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Jeveritt11Jeveritt11 member
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Hello all. I really hope this doesn't sound as if I'm ungrateful, I don't intend for it to I'm just a little hurt and need to vent.

A and I have been together for 4 years. Up until April of this year I was not welcome in her parents home (super religious and all that). Our LO B is almost 3 months old. A has a niece and 2 nephews who are 10,12, & 13. I am B's bio mom and A is in the process of adopting her. So anyway we go to the inlaws for Christmas today and all open presents and all that fun stuff. Well her parents get B a little toy riding car thing (for ages 1-3 but that's beside the point). Anyway these cars are around $25 at toys r us. Her niece got a tablet from them
And her 2 nephews got an Xbox one. I realize B is still young but it bothers me they spent a ton on the other grand kids and just a little on B. I know there's not much a 3 month old can really play with, but dang they could have gotten her a zoo membership or put money in her college fund. My family has always been very fair where gifts are concerned. Maybe I'm just overreacting a little, I just feel like because she isn't biologically their grandchild she's always going to get the short end of the stick.
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    trisholiotrisholio member
    I can understand that being upsetting.  I would try and focus on the good and have your wife discuss it with her parents, if it continues.  I know this is difficult and it shouldn't be this way, but some people just don't get it.
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    mwagner25mwagner25 member
    IMHO, I would be thankful that they gave a gift for baby. I don't think how much money was spent really matters. Gifts for babies tend to be cheaper than gifts for teens. I wouldn't dwell on it, enjoy the gift, and take it one year at a time. If it continues to be a problem every year I could see being upset about it. But after the first Christmas, I say give them a chance and don't get too worked up over it.
    Same sex couple, Married 8/6/11
    Baby Oliver born 11/27/13

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