Parties with the LO

LokiLahve · December 2013

So who has been to a party or get together with lo? How many people were there? How was the atmosphere? How did lo do?

S is usually very easy going, she is rarely fussy (we are very fortunate). We went to a friend's holiday party tonight and she flipped a switch, cried huge tears, bottom lipped everyone who tried to talk to her and clung to me for dear life. This is very unlike her, although there was a LOT going on. Kids were everywhere, there were probably about 15 adults and maybe 10 kids. I realized she hadn't been in that stimulating of a situation before, poor baby.
I'm not really wondering if anything is wrong...she's a baby, it was probably scary. Just wanting to hear other experiences.

kwrecks · December 2013

My LO started doing the same thing when she's with people she doesn't know well. My mom told me it could be the start of a "stranger danger" phase.

EmR22 · December 2013

Went to a baby shower and LO did fine and let a few people hold him. But he doesn't eat much when we are out and about. There is just too much going on to concentrate on a bottle. Even if it's just a few people (like tonight at my sisters). It's like if he isn't home he just doesn't like to eat much.

thoughtfulmommy · December 2013

This same exact thing happened to us today. LO is pretty calm and chill. We were visiting family, most of whom he has never met. It was loud because there was multiple conversations and many different people wanted to hold him.

He lost it about three times and each time everyone suggested I feed him. When I did try to feed him he would my eat. It was very difficult to get him to take a nap as well.

DH and I discussed it on the drive home. We think now that he is more aware, LO was overstimulated and wanted to be around the people he knew.

I think I will be utilizing @petey1106 strategies over the next few days when visiting for the holidays.

nnikki10 · December 2013

Yep on thanksgiving she got really overwhelmed and was super fussy. I'm sure Christmas will be the same. Me or my mom would just take her to a quiet room and let her decompress a lil bit.

PB102012 · December 2013

We are at my parents' house for the weekend. She did good for the most part during the day, let people hold her, and was in a good mood. However (I know this doesn't really relate to your question), going down tonight was a challenge. No one was quiet, we got comments from people who wanted to snuggle with her and were annoyed that she was going down for the night, and my brother repeatedly came into the bedroom while I was trying to get her to sleep. Long story short, I am looking forward to going home back to our quiet house tomorrow. I apologize for thread jacking you with my vent.

kkay1982 · December 2013

LO usually does really well. We have dinner at a friends on Tuesday nights and it ranges from 10-30 people and can get pretty loud but LO is normally really good. Every once in a while he gets peopled out.

TexasGirl81 · December 2013

H has a large family, and they live very close. They usually come by about every other Saturday. I've realized now everytime they come she pretty much has a meltdown. They are simply to loud, she's getting passed around and well it all just pisses her off. Needless to say, I now limit a lot of shit when they are around. I can't stand to see her like that every single time. She does fine elsewhere. /:)

Revez · December 2013

We went to H's work party a few weeks back. There must've been about 50 people there. She was fine for the most part but then became really fussy and comfort nursed for about 2.5 hours. This seems to be the going trend with her whenever she's in an over whelming situation.

The ILs arrived today:

and all day she was either nursing or trying to sleep or fussying. They would.not.leave.her.alone. I was so pissed. She took 4 hours to fall asleep. Only 13 more days to go.

(this probably belongs in bitchfest monday. Don't worry, you'll hear all about it then.)

PB102012 · December 2013

@Zever000 hang in there! It's going to be a long 13 days I am sure. We will have a bump gtfo party on day 12 for you.

Revez · December 2013

christy32685 said:
@Zever000 hang in there! It's going to be a long 13 days I am sure. We will have a bump gtfo party on day 12 for you.

I'm holding you to that!

jennme · December 2013

kwrecks said:

My LO started doing the same thing when she's with people she doesn't know well. My mom told me it could be the start of a "stranger danger" phase.

This and I agree that it is probably a little bit of over stimulation. Our Lo is the same way…very easy but lately we have gone to a few get togethers for Christmas and the same thing happens. It happened at Thanksgiving too.

shootthemoon · December 2013

My little man was my date for my sister's Christmas party tonight. There were only about 15 people and her son is 8 weeks old so we had all the understanding and baby resources we needed. I will say it would have been easier to enjoy myself if DH had been able to come and help me, but I'll settle for wearing him all night, 1/2 a glass of wine, and no meltdowns.

rh10264706 · December 2013

@Zever000 hats off to you! I would lose my mind if my ILs were with us for 2 weeks. I will think about you when I am annoyed that mine are here for 3 nights. Good luck!

Caz1221 · December 2013

We took LO to our neighbors' holiday party last weekend, and she did great, was very quiet and observant. However, we were only there for a little over an hour (didn't want to push her bedtime too late), and there were only about 10 people there when we left. Plus, no one but DH and I held her, so I think she felt like she could safely observe from our arms. She also seems to thrive in social situations like that, and if she does get overwhelmed, I just take her to a dark, quiet room, and she calms down.

LokiLahve · December 2013

Funny a lot of you mention thanksgiving....we went to the IL's. It was a 10 hour car ride and there were about 20 people there on thanksgiving and lo did GREAT. She was passed around like a hot potato and smiled the entire time. Funny how just a few weeks can change their personality. I do think it was overstimulation and just being more aware if her surroundings last night.

BabyE143 · December 2013

My LO reacted the same way just a couple days ago. H gave E to BIL and she started to bawl because she didn't know him. She warmed up quickly though after he talked to her and held her for a bit. The first time happened at my moms funeral in October, the second at Thanksgiving. She's becoming aware of her surroundings and that means whose holding her too.

mommabmb · December 2013

etc35173 said:

Surprisingly, DS tends to put on a show for everyone at parties. He is normally not a very fussy baby to begin with unless he is tired or hungry but he always seems to be on his best behavior when we have company or take him places. It is tough to get him to nap for more than 20 or 30 though. If he seems to be over stimulated sometimes DH or I will just take him into a quiet room for a few minutes which helps.

This is Joel, too. He's a ham... he likes to show off. We also have issues with napping, but he hardly ever seems overstimulated- and if he is just a few minutes of quiet seem to calm him down. I guess it's just personality.

LJUTCMommy · December 2013

We went to a kids bday party with DD and she was great. We were only there for about 2 hours and I wore her the whole time.

I have also noticed she doesn't like nursing in new environments.

However, on Friday some ILs were over and she was screaming and fussing the whole day. They wouldn't leave her alone and I was at work. They kept pressuring DH to feed her more- like that was the reason she was upset.

Well I was gone 7 hours and she had nearly 20 oz of breastmilk. Yeah, she normally has 8-10.

I think it is a stranger danger phase. She hadn't seen the ILs much.

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