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January 2014 Moms
pennstated912
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XP from GPM: T&Ps request
pennstated912
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DH's great-grandfather is 97 years old. He has been struggling with his health for the past 6 months (nothing specific, just being 97 and things shutting down really). Well, today he officially took a turn for the worse and the doctor's are saying that he doesn't have much time left. Days, maybe.
DH seems to be okay but his dad and grandpa are really struggling with coping with the fact that he will be gone before the baby arrives.
Any T&Ps you can spare would be great. I'm heartbroken our LO won't meet him. He's been an amazing addition to my life and LO would have loved him.
***update***
DH and I went to go visit him in the hospital. He's in congestive heart failure, is on 100cc of morphine an hour and looks like he's really struggling. However, we got him to smile. DH told him that we have a baby boy coming and suddenly you could see the life behind his eyes again. Doctors say that they are keeping him "comfortable" though.
I told my mom we aren't coming for Xmas Eve. It's at my aunt's house an hour away from our hospital and it's supposed to snow tomorrow. At 36 weeks pregnant, it's a bad idea for me to go regardless, but this happening solidified that I shouldn't go. My mom is currently throwing a hissy fit like I told her I'm staying home because I want to eat Cheetos and play guitar hero.
Am I irrational for thinking that I shouldn't go? I feel like at 36 weeks pregnant, if you live more than an hour from me, you should come visit me. Plus, she's making me feel like I'm dumb for being there for DH and his family.
DH seems to be okay but his dad and grandpa are really struggling with coping with the fact that he will be gone before the baby arrives.
Any T&Ps you can spare would be great. I'm heartbroken our LO won't meet him. He's been an amazing addition to my life and LO would have loved him.
***update***
DH and I went to go visit him in the hospital. He's in congestive heart failure, is on 100cc of morphine an hour and looks like he's really struggling. However, we got him to smile. DH told him that we have a baby boy coming and suddenly you could see the life behind his eyes again. Doctors say that they are keeping him "comfortable" though.
I told my mom we aren't coming for Xmas Eve. It's at my aunt's house an hour away from our hospital and it's supposed to snow tomorrow. At 36 weeks pregnant, it's a bad idea for me to go regardless, but this happening solidified that I shouldn't go. My mom is currently throwing a hissy fit like I told her I'm staying home because I want to eat Cheetos and play guitar hero.
Am I irrational for thinking that I shouldn't go? I feel like at 36 weeks pregnant, if you live more than an hour from me, you should come visit me. Plus, she's making me feel like I'm dumb for being there for DH and his family.
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Re: XP from GPM: T&Ps request
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sibling love
I am in a similar situation. My grandfather is very sick and hospice only expects a few more days. I was really hoping he would get to meet LO at least via Skype (he lives in another state), but it doesn't look like that will happen. So I understand what you are going through!
BFP #5 11/15/14, Team Green EDD 7/22/15
BFP #4 4/30/13, baby girl born med-free Jan. 2014
BFP #3 9/24/12, Missed m/c at 9w1d (baby measured 8w5d)
BFP #2 9/23/10, healthy baby girl born med-free June 2011
BFP #1 5/21/10, Missed m/c at 10w4d (baby measured 8wks), D&C 6/29/10
"Life is like a camera, just focus on what's important and capture the good times, develop from the negatives and if things don't work out, just take another shot."
He's not even gone yet and I already thought about this. I'm a bad person.
Partially Complex (my blog)
Honestly, I would probably still go to your aunt's (assuming you even want to). If something does happen, you're only an hour away to get back to support DHs family. If it was a parent or grandparent my answer would possibly be different, but it doesn't sound like YH is super close to g-gpa -- moreso it's his dad and cps that are having a hard tome (which is completely understandable!) You wouldn't have to stay long at your aunt's if you do go.
But, if you choose not to go then your mom does need to back off and understand your reasoning. Good luck dear.
Edited to finish my thought.