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3 kids, Youngest 10 months, Just found out I'm pregnant:(

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Looking for some support.  Long story short, We conceived our oldest who is almost 6 naturally.  Then we couldn't' get pregnant.  We tried for two years then sought out help.  I had a VERY low egg count and fibroid tumors.  Dr. said the only way he thought I could conceive was IVF.  We wanted to try IUI first so we did that with Clomid and it took the very first time.  We had another little boy.  We decided to try again fairly soon so when he was 15 months old we did IUI and Clomid again (we never used protection from the time our second was born until we did iui again).  We  got pregnant on the first try again and I ended up with a Heterotopic  pregnancy which is an ectopic pregnancy and a uterine pregnancy at the same time.  So essentially a twin pregnancy.  We lost the one baby in my tube and they also removed my left tube because it was damaged.  We had a healthy little girl and our family was complete. 

 We agreed that we were done and that we wouldn't do fertility treatments again.  We laughed it off that "just wait...we'll end up pregnant with my low eggs and one tube".  Well it happened.  We tried for years and never had any success. Now I am kicking myself that we didn't have my only tube tied during my c-section.  I am having a very difficult time accepting this pregnancy.  I feel very selfish.  I was overjoyed at the success we had in getting pregnant in the past.  I don't know what to think.  I will have a 6 year old, 3 1/2 year old and an 18 month old when this baby is due.  Part of my worries is that my husband isn't around that much.  I am pretty much a single mom.  He is a pilot and travels a lot.  He is usually home about 2-3 days a week.  I am scared I won't be able to juggle it all, that my family will think I'm nuts.  I finally lost all my pregnancy weight and now will gain it all back, and I get HUGE (9 lb babies) beach ball size.  This will be my 3rd c-section which scares me to death.  My last c-section my Dr. mentioned that I had a lot of scar tissue. We moved and now I am closer to family which will be helpful, but still very overwhelmed.  I guess I was just needing to vent.  My husband seems fine with it all, but he is not here 24/7 so it's hard for him to understand where I am coming from.  My tube will be tied after this.  Thanks for listening.
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Re: 3 kids, Youngest 10 months, Just found out I'm pregnant:(

  • FmrAFBratFmrAFBrat member
    You will manage & do great. It will be okay. I love how they tell you your fertility is significantly reduced after you lose a tube....doesn't always happen that way. See siggy.

    FWIW twins run on both sides of my family, so with my ODS they knew I O'd on both sides when I had my 5 week ultrasound to see if he was in my uterus. You can also O on 1 side and 15% of the time the opposite tube will pick it up. Although my YDS was from my left side, where my only remaining tube is.
    TTC January 2010
    BFP #1 10-11-10 ectopic discovered 10-22-10, 10-23-10 methotrexate & emergency surgery, lost right tube BFP #2 12-1-10 Found to be tissue dropped from salingectomy or missed heterotopic pregnancy from BFP #1 BFP #3 1-30-11 DS arrived on due date 10-10-11 BFP #4 Surprise 9-3-12 EDD 5-9-13 DS2 arrived 5-5-13 BFP #5 5-14-14 Emergency D&C 6-16-14 9 weeks
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  • vettymamavettymama member
    Everything will turn out great! I'm sure it will be tough but you're babies will all be loved and you will get into the swing of things before you know it.

    This is what I keep telling myself!
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  • lizziealyssalizziealyssa member
    Everything will work out.  The same thing happened to my mother, and she had 6 kids (over 18 years.)  My Dad wasn't around much.  I'm sure you feel maxed out already, but you are up to the challenge.  Hang in there-it will pass.
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  • rcbukorcbuko member
    I could have written the part of this post about how you solo parent much of the time. My kids will be the exact same age as your kids when our fourth is born and I am also very scared that it will all be overwhelming. I imagine that just as we have developed a system for solo parenting three kids, so will we with four kids. I try telling myself that it will be a rough few years and then all four will be in school and life will be easier.
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