Have questions - am I just expecting too much?

amd1982 · December 2013

Hi ladies. First off I'm very sorry for anyone that has to be here. I wish you all the very best in your healing process I have a couple questions I'm hoping some of you might be able to help me with. We had a whoops pregnancy and I was very early on probably on,only about 5 or 6 weeks. On Thursday I went in for an ultrasound and the tech saw a gestational sac intrauterine pregnancy but no yolk sac. She did see a secondary yolk sac whatever that is and told me that's a good sign but said it was too early to see anything else. She made a follow up appt for me on 1/2. She kept asking me all these weird questions like had I been having pain, etc. to which I replied no. Fast forward to Friday morning. On my way to work I stated getting mild cramping and a backache. When getting out of the car I felt a sudden gush of blood and went into the bathroom to see bright red blood. To my knowledge there was no tissue just blood. My husband called me OB for me since I had a meeting that I could not miss. I don't know how I held it together but I managed to for an hour. My docs office closes early on Fridays but it just seemed odd to me that they basically told my husband I'm miscarrying and just to keep my follow up doc appt for 12/26 where I just had planned to see my doctor. No bloodworm, no ultrasound, no nothing. The blood and cramping ended pretty quickly and although I had some brown blood the following morning it ended very quickly with minimal cramping. Although I'm very sure that I did miscarry, I know SCH's are common as well. I'm just frustrated that my doctors office wasn't very compassionate. Knowing the holidays are here wouldn't they understand my wanting to know if I indeed lost the baby? I'm wondering if I'm expecting too much for my doctors office to fit me in for some kind of appointment tomorrow whether it's bloodworm or an ultrasound to confirm the pregnancy is no longer viable. And also, shouldn't they be checking to ensure that the miscarriage is complete? I'm just very confused at their lack of concern for my situation. I've had issues with this office in my past pregnancy so I'm not sure if I'm just looking for a reason to be upset or if I'm justified in my feelings. Thank you so much for reading this. Sorry it got a lot longer than I expected.

E&B0811 · December 2013

I am so sorry for your loss and that you find yourself here.

Wit very early losses, it's not unusual (in my experience) for doctors not to see you right away. I imagine that on 12/26 they will do bloodwork or an us to confirm the mc since you previously saw a sac.

One thing I have learned from my 3 losses is that you have to be your own best and most vocal advocate. So, that said, if I were you, I'd call the office and tell them that you need to be seen on Monday. Explain that you are having a suspected miscarriage and need to have it resolved/confirmed so you know how to proceed.

Good luck.

sjanine · December 2013

I am sorry for your loss and what you are experiencing.

I am in a similar situation with myself and the doctor's office. On Saturday I started bleeding with slight cramping so I called my doctor's office after hours and the PA (which is not my normal doctor) said that really isn't anything that can be done if it is a miscarriage, that I should just handle the bleeding and call my doctor next week to see what she may want to do. I felt that he suggested I "brush it off" and didn't have any sense of urgency to confirm what was going on with my body.

In my opinion I feel that the doctor and yourself should know for sure what is happening. That is the only way to prepare yourself in the future!!

Good luck to you and your family.

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