Sleep training help PLEEEASE!

shadysladyWed98470 · December 2013

Sorry if this was discussed recently but I've been MIA for a while and may have missed it. I know many of you have done the sleep training already and are doing well with it, but I'm still rocking LO every night and going in during MOTN as well. We've tried the CIO method at 5 and 6 months but I can't bear to hear him scream for that long and I cave. What other methods or strategies can you suggest? I'm off work for 16 days and I'm determined to make this happen before I go back to work January 6. TIA

ClandestineX · December 2013

Well another way I put Connor to sleep is by him laying in my bed and I lay him down. When he lifts his head up, I push him back down to a laying position. This might go on for a while, but he will get tired and go to sleep. This might save your back if you want to stop rocking, but don't want to do CIO. Then you can transfer him to his crib or whatever when he is asleep.

I still feed him in the middle of the night and he goes right back asleep most times.

arschm02 · December 2013

chgibeau said:

Specifically what CIO method did you use so we know what you've done. Extinction, intervals? What were the intervals? Intervals didn't work with DS. Extinction works much faster with less crying. You could try a trade down. Check out ISIS parenting sleep webinars. They detail out loud of different sleep training.

Same here. Sleep trained by day 3.

shadysladyWed98470 · December 2013

I've tried both, I think. At 5 months I tried leaving to room and not going back, and he would scream bloody murder for 30-45 minutes. Then I'd pick him up bc he was so upset. Then at 6 months I tried going back in to soothe without picking him up, going back in every 5 minutes or so. Then tonight I tried leaving the room completely and he literally screamed for almost an hour. I know if I just pick a strategy and stick with it, I will have more success. But with all these trials I definitely know I can't bear to hear him scream.

AprilloMom · December 2013

How did he do when you did 5 min interval? Did he eventually fall asleep? For my son (at 6 months) it took about an hour the first night we went in to calm him down at 5, 5, 8, 10, 12. Each time I went in I actually picked him up and calmed him down and then laid him down. I know picking baby up sometimes makes it worse, but I think it helped him. I even held him for a couple of minutes each time. The last time he calmed down as soon as he saw me and I just patted his back for a minute or so. Are you doing it for naps too? I was told once you start do it the same way for naps too so baby doesn't get confused why he is rocked to sleep sometimes and not others. I think you are right and may need to bare down and stick with one method. I read it can take a week or so but with my son it only took that one night and maybe 3 other longish cry session. Now he goes to sleep with maybe two mins of fussing. And I went back to nursing him to sleep at night because I missed the cuddle time.

he does occasionally wake around 5 to nurse and go back to sleep. hope you find something that works. I wanted to cave so bad the night we did it!

burneyonboard · December 2013

I need to start sleep training too because this is how I've been sleeping lately! LOL! We can do it girl

Aprilbaby49 · December 2013

Sorry you're still dealing with sleep issues with your LO. We did CIO to extinction too. Checking on him made it worse too.

It is difficult to listen to him crying but it was the best thing we did for us and for him. Whichever method you choose just be consistent and follow through. Consistency is what's effective for learning. Good luck!

Eta: spelling 12 hr night shifts = poor spelling in the morning lol

arschm02 · December 2013

I would do it for naps too. It makes them learn so much quicker if every time they go to sleep its consistent.

Debbie0580 · December 2013

I couldn't do CIO with my son either. He would get so worked up and I just felt it wasn't for us. We had luck with the No Cry Sleep Solution with him. Luckily DD has been a better/easier sleeper so we haven't had to use any method with her (yet).

NicoleSB80 · December 2013

chgibeau said:

Intervals didn't work with DS. Extinction works much faster with less crying.

This exactly. We tried intervals for almost a week the results in both me and LO crying half the night. Extinction lasted 40 mins the first night and 25 the next. Now we know if she doesn't stop crying in. 5 minutes we need to go in an check on her.

FWIW we still fed twice a night. 1130ish and 430ish. Sucks a little but better than 10 wakes a night we were doing just a couple months ago.

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