NBR: Removing a Door to Discipline a Child???

arekeweg · December 2013

So a friend of mine posted on Facebook tonight that her husband took the door off their seven year old daughters room to punish her for slamming it shut. I guess she flipped out about it being taken off too.

Am I the only one that's never heard of doing this? It really surprised me that this was the form of discipline they chose to use. Maybe I'm the only one?

Edit: spelling

LovetoLive614 · December 2013

Happened to me. I kept slamming my door so my dad took the door off. I was much older than 7, probably at least 13 and it was only for a few days. I'm pretty sure I kept forgetting to turn lights off throughout the house so he took all lightbulbs out of my room for a day or two.

To me, it was kind of funny, was better than being grounded or yelled at and I learned my lesson really quick.

LegalLadyBug · December 2013

BrightEyes112 said:
I've heard of parents doing it to teenagers who are caught doing bad things in their room.

My mom took my sisters door off in high school after we discovered her drug stash. Seems a bit extreme for a 7 year old but I'm guessing its not the first time they had issues with slamming the door.

verydisgruntledpelican0091 · December 2013

I fully believe in it.
Privacy is a priveledge, not a right.
IMO - mostly to teenagers. I'm sure my kids going to be hell on heels lol

lellymine · December 2013

I had mine taken off when I was 12ish because I kept slamming it when I was mad. It stayed off for a month and it was awful but I never slammed it after that.

skyview222 · December 2013

I lost my door for slamming it for a short while. I was older than 7 though, but I don't think 7 is too young for this kind of punishment. Effective, fits the "crime" and otherwise harmless.

sjn00 · December 2013

If the door ever becomes a problem do to slamming or if they do something wrong and lose that privledge, I have no problem with taking it off. It seriously could be so much worst. But a kid without a door is a tragic event haha. Simple painless (physical) solution.

chaysefaith · December 2013

I would do it. As it is my kids haven't had a doorknob in almost 2 years because they wouldn't stop slamming it. Doorknobs are way easier to remove than whole doors, and they still get to keep their privacy.

kittenslove · December 2013

When I was in 7th grade, I had a girl friend punished for writing dirty notes to an 8th grader. She lost her door, was not allowed on the phone, and had her stereo taken out of her room. She lost these privileges for 6 months.

It worked at first, and I think if the timing had been less extreme, it would have been effective. By the end, she just got really good at being sneaky.

flerlgirl · December 2013

Ha, my brother spent most of his high school days door-less because of slamming it, locking it, and being a buttface in general. I think it's fine.

ahastin1 · December 2013

I lost my doorknob but never my door. Pretty sure my mom just didn't feel like doing the whole thing and the doorknob got the point across. I was older, but same idea an same problem. Makes sense to me!

mschware · December 2013

My fiancés father took the doors off their bedrooms if they were bad too. But that was when they were teens, not 7 haha. But as far as I've heard they said it was actually a good form of punishment because they never screamed or slammed their doors again after that.

mschware · December 2013

I also agree that a 7 year old shouldn't have a shut door. I def wasn't allowed to. I wasn't even allowed to LOCK my door when I was 16!

PinkKEL9 · December 2013

I think it depends on the circumstance. I won't allow my kids to have locks on their doors until they are older teenagers, maybe.

I had a really good guy friend in high school whose parents were SO strict. They were crazy really. Him and his brother both never were allowed to have doors on their rooms. No reason. Just no privacy allowed.

arekeweg · December 2013

I do believe discipline is necessary. I'd just never heard of discipline in this form so was curious how common it was.

Pepper6 · December 2013

I think it's a great idea. Much like when my no used to "clean our rooms" for us... (basically sweeping everything we owned into the middle of the room and we weren't allowed to leave until it was all put away)

Mrs_D_in_KY · December 2013

I don't think it's extreme, if my almost 4 year old kept slamming his door I would take it off.

Too many kids are not disciplined enough nowadays. I always tell my son you may not like me at times, but I am NOT your friend. I am the parent. Maybe that makes me sound like an old fart. But it works for us.

Valie18 · December 2013

I really don't like this idea. I struggled with depression in my teen years. Before I was diagnosed my parents thought that they were 'parenting' by asserting their right to be in my space and limiting my privacy when I was difficult. One day after I was diagnosed I had a meltdown when I found out they had been going through my things. They gave me a lock on my door with the understanding that I had to respond to them through the door. It was the best thing. I finally felt like I had a space where I could breathe.

littlemonstermama · December 2013

I think the punishment should always fit the crime. If the girl is slamming her door, it seems that the only punishment that fits is to take the door away. If she can't handle the responsibility, she doesn't need it. Last year my middle schoolers (I had them all day, not for periods) couldn't handle the responsibility of a trash can. They kept throwing food just outside of it and throwing used tissues into cans without bags. We took the cans away and they had to hold onto all of their trash all day. A little strange, a little funny, but it definitely worked.

fsumom · December 2013

Very logical consequence. And one thing I can vouch for is never judge someone for how they choose to discipline their child as long as they aren't abusing them. I have a 7 year old she can be all sorts of drama these days. If she slammed her door shut, I'd probably take her door off too.

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