Are you effing kidding me??!!

Hopeful1981 · December 2013

We just returned from our Christmas celebration with my ILs. Yes, I realize our June 2013 babies are too young to understand Christmas, Santa, opening presents, etc. But seriously--not ONE SINGLE PERSON bought a Christmas gift for our LO. NOT ONE. DH is one of seven kids, so not one aunt or uncle or even the GRANDMA for fuck sake bought him a gift. Not that he really needs anything or is old enough to want anything...but still. It is Christmas. It makes me sad. Especially since there were other kids there and even a one year old who received gifts.

JessicaKS · December 2013

That's super strange...

Hopeful1981 · December 2013

Oh, and also while we were there MIL wanted to borrow $25 from us to give to the boyfriend of her granddaughter as a gift. But nothing for your own grandson?!?! Your own grandson who will be the one male to carry on the family name, the first grandson born in over 20 years? Really?

DaisyDuck40 · December 2013

That is weird.....

summer2times · December 2013

Wow. Don't get upset but how is your relationship with DH side? What did he say?

CindyRelluh · December 2013

The grandparents got nothing? Weird.

Maelara · December 2013

Wow. That's rude. He won't remember this Christmas, but you will. It's not like babies are expensive to buy for either.

GalLaura · December 2013

Horrible

Monkeybutt80 · December 2013

Maelara said:
Wow. That's rude. He won't remember this Christmas, but you will. It's not like babies are expensive to buy for either.

This. It's crazy that the grandparents didn't get their grandson anything.

KellenHi21 · December 2013

I'm so sorry, that would hurt my feelings.

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WasNotWas · December 2013

Just adding how shitty that is. Good thing it happened on Christmas Eve so it won't ruin your Christmas Day

Murphie82 · December 2013

That is really strange. Are you seeing any of them today (Christmas Day)? It's just kind of unimaginable that not a single person got him anything.

tttwalters · December 2013

we were at the ils last night and they got lo a book. DH's siblings got our lo nothing. I thought it was weird, especially after my fil and his wife had asked us for things that were pretty expensive. Then they didn't get anyone anything and got our lo a book.

LBeez13 · December 2013

KellenHi21 said:
I'm so sorry, that would hurt my feelings. (

This exactly!

nikel13 · December 2013

That's super sad. I think they deserve gifts too!

CoffeeBeanFiend91 · December 2013

Seriously?! Wtf. I hope you told th hell no when they asked for money

Junemom2013 · December 2013

That's odd...I had family who usually get me nothing send a gift to my lo.

Murphie82 · December 2013

And in my sleepy haze I totally forgot to say - I'm really sorry...I'd be hurt by that as well.

Cricket81 · December 2013

This kind of happened to us too! We had Xmas last weekend with my parents and inlaws and they were generous to LO, but for actual Christmas we drove 5 hours to be with my extended family. There are over 20 close family members here. One aunt got LO a shirt and my grandma gave him some cash. He's the first baby in this generation! I was not expecting a lot and I don't want to sound greedy, I was just surprised since so many people got gifts for everyone else.

HeartLikeMine3 · December 2013

Wow, I'm so sorry. That is upsetting. What kind of people can resist buying baby Christmas presents anyways?

ChristyD6 · December 2013

I'm sorry that sucks

At least you don't have to write them a thank you note and lie about how nice it was to see them.

TheTamedShrew · December 2013

Soooo, your LO is old enough to be aware that he's spending Christmas in another country, but not old enough to appreciate a Christmas gift.

Your MIL sounds like a peach.

Eta: whoops never mind. I got your post confused with GalLaura's.

cynthia2007 · December 2013

Wow, that's crazy. Sorry. That does suck

kmkaull2 · December 2013

I'm sorry, that is crappy and I'd be hurt, too.

I don't expect extended family (my aunts, cousins, etc) to get my kids gifts. We have a big family and once you start, I am not sure where you'd draw the line. But immediately family is different. I would probably send out an email next fall saying something like, "Just so I'm clear are the kids exchanging gifts this year?" A little passive aggressive, but hey. ;-)

Nix55 · December 2013

That sucks. I'm so sorry.

clairmeij · December 2013

This stinks, I'm so sorry. This would hurt my feelings.

Ballet513 · December 2013

That sucks. I'm sorry. Did you and H get gifts for any of the other kids that were there?

Hopeful1981 · December 2013

candynicole26 said:

Wow. Don't get upset but how is your relationship with DH side? What did he say?

Relationship with ILs is okay, honestly we don't see them a whole lot. The family is weird. Literally no one calls DH ever. Even his mom. If DH didn't call people, offer to bring LO over to their side of town, they just would not see LO. But then when we do see them, or DH does call them, they complain they don't see LO enough. They were all very generous at the baby shower and before LO was born, we got a lot of really nice things from them (which I always wrote TY notes for). DH was a little confused by the no presents thing as well. Since we see them rarely I have never had a negative interaction with them but DH argues with his mom and sisters fairly frequently. Although there has not been a recent argument.

@Ballet513, no we did not get gifts for the other kids. The other kids are the children of DH's niece and there is not a close relationship and we had not seen them in two years. It is just odd to me that DH's sister and mother bought those kids gifts (they would be their great nieces and nephews and great grandchildren) but didn't buy anything for their actual nephew and grandson. There is a huge age difference between DH and his siblings (his siblings are my parents age) so our LO is the first grandchild born in over twenty years. For example LO's cousins on DH's side (like only the children of his siblings) range in age from 22-37.

lioness13 · December 2013

That's so weird! His family sucks!

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