Hi everyone,
I'll be having my third section in early May. I'm already stressing about when to allow visitors and hurting family member's feelings. To provide some background, I had a very bad delivery with DS #1 that resulted in injuries to me and him and an emerg section. Some of my hubby's family members were less than compassionate and even complained about how long they had to wait for the baby to come. Because of this, with DS #2, when we found out that my VBAC was being converted to an unplanned section, hubby did not tell his family until after the section was done and I was out of recovery. To be fair, I also did not tell my family. His mother & sister were extremely upset and didn't speak to us for quite awhile. My family was fine with it. So we know that the next DC will be delivered by scheduled section. We are going to tell them the date but wondering about when we should allow visitors? I know we'll need to be firm because his mom & sister have very little sense of what is appropriate and are extrememly outspoken about their demands. I want them to meet our baby but if they come immediately after I'm out of recovery, I'm worried that I'll barely get a chance to hold the baby. However, I really want my family to be there right away and it wouldn't be fair to allow my family and not his. No idea what a good solution would be....just trying to ponder our options at this point. Thoughts or suggestions?? TIA
DS #1: May 25, 2007
DS #2: Jan 7, 2009
DD #3 due May 17, 2014!!! Low lying placenta and DD measuring 1 week ahead at big u/s
Re: Timing of visitors after a scheduled section
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If you think MIL and SIL will show up regardless, you could ask the nurses to help you. They are usually politely firm about it and some will even state medical reason/hospital policy/doctor's orders that you have no visitors till a certain time post-c/s. To head off issues between families, you should definitely tell them all at the same time. If they're going to be unreasonable again and won't speak to you, that's really their problem and unfortunately there probably isn't much you can do to avoid it.
don't stress about it- make sure you and baby are ready for visitors. if they have to wait, so be it!
DS #1: May 25, 2007
DS #2: Jan 7, 2009
DD #3 due May 17, 2014!!! Low lying placenta and DD measuring 1 week ahead at big u/s
With DD2, my plan was to not have anyone but myself and DH there for the same reason. However, on the day I delivered her, my mother passed away so DD1 and some other family members showed up on day 2 to break the news.