Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Mrs Nice
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Re: Loss Check In
Continuing with therapy. Allowing myself to understand I can enjoy the holiday with my family and grieve at the same time.
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
Trying to get my panic attacks under control.
QOTW: What is your plan for getting through the holidays? Any ideas on how to make it easier on yourself?
Went to therapy and support group. That was good.
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
We will be back to trying to concieve our rainbow after the new year. I'm excited, and nervous
QOTW: What is your plan for getting through the holidays? Any ideas on how to make it easier on yourself?
It will be low key. I'll be working part of the day anyway. Not going to any big family gatherings
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? Miss my girl, this should be her first Christmas.
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We got through celebrating Christmas with my family yesterday and it was a lot better than I was expecting.
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
Getting through the end of the year and then focusing on being more healthy and taking better care of my body. Still on the fence about TTCAL but if/when we are ready, I want to be as healthy as possible.
QOTW: What is your plan for getting through the holidays? Any ideas on how to make it easier on yourself?
No real plan, just getting through a day at a time. Thankfully we aren't planning to see any extended family, so that will hopefully be easier.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
Feeling appreciative of my family. At our early Christmas yesterday, every member of my family gave me a beautiful thoughtful gift in memory of Colton. it was really special.
Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? I'm at a standstill, it feels add though its getting harder and harder to deal with.
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
To get healthy in the new year
QOTW: What is your plan for getting through the holidays? Any ideas on how to make it easier on yourself? I just plan to stay busy busy.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? I wish this were all a dream
Not really anything new...just allowing myself to cry and be sad when it comes..but also to laugh and be happy too!
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
Well my next goal is to get AF as we have to wait at least 3 cycles before TTC again...I mean lets get this show on the road!! I don't have a plan for this because obviously its out of my control. But if I have not gotten it by the first of the year I'm going to call my doctor.
QOTW: What is your plan for getting through the holidays? Any ideas on how to make it easier on yourself?
Well I think just talking about Carter and having his scrapbook out for people to see to invite the conversation will be good. Also...wine!
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
I'm looking forward to the holidays. I am continuously taking inventory of my thoughts feelings and emotions and even though I do have bad days..I would say I'm doing fairly well overall.