what would you do? santa question

Re: what would you do? santa question

• jennOK member

  December 2013

  I don't think his behavior will magically change in one day. He needs a long-term behavior modification plan.
  
  Saying that, this is what I would do to start that long-term plan. I would bring out the wrapped gifts and not let him open them.
  
  I would tell him Santa came and brought gifts, but he also brought a letter. I would write a letter from Santa talking about how disappointed he's been in LOs behavior,be specific. And I would include in there something positive about how I know he could do better.
  
  I would name specific things that I wanted him to do better on. Make a list. And I would also include in there that Santa has told the parents not to give him his presents until there has been improvement on specific things.
  
  I would hang the letter and some kind of tracking chart on the icebox, or somewhere prominent. LO gets a sticker every time he meets a goal that's been set. Once he's accumated a predetermined amount of stickers he gets to open one gift.
  
  With someone that young, I'd set the first goal so that he'd get to open one present that day. Then I'd start adding to what I expected and increasing the goal before he could open another.
  
  Just my thoughts.

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• BC&LM member

  December 2013

  What would I do if I were you responding to her question, or what would I do if I were your friend?
  
  If I were you, I wouldn't touch that question with a ten foot pole. Giving parenting advice is such a touchy subject, even when people ask for it. Somehow someone always seems to get feelings hurt when it comes to parenting advice on the big issues like discipline.
  
  If I were your friend, though, I would work on more positive reinforcement with my kid. Rather than punishing him for the negative all the time, praise him for the positive. Also, if the behaviors/issues seemed really deep-rooted, I might even seek counseling for him with a professional who specializes in counseling children. Maybe there is some bigger issue causing him to act out.

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• Junemom2013 member

  December 2013

  I didnt answer it...im a ftm with a 6 month old. no experience to go on and I'm not about to make up advice as if i have a clue about 6 year olds yet lol.   the responses she has gotten on fb so far seem to all be against it.  I was just curious how others would handle it. 

  
  

  I like some of the advice others have given her so far...one was to do the elf on the shelf with a note from santa and a sticker chart for good behavior.  I just cant see punishing a kid on xmas though...seems cruel to me, especially since he has a sister and she would still be getting gifts. 

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• Maelara member

  December 2013

  I think you're right about them needing to implement a long-term behavioural plan. Christmas Day, however, is NOT the day to start this.

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• jennOK member

  December 2013

  Maelara said:

  I think you're right about them needing to implement a long-term behavioural plan. Christmas Day, however, is NOT the day to start this.

  I agree with this. I was just commenting on how I would handle the idea or "plan" she already seemed to have in mind.

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• PinkPuffyHeart2 member

  December 2013

  Some children never get gifts on Christmas. While I am all for positive reinforcement and long term management, presents are a privaledge, not a right. He wouldn't be getting anything from me.

   

   

  

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