Ok, I'll start a conversation... What is the best BF advice you've gotten (from this board or anywhere)?
My DH spent a lot of time "not wanting to rock the boat" and when things finally did really blow up, I encouraged him to fight for a more detailed CO because It cost us a small fortune, but it's been so worth it. Everything is spelled out and we went as far as creating a calendar that lists all of his days including meeting times.
Re: Best advice you've gotten...
To fight like hell when there is a battle worth fighting.
You cannot change it control what happens around you, but you can control how you react to it. In the middle of drama, you can still choose to remove yourself from it.
To take the high road even when you think getting down and dirty with the pigs would be so much more satisfying.
One of the best things I have have learned here is in regards to my marriage:
To not make excuses. It took me a long time, but I think I am finally at this point. What is my fault is on me. What is not my fault is not mine to feel responsible for. My H, for example, I don't make excuses for him like I used to. That doesn't mean I don't love him whole heartedly. It means I acknowledge and accept his faults and choose to love him anyway.
And probably the best thing I have ever learned:
Love is not a feeling, not an emotion, not a whim of the heart. Love is a conscious choice that requires action, work, and dedication. Love is ultimately self-sacrificing. And you can choose to love someone even when though they do not reciprocate.
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I treat her like she is slow because she is. I used to think ... There is no way she is that stupid. No one is that stupid. She is trying to hurt us or SD. Nope just really that stupid.
It's a daily thing of falling down and trying again.