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Doula questions...

kboydbowmankboydbowman member
in Natural Birth
So my wife and I are interviewing a potential doula on Sunday.  I've looked at some of the online "things to ask" stuff, but I'm wondering what things people consider most important (besides general connections, obviously).  For those of you who have used doulas in the past, what do you think is most important?  Is there anything you wished you had asked but didn't, in hindsight?
Current pregnancy -
First BFP on 1/4/22.  Due date 9/13/22.

Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.


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  • dmhrn13dmhrn13 member
    who she's worked with (provider wise)
    who she likes & doesn't & why
    mainly out of hospital birth or in- these 3 things are going to change how she guides you- you want someone who is on your page. if you're planning a hospital birth but she's most comfortable out of the hospital she can actually make it more difficult for you at the hospital & with your providers
    will she come to your house
    will she check you (they shouldn't)
    will she help with breastfeeding- but does she have children of her own- this makes a world of difference
    how many births she's attended- you want to know how in tuned she is
    TTC since 1/2008
    BFP 7/2009 m/c
    BFP 9/2009 m/c
    Clomid IUI 12/2010, 1/2011, 2/2011 All BFN
    IVF #1 6/2011 BFN, no frosties
    IVF #2 2/2012 BFP
    DD born 10/2012
    FET 9/3/2013 BFN, no more frosties
    IVF # 3 11/3/13 Canceled after retrieval d/t severe OHSS, 3 frosties
    FET #3 2/2014 BFP Twins!
    B/G Twins born 9/2014 at 36w4d

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  • aylafsu88aylafsu88 member
    The big question I had was how she would handle me when I "thought" I could no longer do it. I wanted someone who would be strong, encouraging, and determined, especially when I doubted myself. My doula gave me a straightforward answer which I really liked. In birth I did ask for something for the pain. My doula told me that LO would be here in a few pushes and I was almost done. She was strong and positive throughout my birth.
    The other thing that I would ask is her experience with babies who are OA or in a bad position. I had an anterior placenta and LO was likely OA. My doula was aware of this and was ahuge help during labor to get me into better positions.
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