Ugh!

kgs0505 · December 2013

What is with this girl? She is back at my neighbors again! And I know they are home this time. I need to find a way to deal that doesn't involve either extreme anger or an anxiety attack.

kgs0505 · December 2013

I know! It just pisses me off to no end.

BellaBean76 · December 2013

I'm sorry. Just try to think about all the fun you will have with the kiddies on Xmas day!

danuli8 · December 2013

Can you talk to the neighbors? I would try and find out what they are hiring her for or whatever and see if they can find someone else. If I were your neighbor and I didn't know how much anguish this woman's presence was causing you, and you told me, you bet I'd do something to try and help you out.

tondraluv · December 2013

Ok I want to fly to where you are & whoop this girl's ass. She needs an ass whoopin (no not a whooping but a Compton ass whoppin). It just infuriates me because it brings me back to my situation & how these desperate skanks can be so bold. Ugh, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this

JSS1002 · December 2013

I'm so sorry. I don't know how you have the restraint to not have done something about this already. We are here for you.

kgs0505 · December 2013

tondraluv said:
Ok I want to fly to where you are & whoop this girl's ass. She needs an ass whoopin (no not a whooping but a Compton ass whoppin). It just infuriates me because it brings me back to my situation & how these desperate skanks can be so bold. Ugh, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this

I'm just a few hours away by car @tondraluv! I'm im riverside county just north of the san diego county border.

kgs0505 · December 2013

danuli8 said:
Can you talk to the neighbors? I would try and find out what they are hiring her for or whatever and see if they can find someone else. If I were your neighbor and I didn't know how much anguish this woman's presence was causing you, and you told me, you bet I'd do something to try and help you out.

I've thought about it, but they are friends, and I'd basically be asking them to choose between her and me. and her mom is their daycare provider sooo....
I think she's just visit today, but freaking bold to be there with her car parked right where i can see it.
Not to mention i'd have to tell them what happened, and i don't think i want to go there.

KrisM86 · December 2013

I don't really have any advice but I just wanted to let you know I'm sorry and I'm so angry for you! This girl needs her ass kicked.

MKC12/22/2006 · December 2013

I haven't exactly gone through what you have, but I do have to see my dad's ex-mistress on a pretty regular basis (small town). Here's how I look at it: I forgave my dad. He is the one who made the vows to my mom, not the other woman. She is just a messed up person who must be pretty damaged to have chosen a married man to get involved with. It's not worth placing the blame on her. That said, I've had lots of time to process all this (years), and for a long time I was very bitter. That relationship ended my parents' marriage, and my life significantly changed for the worse as a result. However, I can definitely say that my current outlook on the situation is much better for my own mental health.

I'm sorry your DH put you in this horrible situation, and I hope things get better for you. Hugs!

tondraluv · December 2013

@kgs0505 WAIT TIMEOUT.......I didn't realize you were that close! You're close to @jillibean68, I can be there in two hours!!!!

Meggs2559 · December 2013

@tondraluv, Can you Skype us all in so we can back you up?! We got this for you, kgs0505!!

Remind yourself of the beautiful baby who gets to experience Christmas for the first time. Really, who wins in the end? She's just a lonely, disparate woman who is jealous of the life you live!!

kgs0505 · December 2013

MKC12/22/2006 said:
I haven't exactly gone through what you have, but I do have to see my dad's ex-mistress on a pretty regular basis (small town). Here's how I look at it: I forgave my dad. He is the one who made the vows to my mom, not the other woman. She is just a messed up person who must be pretty damaged to have chosen a married man to get involved with. It's not worth placing the blame on her. That said, I've had lots of time to process all this (years), and for a long time I was very bitter. That relationship ended my parents' marriage, and my life significantly changed for the worse as a result. However, I can definitely say that my current outlook on the situation is much better for my own mental health.

I'm sorry your DH put you in this horrible situation, and I hope things get better for you. Hugs!

I am Working on not allowing her space in my head. i just realize i am still angry at my dh everytime i am confronted with her. truthfully, my dh is more to blame than her. she's just a stupid 21 yo who can't live by her own moral convictions. my dh is much older than her and had authority over her since he had her working for him as an admin. but seeing her just brings to the forefront all my anger i didn't realize was still so close to the surface. the thing is, i don't have to forgive her, but i certainly don't want to see her anywhere around me.

kgs0505 · December 2013

tondraluv said:
@kgs0505 WAIT TIMEOUT.......I didn't realize you were that close! You're close to @jillibean68, I can be there in two hours!!!!

Love you Ladies!

Aprilbaby49 · December 2013

I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I admire you for having the strength and control to keep from attacking that girl (as I probably would). I can't imagine how hard it just be to see her so often.

No advice here just offering support and letting you know we're all behind you. Hope you enjoy your Christmas with you family.

arschm02 · December 2013

danuli8 said:

Can you talk to the neighbors? I would try and find out what they are hiring her for or whatever and see if they can find someone else. If I were your neighbor and I didn't know how much anguish this woman's presence was causing you, and you told me, you bet I'd do something to try and help you out.

If I were your neighbor I'd want to know that the skeezy whore might try yo sleep with my spouse.

tondraluv · December 2013

@tondraluv, Can you Skype us all in so we can back you up?! We got this for you, kgs0505!! Remind yourself of the beautiful baby who gets to experience Christmas for the first time. Really, who wins in the end? She's just a lonely, disparate woman who is jealous of the life you live!!

You know it!!!

tondraluv · December 2013

@tondraluv, Can you Skype us all in so we can back you up?! We got this for you, kgs0505!! Remind yourself of the beautiful baby who gets to experience Christmas for the first time. Really, who wins in the end? She's just a lonely, disparate woman who is jealous of the life you live!!

You know it!!!

kgs0505 · December 2013

kravenmoore said:
Have you had it out with this girl yet, since all of that happened? By "had it out", I mean, verbally or other. If not, then you really need closure. A yelling-at-her session is exactly what is in order for your peace of mind and closure. You have every right to tell her how you feel.

I am sure you have dealt with your husband's side of the puzzle, but have you dealt with hers?
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I have wriiten letters to her which i have not sent, nor do i really intend to. the thing is, i'd have to purposely seek her out to talk to her and i really don't want to. i don't even want to look at her. he behavior disgusts me. plus i'm not in a place where i could keep myself under control enough to not cry and that is something she should never see.

i am clearly still really pissed at my husband, but i'm not sure how to deal with it either. i guess we need to talk about it, but i don't want to. besides, what is he supposed to do to help me get over my anger that he isn't already doing? I don't have a good answer to that, so i don't know what good it'll do to bring it up qnd focus on it. ugh! I really can't believe i am dealing with this crap. if you knew him you would think he was the last person who would ever cheat.

lilbit0910 · December 2013

im with tondra on this one!! she needs a whoppin indeed

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