the pic I gave the grandparents.

So the grandparents gave the pic to my son. They have no pics of my youngest at their house and they wonder why he doesn't go visit them that often. He's 15 now and not stupid he sees it now just like I've seen it since the day he was born.

Ugh, I'm sorry @pintobean39. It's heartbreaking isn't it? I dread the days when my youngest will be old enough to notice.

My youngest didn't start noticing it until he was about 10 and it caused him lots of extra stress. He has highly functioning aspergers so I don't know if that's part of the problem because he's "different". I know as a parent how hard it is to watch, I love my kids equally and just can't stand to watch one get more attention than the other.

Hopefully just because of the holidays everything is going to just be a little late. Having a bday at Christmas time sucks the big one too!!! My son learned a long time ago no one shows up for his bday parties so we do something special every year. I take him and a couple of friends off somewhere to do something fun, we've been doing that since he was 6.

MissMandyD · December 2013

The first two gifts I opened were a framed picture from my grandmother of my grandfather who passed away less than 2 months ago followed immediately by a picture of my new born nephew. I started crying when I opened the one of my grandfather because we were close and I miss him very much and then I starting crying inside and feeling terrible when I opened the picture of my nephew. I felt like I was looking a picture of the girls I lost who would be 10 days old right now and instead I am back to square one TTC again. Gut punch.

The rest of the holiday was good but just a really shitty way to begin.

ADH0906 · December 2013

Yikes at all the cringeworthy holiday stories! Mine was fairly uneventful, except that this is the first time I've seen most of my family since the wedding this summer and I knew they'd be in baby watch.

I was feeling good about the high temps during my TWW, so CD1 on Christmas Eve was more of a gut punch than usual. So it especially hurt when my BIL asked if I was eating for two when I was loading a plate with Christmas dinner. No, asshole. I've jut gained good old fashioned fat, not baby. Thanks anyways.

lebradford · December 2013

ADH0906 said:
Yikes at all the cringeworthy holiday stories! Mine was fairly uneventful, except that this is the first time I've seen most of my family since the wedding this summer and I knew they'd be in baby watch.

I was feeling good about the high temps during my TWW, so CD1 on Christmas Eve was more of a gut punch than usual. So it especially hurt when my BIL asked if I was eating for two when I was loading a plate with Christmas dinner. No, asshole. I've jut gained good old fashioned fat, not baby. Thanks anyways.

Ugh. Who the fuck says that? I'm sorry. I hope you said something snotty back.

Pintobean39 · December 2013

How awkward!!!

My son broke up with his girlfriend of about 4 years right after Christmas. I'd already bought her Christmas present a Keurig coffee pot. I mentioned it to everyone on a FFFC that I may keep it for myself and I did. So it's sitting on my counter, I'm in love with it now. She shows up at my house this evening unexpected and I know she saw it. She knows me well enough I've never used a coffee pot I use a French press or a Chemex pot. BUSTED!!!!!

I'm blaming on you all because when I mentioned it everyone liked it!!!

catmagick · December 2013

OMG mine were kind if crazy this year. H's family usually does Christmas, and no one could keep their communication straight as to what/when/where we were doing anything. I also received word on the 23rd via mail that I would not be getting the job of my dreams that I had interviewed for on the same day I had a huge temp dip telling me I was out this cycle (and I had been feeling so hopeful about both of these things!!!) H and I both got sick and have been in bed all day (not in the fun way) and because of this I couldn't go visit my aunt today. No fun :-(

ADH0906 · December 2013

macylynn27 said:

lebradford said:

ADH0906 said:
Yikes at all the cringeworthy holiday stories! Mine was fairly uneventful, except that this is the first time I've seen most of my family since the wedding this summer and I knew they'd be in baby watch.

I was feeling good about the high temps during my TWW, so CD1 on Christmas Eve was more of a gut punch than usual. So it especially hurt when my BIL asked if I was eating for two when I was loading a plate with Christmas dinner. No, asshole. I've jut gained good old fashioned fat, not baby. Thanks anyways.
Ugh. Who the fuck says that? I'm sorry. I hope you said something snotty back.

What an ass.

He didn't mean anything by it, so I'm feeling lenient. They're fairly lacking in social graces. And by fairly, I mean that he was raised by wolves.

TravelingCouple · December 2013

Geez I'm so sorry for everyone dealing with crappy people over the holidays

My rant is also about shitty people. I'm so sick of how naive most people are to getting pregnant. MIL and I were chatting about my getting pregnant. She knows I miscarried in August which is 4 months ago.. She says to me "how do you feel about adoption? You know, if you can't get pregnant." It's been FOUR fucking months! And with my long cycles, I've had 3 periods since then. I hate how people think it should happen right away and, if it doesn't, there's automatically something wrong. I didn't bother getting into charting bc not one single person I've told that I chart has been understanding. I always get "why?" Or "isn't that stressful? What's the point? You ovulate 2 weeks after your period." -.-

prncsz · December 2013

WTF body CD21 and no O and spotting ugh please get it together! And we went out of town for Christmas and my temps have been in 96 area just started charting/temping last month but my temp stayed in 97 range until O. One good thing is that we got to BD on the day I saw EWCM on CD 19/20. So O please come thanks management !

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