Pregnant Woman Kills BIL (vent) UPDATE

km_md · December 2013

So I posted on the shower thread about how BIL smashed a motor into my house while I was at my baby shower a month ago. In doing this, he destroyed the eaves trough that runs along our house to take the water away from the driveway. Our weather has been really up and down with snow, and rain, and freezing, and melting, so I knew that we would have water running all over the driveway from this broken trough. I told DH that he better get his brother to hurry up and get it fixed before I fall either pregnant or with a newborn one day.

Well, it happened.

I was taking the dog out this morning, and all of the water from yesterday was frozen. Even with my boots on, and trying to walk carefully, I fell.

I didn't fall on my belly, or feel any pain when I fell, but I am freaking irate right now. I told him that this would happen. Our driveway isn't big, so you can't just walk around to another spot. And now I'm going to have to see them all at Christmas and pretend that I'm not pissed about how disrespectful and irresponsible they are. I am sure that I will be fine, and baby girl will be fine, but the point is that it could have gone much worse and he's had a month to get this damn thing fixed.

Thanks for reading!

**Update**

After sitting around for a bit, I was pretty crampy and I'm a worrier, so I decided to just go to the hospital to get everything checked out. I went straight to L&D and they did an NST on LO. The worst part about the experience was the drive there (we got a ton of unexpected snow!) but LO is doing well!! The doctor advised that I relax and do kick counts to make sure that baby keeps moving well (I was already doing kick counts for my OB, so that part is really no different). I figured that everything would be fine, but I would never forgive myself if I didn't go in and something was wrong, and I am just so thankful that baby girl is alright.

Thanks again ladies!

MeganWorden · December 2013

I am sorry! I would murder my BIL and H too!

PreDempsey · December 2013

Cue murderous rampage. I'm glad you both are ok but unless he's there fixing it right now there is always a chance you could fall and not be fine. I'm assuming you're going to have to cross your driveway between now and delivery so I'd raging until it is fixed.

blue_elle · December 2013

Oh no! I don't think I'd be able to hide how pissed I'd be. BIL needs to get his a$$ in gear.

litzo27 · December 2013

I would have DH hire someone and present BIL with the bill. Ideally for Christmas. And no reason to pretend not to be irate. You are and you have the right to be.

Siblynika · December 2013

Screw being nice. He's had weeks to fix HIS mistake. I don't care if it's Christmas Eve, the man needs a fire lit under his rear before something more serious happens.

juliasmama2010 · December 2013

I fell two weeks ago and didn't go to L&D because I felt fine and baby continued to move ok. My OB told me to always come to get monitored for at least 4 hours after a fall as the placenta can get rattled/detach. I would go to L&D and then make them feel horrible about having to spend Christmas Eve in the hospital!

jmdaisy2 · December 2013

First, I'm glad you are alright. I'd say be careful but obviously you are trying your best and it is just not a safe circumstance

I'd be beyond infuriated, and there is no way I could pretend on Christmas just because. I'd definitely say something and tell them that it sucks they are risking you and your baby's well-being and that they've had a month to fix it. That is definitely not ok, and I'd make sure they knew it.

LabPupLuv · December 2013

litzo27 said:

I would have DH hire someone and present BIL with the bill. Ideally for Christmas. And no reason to pretend not to be irate. You are and you have the right to be.

This! I'd be so pissed...

cpm1223 · December 2013

juliasmama2010 said:

I fell two weeks ago and didn't go to L&D because I felt fine and baby continued to move ok. My OB told me to always come to get monitored for at least 4 hours after a fall as the placenta can get rattled/detach. I would go to L&D and then make them feel horrible about having to spend Christmas Eve in the hospital!

I was thinking the same thing....OP I know you said you didn't get hurt but if it were me, I'd go in to just get monitored and make sure that everything was ok. It sucks that it happened especially today. Oh and also I wouldn't tiptoe around the fact that you're pissed off. This needs to be dealt with so that you don't have to worry about another fall.

sugarland726 · December 2013

I'd be fuming.

csandroo · December 2013

Ugh. That's awful .. I think y'all oughta tell BIL you fell maybe start a fire under his ass and give him a wake up call. Glad you're not in pain!

megs12914 · December 2013

I agree with everyone. I think death is the only option.

bensmommy518 · December 2013

agree with PP that you should still go and get checked out or monitored at least. My OB also told me that even little falls or accidents can have serious consequences that don't have obvious symptoms (like bleeding or no movements suddenly) and that is why they want you to call for every fall or accident. I would also not hold back with family how pissed off you are. This should have been fixed weeks ago and it is not okay that it is not done.

jinkybink · December 2013

I hope you are okay. Agree with PP you should get checked out just to make sure everything is okay. Then release the wrath of hell on those two!!!

brideandbreve · December 2013

Your BIL is a douche bag. Falls are no joke when you're pregnant or holding your little one. Please go get checked out, though - just to make sure that you and baby are safe.

lolinshag · December 2013

Oh no! I am so glad you are ok!

valigrl21 · December 2013

Oh my gosh - I would be so angry! How frustrating that he hasn't fixed it yet!

And I agree with juliasmama2010, as much as it would suck to go to the ER on Christmas Eve, you probably should go in just to make sure everything is ok.

jessicat2283 · December 2013

I'm sorry you fell. There is no need to pretend you're not mad. You & baby could've been hurt!!

nolagal79 · December 2013

Glad everything checked out okay! Now, where do we need to bring the shovels for BIL!?

wedbliss5 · December 2013

That sucks! As others said, you have every right to be angry. Meanwhile, you should have DH fix it ASAP so it doesn't happen again since your safety is most important. I wouldn't wait for BIL to get his shit together.