My DS who is 3, has been dx with SPD and expressive and receptive speech delays a little over a year ago. Therapies and all that jazz started. He was seen by devel peds about a year ago for first time. She agreed with SPD and speech. States she didn't have concerns over ASD, but too early to rule out. So we continued to follow up every 3 months or so. So this time, she had moved so the director is now seeing him, great it's who we were supposed to see in first place. So my DS had his appt, of course only time was smack in middle of nap time. so nap was skipped, second he has been sick for 2 days which always throws him off, third new person new facility, and fourth lady was over an hour late for our appt. So with a 3 yr old ready to implode, she walks in and says wow he has a lot of energy. I said he gets like this when he is overly tired, sick, etc, not to mention being stuck in a room for over an hour with mom trying to keep him occupied. She then proceeds to basically say that she thinks he is ADHD. I'm like really, what are you basing this on? After all the factors I described she labeled him with ADHD and proceeded to attempt to discuss meds. I said wait just a minute, I am NOT medicating my 3 yr old based on some crap assessment. How about assess him on a normal day without all these extra factors. I mean I was ready to bounce myself off the walls and I don't have ADHD. I said how much improvement we have seen with his speech and sensory stuff with therapies and I am not interested in medications. When his sensory system is balanced he is a typical 3 yr old. His teachers all agree. I am so irritated that my kid wasn't really given a good eval by a very well respected devel peds. Ugg, this crap is hard. Makes me question everything I do every single day with regards to my son. Sorry I just needed to vent and see if other people had experiences like this. She acted totally surprised that I wasn't willing to medicate him. Really?
Re: Devel peds "skewed" eval
Olivia Kate is almost 4!
Diagnosed with autism this year and doing great!
For DS, it felt like the developmental pedi took 45 minutes with my kid and then made a decision. But looking back (and knowing the process better now for how my county works), he had access to all of our records, had reviewed them, interviewed DS's early intervention team, and then filled in the gaps with his own interview and eval. In my denial phase, I made the excuse that the pedi really didn't get a good picture of DS. DH argued that one for months.
If you are not convinced, I would call the office and ask for a follow-up. Write down your questions and concerns and talk them through.
Just as an FYI, some three year olds can sit and wait patiently. My son spent six hours in a hospital with nothing more than a happy meal toy and waited without whining. What do you think is wrong with him if he can wait?
Fredaline, You are correct. I am not saying that any 3 year old can't sit still, I am saying a sensory seeking SPD kiddo with all of the factors involved doesn't automatically qualify for a dx of ADHD. My point in my post was that if you have a child who is sensory seeker, which mine is, and you factor in all the issues, I don't know of one SPD kid who would sit still for almost 2 hours without being a little wiggly. For her to say oh he has ADHD based on this was I think a little unfair. Especially when I told her that this is not his normal. I don't need someone to tell me that when he is "off" he acts up or acts ADHD, I live with him, I know this. But when his sensory system is well regulated he doesn't act like this. I think that before jumping to medicate him when this behavior is a rare thing, look at how he usually is, not a rare circumstance. Any child, regardless of special needs could act like this, doesn't make him ADHD and in need of medication.
Sorry, I just read that "I would question a three year old who sat there for over two hours without becoming irritable" as implying there was something wrong with a child who could sit and wait for that timeframe (and funny enough, I happen to have a sensory seeker who can wait). I wouldn't medicate my child under the circumstances you describe either though. You said your child was previously seeing another doctor in the practice--could it be possible that she read the previous doctors notes, got reports from school, etc and made the dx based on all that vs a wiggly kid who was itching to get out of the doctors office?