Act your age please. (Vent)

Tylynngrace · December 2013

This might be long, sorry ladies. So lately I've been noticing more and more that my parents baby the shit out of my brother which is actually two years older than me. Examples, they pay his car insurance, wire money into his accounts, cook and clean for him, and are planning on getting him a new car and making the payments. He's a grown ass man and should be doing this himself! And it really irritates me cause the littlest thing could happen and my parents run to his side. Like his girlfriend broke up with him and my mom called him like three times or more a day to check on him. I'm having a hell of a time with this nicu situation and they ask me maybe once a day and interrupt me when I'm trying to tell them by saying something about my brother and tell me I'm being insensitive towards him.

Sorry for being so whiny but I needed to get it off my chest.

ChuggingWater · December 2013

I hate that for you. Sometimes the squeaky siblings gets more attention.

ashleywiz · December 2013

That is the classic difference between mom's and girls and mom's and their boys. It wouldn't matter if he was older or younger. From what I've noticed between friends (and in my own family)-- the boys are babied WAY harder. In fact, my hubs is the oldest of all his siblings, and his mom calls to make sure he's 'doing this' or 'taking care of x' and I'm positive she doesn't do that with my sister in laws.

My step-brother is insanely babied and it drives me banana sandwich. I remember being in HS and when I got a 'B' I was grounded for a week.... this kid skipped school for MONTHS and my step mom called and got all of the absences excused. I almost crapped myself. He didn't even get in trouble for it. Outrageous I tell you. [Though I'm certain this is an extreme story because I cannot fathom this happening to many other people]. Now he's in college and he calls because he forgot to pack a certain sweater and told her to mail it to him (he's a freaking hour away and has plenty of other clothes)...and she did it. When I was in college, the *only* time I asked to have some things sent that I forgot (and I was 3 states away)- I was given a lecture about responsibility and how it's my fault I forgot those items. They were sent, but with much grief given before, and long after the 'favor.' Bubkiss. haha

Wow that turned into a much longer story/bitchfest than I anticipated.

ETA --- Also I'm an inconsiderate prick for not even commenting on the fact that I'm completely upset for you!! She should have the utmost concern for you and her grandbaby over your brother and the latest girlfriend drama!!

I hope she comes around and gives you the support that you need. Giving you big hugs!!

Tylynngrace · December 2013

@ashleywiz that's awful that they give you so much crap for doing nothing wrong. These are the moments when I wish I was a guy.

Siblynika · December 2013

That's such a crappy situation

I can't believe she's not acting more concerned for her own grand child. Sending you creepy internet hugs.

[Deleted User] · December 2013

@tylynngrace I'm so glad your son is doing well. It sounds like he's in the same boat as Jacob, learning to take that bottle! Hopefully the journey in the NICU will be short from here on out. I find that no matter what any of my family members say, it's never the right thing. I decided a month ago that I would just tell them the basics and move on. I can't deal with anyone else's drama when I have my hands full with my baby boy.

DHs brother is a total mamas boy and I have to hear all about him before his mom even asks how her first born grandchild is doing. Ughhh. Whatever though, it won't break us. Ignore and move on >:D<