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Trying to move on....

BKRR0913BKRR0913 member
in Late Term and Child Loss
Hi... I guess I would first like to express my sincere condolences to whoever is reading this. Obviously, we are all on this board for a similar reason. My first pregnancy led to a miscarriage at 12 1/2 weeks...d&c on 11/27/13 the day before Thanksgiving. I'm still trying to find a way to get through this and begin to move on. Anyone have any words of advice or thoughts? My husband and I seem to think that after the holidays things may be easier...
BFP 09/2013....missed miscarriage diagnosed 11/27/2013 size 12weeks 3days...D&C same day.
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  • irons633irons633 member
    (((Hugs))) I have suffered two late 2nd trimester losses most recently October at 27 weeks. I lost my son last year at 19 weeks the day before Thanksgiving. I will say that the holidays will be difficult and you and your DH will have to be kind to yourselves and allow the grief to take its course. This group is wonderful and offer great support!! Here for you!!
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  • BKRR0913BKRR0913 member
    Thank you for sharing. We had so many plans for the future with our baby and they are all just gone now. Is it okay to feel like this? They tested the chromosomes and said it was a sporadic miss. We were told we can start trying again in February. Now I just have to find a way to heal. I hear it gets better with time, I don't know though it has been almost a month and I still feel the same as I did.
    BFP 09/2013....missed miscarriage diagnosed 11/27/2013 size 12weeks 3days...D&C same day.
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  • angelsnightangelsnight member
    I'm so sorry for your loss...don't feel the pressure to move on right away, or ever really.  Losing a child is something you eventually move forward with, but you never really move on.  A big saying around here is, it's ok to not be ok.

    You're of course welcome here, however most of the ladies here have had later term and/or stillbirths here, so you may also find support and help on the miscarriage/pregnancy loss board.  Be good to yourselves, especially with the holidays right around the corner.
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  • BKRR0913BKRR0913 member
    Thank you for your help. I am new to this...went to the miscarriage/pregnancy loss board. Good luck to you all and again sorry for your losses.
    BFP 09/2013....missed miscarriage diagnosed 11/27/2013 size 12weeks 3days...D&C same day.
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  • stefugestefuge member
    I am so sorry for your loss. ((Hugs))
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    DS1 born 6/5/10 at 40 weeks via emergency c-section due to fetal distress and IUGR caused by placental insufficiency
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  • PoisonivesPoisonives member
    I'm sorry that you are here in this group. I too lost my baby the day before Thanksgiving. The 3 holidays are not helping at all. Just take your time to heal and a big hug to you.
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  • BKRR0913BKRR0913 member
    @poisonives, Im so sorry for your loss. I feel like my entire world was just flipped upside down. When it initially happened I was so overwhelmed with unexplainable emotions. On thanksgiving I went to my husbands grandmothers where all of his aunts, uncles and cousins were. as soon as I saw their faces I just couldn't stop crying. We were planning to announce to everyone that day we were expecting.
    BFP 09/2013....missed miscarriage diagnosed 11/27/2013 size 12weeks 3days...D&C same day.
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  • BrandyD06BrandyD06 member
    I am so sorry for your loss. I too have had a miscarriage at 7 weeks and lost my daughter when she was two weeks old. with my miscarriage we had not only told everyone but bought a crib and my husband had set the baby's room up just the week before. It was my first pregnancy so with all my other ones I was super scared. I was depressed and it took a long time to truly heal. I think because my miscarriage was fairly early in my pregnancy I healed quickly as I hadn't had that time to bond. I know it's hard but get out and try to continue your normal life as much as possible but if you find some days all you can do is cry, then do it. It is part of the healing process, trust me. Time does ease the pain but it never truly goes away to where it doesn't exist.
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