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August 2011 Moms
MrsCase1
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MUST Vent
MrsCase1
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Every year my parents act exasperated over my birthday but not before making a huge deal about how special it should be. Newsflash: I didn't choose to be born in December and if I DID have a choice, I would never wish a December birthday on anyone. But I digress.
My dad informed me two weeks ago we would be having my family get together tomorrow and that my mom would be making chili (the only thing she cooks that I like.) Fine. It is nice to be acknowledged, nevermind nobody asked what I wanted to eat or if I had plans. For their birthdays I always ask them what I can prepare for them as a special treat.
My dad calls me on my birthday not to say "Happy Birthday" but to explain that it's not that they forgot about my birthday, but that it being in December causes a lot of hassles due to the holiday, etc. Whatever. Same speech every year.
Tonight my mom calls from the store to ask if she can make skillet lasagna instead of chili. My husband is lactose intolerant and hates lasagna. Plus, I was supposed to prepare Italian food for Christmas Eve, per our family tradition. She starts going on and on about how it is "a bit too much" that they're expected to cook three times in one week. Um, hello, YOU picked the date and III am cooking the other night. That leaves a birthday meal you insisted upon and a Christmas dinner you insist on being in charge of. What am I missing? So I tell her it is crappy that plans we have had for weeks are constantly changing, and that if she is going to make it seem like my birthday dinner is a burden, then it should be cancelled because she is sucking the joy out of it. So she tells me I have a bad attitude and that I should be thankful that "we're still going to make you a meal." Um, I don't need them to make me a meal. I don't even need to see them this many days after the birthday they didn't even call for. I am OK to move on. They're the ones who insist we get together.
I ended the conversation telling her to do what she wants, and to not turn it around on me to make me seem unreasonable when she is the one who calls to tell me my birthday is a hassle for her. I have about ZERO desire to go over there and pretend like I think they give a shit, knowing they do not. This from a woman who has been stiffed her entire life with a December 26th birthday. The ONLY person in her life who fawns over her or makes it seem like she matters is ME.
I am not a person who cares about gifts AT ALL. But really, I have nothing nice to say about any of my family in regards to my birthday. My husband didn't even bother to get me a card, so he hurt my feelings. My parents pretend like they want to celebrate and then make me feel like a burden. WTF? Leave me alone!
My dad informed me two weeks ago we would be having my family get together tomorrow and that my mom would be making chili (the only thing she cooks that I like.) Fine. It is nice to be acknowledged, nevermind nobody asked what I wanted to eat or if I had plans. For their birthdays I always ask them what I can prepare for them as a special treat.
My dad calls me on my birthday not to say "Happy Birthday" but to explain that it's not that they forgot about my birthday, but that it being in December causes a lot of hassles due to the holiday, etc. Whatever. Same speech every year.
Tonight my mom calls from the store to ask if she can make skillet lasagna instead of chili. My husband is lactose intolerant and hates lasagna. Plus, I was supposed to prepare Italian food for Christmas Eve, per our family tradition. She starts going on and on about how it is "a bit too much" that they're expected to cook three times in one week. Um, hello, YOU picked the date and III am cooking the other night. That leaves a birthday meal you insisted upon and a Christmas dinner you insist on being in charge of. What am I missing? So I tell her it is crappy that plans we have had for weeks are constantly changing, and that if she is going to make it seem like my birthday dinner is a burden, then it should be cancelled because she is sucking the joy out of it. So she tells me I have a bad attitude and that I should be thankful that "we're still going to make you a meal." Um, I don't need them to make me a meal. I don't even need to see them this many days after the birthday they didn't even call for. I am OK to move on. They're the ones who insist we get together.
I ended the conversation telling her to do what she wants, and to not turn it around on me to make me seem unreasonable when she is the one who calls to tell me my birthday is a hassle for her. I have about ZERO desire to go over there and pretend like I think they give a shit, knowing they do not. This from a woman who has been stiffed her entire life with a December 26th birthday. The ONLY person in her life who fawns over her or makes it seem like she matters is ME.
I am not a person who cares about gifts AT ALL. But really, I have nothing nice to say about any of my family in regards to my birthday. My husband didn't even bother to get me a card, so he hurt my feelings. My parents pretend like they want to celebrate and then make me feel like a burden. WTF? Leave me alone!
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