Let the Christmas guilt-tripping start!
tealowl
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Every Christmas, I deal with this.
DD's Dad and I trade Xmas Eve/Day every year. This year, he has her for Eve, and I'll have her for Day.
My Mom is hosting her side Xmas Eve.
So is S/O's moms.
Then theres my Dad's side.
Then my Mom wants a time where it's just me/DD/my brother/S/O only.
So does my Dad.
My brother and I have told our parents it's just impossible for this to happen 'perfectly' every year. There's DD's schedule, my work schedule, my brother works 2 jobs, and S/O. My Dad is pouting because he's not getting 'a whole day' with us, even though he acknowledges it's too difficult to do, unless we do it a weekend after Xmas or something.
My brother works Xmas Eve and I'm only going to S/O's side, so my Mom is bummed that she won't see us then. But, we're going over there for dinner on Christmas Day when I have DD. That's not good enough apparently.
We're going to our Dad's Thursday night for dinner, but Dad doesn't like that because S/O and I won't get there till 5pm because we work. My brother is going there all day w/DD to pacify him a little.
I get guilt tripped every year and I hate it.
"Your truth is different from my truth, and we're both right."
TTC since March 2013. BFP 4/13/13, blighted ovum discovered 6/6/13, m/c 6/8/13.
BFP 11/10/13, EDD 7/25/13 - stick little owlet!
Re: Let the Christmas guilt-tripping start!
I've told them that DD has her Dads side that loves her just as much, I don't pout when I don't have her for some holidays, because she's enjoying it either way.
S/O shouldn't have to cut his family time short just to pacify my Mom, when we are going to see her the very next day, and my Dad the day after. This arrangement should be making everyone happy.
ARGHHH!!!
"Your truth is different from my truth, and we're both right."
TTC since March 2013. BFP 4/13/13, blighted ovum discovered 6/6/13, m/c 6/8/13.
BFP 11/10/13, EDD 7/25/13 - stick little owlet!
The other day my Mom sent out a family e-mail trying to figure out who's bringing what food that night (this is common, our family is huuuuge).
But, she sent it to me and my brother even though she knows we can't come and wrote, 'I know you two can't come, just sending this to you anyway =['.
It's like, why would you do that? WE don't need to know whose bringing which food, you just wanted to let everyone know that your kids are such assholes and can't come. Sorry your son works two jobs and ones a night shift. Sorry my S/O works all day. Sorry I don't want to rush through 2 families in one night.
"Your truth is different from my truth, and we're both right."
TTC since March 2013. BFP 4/13/13, blighted ovum discovered 6/6/13, m/c 6/8/13.
BFP 11/10/13, EDD 7/25/13 - stick little owlet!